Doomed to fail?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and some months now. We were great, happy doing things always together. Slowly she started to introduce negativity saying things like you'll stop loving me one day, things will change and i'd ...
A. 25 December 2009: For the lady who responded first; it was notctge same jokes. If I know it would hurt her then I wouldn't say it. I am not a jerk that would do that. I did ask her how would she feel but in those moments she can't focus on anything but her problems ... (read in full...)
Should I leave? I need an outsiders point of view please..
Q. I find my relationship problems difficult to talk to with my friends and family. I dont like them to see me as weak or troubled or i guess burden them with my troubles so i normally keep everything to myself and try to deal with things. But i have ...
A. 25 December 2009: He does sound bad saying those things and it's pretty ignorant to day racial things if you are in a relationship with different races. He deffinatly disrespected you but how do the fights go about? How do they start? Do you start talkting to him ... (read in full...)
Doomed to fail?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and some months now. We were great, happy doing things always together. Slowly she started to introduce negativity saying things like you'll stop loving me one day, things will change and i'd ...
A. 25 December 2009: You are very helpful. Thank you.... (read in full...)
Doomed to fail?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a year and some months now. We were great, happy doing things always together. Slowly she started to introduce negativity saying things like you'll stop loving me one day, things will change and i'd ...
A. 25 December 2009: Wow some things you said were right on point as if you were right there. That makes me sad because I don't want to leave her. I know she loves me and I her but something has to change.... (read in full...)
Rythym broken during sex..my fault?
Q. often when im having sex with my bf he falls out meaning we hav to pause and out him back in. is this my fault if so what am i doing wrong and how can i stop it happening as it is kinda breaking the rhythm? many thanks ...
A. 2 March 2009: Don't place blame on anyone. Sounds like his penis comes out while you two are having sex. It's because when he moves in and out he probably pulls out too much and you probably move too so that creates too much distance. Tell him not to pull it out ... (read in full...)
Rythym broken during sex..my fault?
Q. often when im having sex with my bf he falls out meaning we hav to pause and out him back in. is this my fault if so what am i doing wrong and how can i stop it happening as it is kinda breaking the rhythm? many thanks ...
A. 2 March 2009: Don't place blame on anyone. Sounds like his penis comes out while you two are having sex. It's because when he moves in and out he probably pulls out too much and you probably move too so that creates too much distance. Tell him not to pull it out ... (read in full...)
Is he gay? Or just experimenting?
Q. my husband likes to have phone sex with gay guys he meets on the party lines and he recently asked me if i wanted to put my dildo in his ass is he gay or just wants to experiment?...
A. 26 February 2009: I don't think he's gay, but you do have to talk to him about his phone sex issue. I think he's talking to them because they can provide his fantasy which is something he's obviously very interested in even if it's just trough the phone. I think he's ... (read in full...)
How to get rid of hair between legs?
Q. What is the best and easiest way to remove hair between legs? I don't like being hairy between my legs and it's somewhat annoying. If you could give me tips, and possibly a new and easier way that would be greatly appreciated. Shaving my pub...
A. 26 February 2009: You don't need all the waxing and shaving... Waxing hurts and shaving gives you razor bumps(sometimes). There are hair removal creams for "sensitive areas" such as bikini lines..etc which you can do your self. It's painles and no razor bumps ;) ... (read in full...)
Can an emotionally abusive man change with therapy
Q. can a self centered emotional abusive man change with therapy or it is a long up hill battle. He only sees things one way his - even if everyone disagrees. He is stubborn. He even gets mad at doormen and if you dont agree with his views on eve...
A. 26 February 2009: The thing i've noticed is that People usually do not change, it's very rare that they do. Sometimes they try but usually fall back into their real self again. Only if they want to change them selves then it might be possible but still very tough. If ... (read in full...)
Are these signs of him wanting to break up?
Q. So my boyfriend always ignores me whenever he sees me, he doesnt call me anymore and when i call him he makes up excuses and says "someone else is calling, ill call you back" and when i say "i love you" he'll say it back but it's more of an "i dont ...
A. 26 February 2009: He either doesn't have the same feelings for you or thinks that you overwhelm him. Try to ease off of him and see his reaction. Don't call him for a little bit or if you do be very brief like nothing is bothering you. This might make him feel crazy ... (read in full...)
My husband is "gay for pay"?
Q. Earlier this week I came home from work and found my husband in the living room on the floor writhing with another guy. The windows were blacked out. I asked him what the hell he was doing, and he was brazen enough to say he was making guy-on-gu...
A. 26 February 2009: People never seem to stop amazing me. I think in this situation I would first as for proof that he's making porn in the form or DVD or website(not that it makes it better that it's tru but you want to make sure that he's not cheating and becoming ... (read in full...)
Size and performance anxiety during sex!
Q. I have had substantial anxiety developing related to my marriage and sex. I was a little bit anxious when we were first married because we did not have sex with each other until we were married. I was rather anxious over size and performance, ...
A. 26 February 2009: What she did to you was discusting and unbelivably imature. I was really trown back by what she's done to you. There is no excuse for that. She either has to change big time or you need to move on because no men or women deserve that treatment.... (read in full...)
What do women 'really' want?
Q. I've come to the realisation that when women talk about they want in men, the words cannot be trusted 100% - sure they may be some truth in what they say but not entirely or either not at all. Actions and behaviour prove the opposite. Women ten...
A. 26 February 2009: Bad boy doesn't really mean someone who likes to hang out in jails, rob banks and such. To some that's a turn on but most just want a guy with an edge especially when the women are younger. I am not really a bad boy, actually i consider my self a ... (read in full...)
How can I get my friends to stop talking about my ex in front of H?
Q. Hi, well I'm having girl problems again like always. My girlfriend (ex now) and I broke up because she said she liked someone else and I appreciated that she told me instead of keeping it a secret and I accepted the fact that she left but I really ...
A. 25 February 2009: The best way is just tell everyone(civilised) infront of H that things are done between you and your ex. She will hear that and that will make her feel better then you can pull her aside and let her know how you feel. Be confident because that will ... (read in full...)
All because of a picture...
Q. My bf wanted a pic of me and I sent it to him twice but he didn't get it... now he is mad at me and won't talk to me.. is this a reasonable issue for him to be mad at me about? I really want to talk to him.. what should I do ?...
A. 25 February 2009: If you truly sent it then show it to him that it's in your sent box and he has no need to be angry. ... (read in full...)
I want to hang out with someone but I have a hard time making friends. I need to get my mind off him...
Q. So my boyfriend and I broke up. I want a relationship but we agreed to be friends and hang out. I am supposed to go to his place this weekend and I can't wait. We had been living together and that meant that I was almost never alone. Now I am moved ...
A. 25 February 2009: I think it's good to do something you like. For example a hobbie(rock climbing, miniature model making, arts and crafts...etc) or something where you can join a local forum or group where people are into the same thing as you. There you could ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he followed through when all the signs say he likes me?
Q. I'd really like a guy's perspective on this please? Why would a guy meet a girl, tell his friends he likes her, give her his number, act like he likes her when he's around her but...not reply to her text asking to meet up or ask her out himself?...
A. 25 February 2009: He's probably just wraped up in everyday life and he forgot about it. Is he a busy guy?
Sound like you might be over reacting because of a text messege.... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he followed through when all the signs say he likes me?
Q. I'd really like a guy's perspective on this please? Why would a guy meet a girl, tell his friends he likes her, give her his number, act like he likes her when he's around her but...not reply to her text asking to meet up or ask her out himself?...
A. 25 February 2009: I don't think there is enough info provided on this but he might just be really shy or nervous.... (read in full...)
I hate having an "All-American" name, what should I do about it?
Q. I am 29 and for as long as I can remember, I've been very unhappy because I hate my name. I don't even identify with it. I feel like I was supposed to be named something else. I want to legally change it, but I don't want to hurt my family. ...
A. 25 February 2009: Bring it up to your family as if you were joking and see their reactions. You never know they might not give you any problems. In reality it's your name, your life and your happiness so if you are not happy just do what your heart tells you. Also if ... (read in full...)
Once she's had her orgasm, that's it! The sex is over!
Q. I have a small problem with my other half and I. We have been together for 5 fantastic years now. Been engaged for 6 months now. When my other half and I fool around she likes me to go down on here, which I like doing. I give her an orgasm...
A. 25 February 2009: It's a bit odd since most men finish before women, however I am sure there is a remedy!
I guess the first thing you should do is ask her why does she not like to go further after her orgasm and if she would like to try going beyond because ... (read in full...)
So many problems... can you help me?
Q. Please please I really need help! I posted a question yesterday is my b/f pervy. I can't stand any more. It's such a long story and I've posted bits over the past few years. I've been with him 12 years, I loved him so much, I stood at the door ...
A. 25 February 2009: In my opinion this guy is a piece of work. He does not deserve you and you shouldn't be with him. I know the thought of that is horrible at the moment but from a 3rd party prospective he's destroying your life, physically, mentally and emotionally. ... (read in full...)
I met the man who said he loved me and now I havent heard from him in days....has he changed his mind?
Q. so i met this guy through a friend...i say met but we only ever spoke on msn and then over the phone. tbh i never had the guts to meet him in real life because i'll be honest i'm not the prettiest girl. so cut to a whole year later, i still h...
A. 25 February 2009: If you guys usually talk/chat alot and he has stopped doing so then that may be a red flag. He might not have the courage to tell you that he does not like you. It could also be that he's just busy but only time will tell you that.
Wish you the ... (read in full...)
Do you think he just doesn't like sex.... with me!
Q. My other half keeps telling me he has no sex drive yet he can watch porn for at least 3 hours a day. Do you think that it's possible he just doesnt like sex? Dumb question I know!...
A. 25 February 2009: Sorry to say but maybe he isn't attracted to you in a sexual way anymore.
How long have you two been together?... (read in full...)
First time handjob advice, please??
Q. My question is quite simple, how do you give a good handjob? I'm in a new relationship but never done one and I want to feel confident about being able to do it properly. Girls and Guys please give me some tips! :)...
A. 25 February 2009: Depends on a few things... is he circumsised or not? I think results vary but the most sensitive area is the head of the penis so if you play over there you won't go wrong. I don't like it rough at all but some do, you have to find that out about ... (read in full...)
I am very sensitive and take things very personally, help!
Q. well first i 10xs all that we are helping each us we can my problem is that i am so sensitive and my bf, he lives far away from me so we dont see each ather just talk by phone and he went out with his friends so i texted him that even that i am no...
A. 23 February 2009: It's normal to be sensitive. My girlfriend is very sensitive as well and I don't have a problem with it. Sometimes it's harder then other times but as long as both of you are willing to compromise for eachother and trust eachother then you'll be ... (read in full...)
How do you regain trust towards someone?
Q. I want to know how you can regain trust for someone, and how do you know when you're ready to forgive someone. My boyfriend cheated on me emotionally a few of months back. He lied to me and had always liked an ex of his and had been seeing her ...
A. 20 February 2009: That changes ALOT! If that is correct then he doesn't deserv you and you should move on.... (read in full...)
I'm sick of him pouting because I'm not ready to have sex!
Q. Ok, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost a month now. :) He keeps pushing the sex issue. I feel I'm not completely ready just yet. And when I say 'no' he pouts! I'm getting a little sick of it.. For example: This morning I had an appt. to ...
A. 20 February 2009: In my opionion(strictly my own) If he can't wait then he's not worth it. I am 23 and i waited 6 months before i had sex with my current girlfriend. I don't think it's bad to wait, i actually think it's better. It lets you know for what reason is ... (read in full...)
His new sex move is amazing, but I feel guilty for loving it!
Q. Dear girls Pse help me with a rather embarrassing question. A few months ago my bf was going down on me and suddenly switched tactics and flicked his tongue across my ass. After a few protestations I had my biggest orgasm EVER and a huge headache ...
A. 20 February 2009: As long as you both enjoy it there is nothing wrong with it. People like all kinds of different things and who's to say what's normal and what's not. Have fun with eachother and stop strssing it! :)... (read in full...)
Why did I let my girlfriend have sex with another man?
Q. I have a real big problem. I've always been a very reserved guy in terms of sex and relationship wise. So is my girlfriend. However, for some reason one day I had the fantasy of seing my girl with another man having sex. However, I liked to keep it ...
A. 20 February 2009: I don't think that it was a great idea. Fantasy are just what they are. Once you actually do something like this things get complicated because there are emotions involved. No this person or that person might start thingking and who know what could ... (read in full...)
How do I resit the temptation to cheat? The urge is strong
Q. I've been looking around on the web for advice to this question, but can't find a satisfactory answer. I have been dating the same girl for three years now, she's gorgeous and I love her, but she has some issues and we don't have sex very often. ...
A. 20 February 2009: You either cut out the temptations in you life or you let her go because she deserves to be happy. If you cheat on her it'll be a really selfish act and then you don't deserve her love.... (read in full...)
Are guys vocal when they get pleasure?
Q. me and my boyfriend are both 14 nearly 15. last night i gave him oral sex and after about 6-7 minutes i gave up and started wanking him just licking up his penis occasionally. he ejaculated a small amount but im worried what he likes, as he just had ...
A. 20 February 2009: All men are different. You have to sit down with eachother and tell eachother that you have to be open with all things if you are in a relationship. I personally am not vocal just my breathing gets heavier. ... (read in full...)
What do people think of coincidences in their life?
Q. I wonder what anybody else has to say about this. I don't know what to do with the coincidences in my life, they are really powerfull. I'm not a religious person, but I can't avoid to see them and wonder ,what do they mean? I can't see any...
A. 20 February 2009: I do that sometimes too. I see 23 everywhere and it's connected to a lot of things in my life. Some people say that it's just random information we focus on and then our mind wants to thing that it's something bigger then it seems and some people ... (read in full...)
Lost in a triangle
Q. Ok this is a very weird, confusing and difficult situation so bare with me. I've never been in love before. I(23) met a girl(24) this summer in July when she walked into my job. She came in with her "boyfriend"(20) and all three of us were talking. ...
A. 20 February 2009: The problem is that he's a pretty cool guy but she said that he's not what he made him self out to be in the beginning and never pays too much attention to her.
Thank you for your answers!... (read in full...)
What do guys like as presents?
Q. its my bf bday soon and i wnt to get ideas on what guys like what should i get him basically? i do have ideas but i wnt to get a guys point of view too thnku:)...
A. 20 February 2009: Everyone is different. Some meterialistic, some thoughtful ... etc. Look at his personality, his likes and based on those choose something.
Your question does not include too many information so it would be impossible for us to pick somethin... (read in full...)
How do you regain trust towards someone?
Q. I want to know how you can regain trust for someone, and how do you know when you're ready to forgive someone. My boyfriend cheated on me emotionally a few of months back. He lied to me and had always liked an ex of his and had been seeing her ...
A. 20 February 2009: Well relationships are about trust and compromise. If you can't do those then it will not work out to be a healthy, lasting relationship. Sounds like he wanted to stay friends with his ex-girlfriend and that's why he was with her. You can tell him ... (read in full...)
I've been in relationships for 4 years and just want to be single!
Q. I don't know what to do. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now, however, recently I met another great guy. I really like him and although I know I should stay with my boyfriend because he has helped me so much in the past and has a good ...
A. 20 February 2009: It doesn't sound like you want to be single, it sounds like you want to be with the other guy and that sounds like lust to me. Usually you like about 80% of your partner and the 20% is dislikes but you compromise because 80% is better then 0%. ... (read in full...)
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