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writes:My other half keeps telling me he has no sex drive yet he can watch porn for at least 3 hours a day. Do you think that it's possible he just doesnt like sex? Dumb question I know!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks i have tried talking to him. and i have offered many things in the bedroom so maybe you are right maybe he is just not interested in me sexually. and we have only been together a year
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2009): Bluntly put: masturbation is easier than sex. Observation: as others have mentioned, if he's watching porn, he likes sex. Porn is a tool to get a temporary high off of - think of it like alcohol or pot. (Un)fortunately, men in general are more visual and physical than women. As women age, they lose their sexual appeal. In a fulfilling emotional and mental connection, men and women at their older ages would still be able to hold a sexual connection if the woman was still able to have a decent-enough physique. As many people cannot and refuse to comprehend, porn is a tool to arouse a person. Some fantasize, others use it to remind themselves of their past and others use it to help get them going. If you can't understand what I'm getting at, think of porn as a drug like viagra. The only difference is that porn has other women/men in it and a drug has no human correlation. Advice: find out what he likes and try to fulfill that with what you are willing and capable of doing. You can also try to be more risque and assertively get him hard for you.
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reader, HCTigerMan  +, writes (25 February 2009):
He maybe addicted to porn or he may just be shy in the bedroom (most likely addicted to porn).
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reader, LampHead  +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Does he just watch it to make himself feel normal..? Even though 3 hours in one day is a lot, and not really normal. Haha.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Recent studies on porography haveshowed that it distorts the viewers perception about what real life and real sex should be. Istead, they become disappointed that their own sexual encounters aren't nearly as exciting as those they have watched.
Challenge him to stop watching porn all together for several weeks. If he holds to it, his eyes should hopefully open to the wonderful woman he has right beside him already (you). If he can't, or won't, then seek couples counseling, and he may need further counseling for an addiction to pornography.
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 If he watches porn, he likes sex. Have you tried watching it with him? 3 hours a day, wow, where do people find this kind of time? Hehehe. Are you worried he has lost his sex drive with you? Maybe changing the style of bedroom behavior is in order.
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reader, 23ConfusedOne23 +, writes (25 February 2009):
 Sorry to say but maybe he isn't attracted to you in a sexual way anymore.
How long have you two been together?
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