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writes:Ok, so I've been with my boyfriend for almost a month now. :) He keeps pushing the sex issue. I feel I'm not completely ready just yet. And when I say 'no' he pouts! I'm getting a little sick of it..For example: This morning I had an appt. to see a doctor and get on birth control. Well the doctor was running late and I had to get back to work. I didn't think much about it and re-scheduled my appt. for two weeks. After I text him what had happened he stayed quiet for a while then just said, 'I see. Well have a great day'. That's the kind of treatment I get when I put off having sex. I didn't let it bother me at all this time. Like I said, I'm getting tired of his pouts!! And last night we had a great night at the movies and I give him oral, so it's not like he's not getting anything!!!Please advice. We're both 27 years of age.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 February 2009):
 Yup I agree with Emily as well, talk about acting like a child.. Urgh. That would be such a turn off.
When you are ready, you are ready. If he can't wait, fine you will find someone who will.
Though, I still think oral is sex. Can't she why is is pouting. It seems a a tad like a control issue from his side.
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reader, 23ConfusedOne23 +, writes (20 February 2009):
 In my opionion(strictly my own) If he can't wait then he's not worth it. I am 23 and i waited 6 months before i had sex with my current girlfriend. I don't think it's bad to wait, i actually think it's better. It lets you know for what reason is your partner with you for.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (20 February 2009):
You are not teens but I think the issue is the same. You have to feel comfy with it and he is being immature and not wanting to wait for you.
If he throws a sulk over this, then what else is he going to pout about? Is this going to be his standard reaction to try and guilt you into letting him get his own way over everything?
I really think that by his age, he should be emotionally mature enough to cope without sex and to understand why you want to wait, rather than acting like a little boy and sulking about it.
I applaud you in wanting to wait for sex, and to be honest this guy is an example of why you should wait. It's bringing out his true colours early on enough for you to spot a major flaw in him and wonder whether it's worth putting up with long term.
Think long and hard whether you think he is going to be like this and whether you could put up with it if there was ever something that came up that you really didn't want to budge on.
If you are going to stay with him or go, you need to decide soon and then stick with it.
Personally this kind of thing REALLY annoys me in a man so I'd be off to find someone who's actually a grown up.
Good Luck!! xx
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