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Archived questions from: September, 2023 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Riding with his ex. Should I be jealous?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 444 days ago

29 September 2023 (F)

age 51-59 - Guy I’m dating is going on a three hour car ride with his ex-wife to help pick up her grandson’s car one and a half hours each way that’s his paying for it. I have a grandson as if he were going on. Obviously the grandson is driving the car back so I’ll be alone in his truck on ... (68 words)

Why send me the photos

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 444 days ago

27 September 2023 (F) age 51-59 - Meet a guy for sex every blue moon. Last time was over a month ago. I think he said, Thanks for letting me use you for sex or I use you for sex. I replied, and me with you too. He sent me a photo of himself ages a go of himself having a drink. He didn’t put a message with it ... (220 words)

Colleague ruined spa day. Do I inform management of her behavior?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 450 days ago

26 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - My workplace paid for myself and a colleague to a spa day last week as we were the top 2 in our team with the highest sales records. Often they treat staff members who have hit target with things like this and this was both our first time. Unfortunately ... (477 words)

My boyfriend abused me and now I'm pregnant but I don't want to be a mother to his baby.

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25 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Please don't make me feel worse, I'll probably get lectured by some aunts but I need your prayer and your advice. Disclaimer, there is some very intense stuff I'm going to discuss, please don't judge. I just found out I'm pregnant for the third time and I'm scared. My first ... (1571 words)

I don't understand what happened

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25 September 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - Prior to the start of our relationship, we made an agreement. I wanted to become a mother with the right partner, and he agreed to take on that responsibility. In return, I promised to be good to his three daughters and accept that his ex-wife would always be part of his world. ... (788 words)

I am missing my partner after our breakup

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 453 days ago

24 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I have recently left my partner, who I didn’t want to leave but the relationship was toxic. He blamed me for everything that was wrong, said I didn’t communicate with him. I did, but he didn’t want to listen or compromise on anything. We were constantly arguing and he was ... (216 words)

Split after 10 years and IVF

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24 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone! Me and my boyfriend of 10 years split last weekend. He has been off with me for a couple of weeks but I just thought he was struggling with stress being back at work and being a teacher. There is a lot of back story to this.. we’ve been trying to have a baby f... (475 words)

Wife moves all my stuff around. How can I make her understand how much it bothers me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 452 days ago

23 September 2023 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife and I have a very small house and we are both packrats in our own ways. For example, she has a thing with coffee mugs and has about 40 of them while I don’t use them at all but I have a lot of electronics accessories like cables, batteries, and so on. She hates cl... (646 words)

I think he's gone off of me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 452 days ago

22 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my partner for 3 years, when wee meet he loved to party, joke and had a great sex life, he is in his late 40s never married or had kids but always worked hard and still does. So that was his life. I'm in my early 30s loved the young fun side to him. Then I ... (360 words)

Embarrassed him at the airport & things haven’t been the same since.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 452 days ago

22 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I’ve made a complete fool of myself and not sure how to fix it…. Please don’t tell me it’s my fault as I know it is and I’m not looking for sympathy. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years- we don’t live together (we both rent our own properties) but we have been tal... (735 words)

Followup to post produce

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 455 days ago

22 September 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a follow up to my post on the 29th August “ Are we being harsh by no longer giving neighbors fresh produce as they seem to take advantage?” I wanted to thank everyone for backing us up and making us realize we weren’t being harsh for not providing our neighbors ... (171 words)

Suffering from PTSD from an event from my past

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 455 days ago

21 September 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in a bit of a mess emotionally and I am wondering what to do. I stupidly took part in a reality TV show 20 years ago. The footage is damaging bot to my wellbeing and my career and I wish to remove rights to broadcasting including airing online. I contacted the broa... (225 words)

Was I wrong to delete my ex and his friends and family from my social media?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 457 days ago

18 September 2023 (?) age 26-29 - Hello everyone! I wanted to post here because I’m looking for advice, yesterday I unfollowed my ex from all social media, and I blocked him on WhatsApp. Also, I deleted his family and friends from Instagram. This was a huge step for me. It makes me sad because he would... (1576 words)

Accused of bragging about my 2nd property at work

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 455 days ago

18 September 2023 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and i recently bought a 2nd property - it’s an apartment on the beach here in the UK. We’ve saved up and made sacrifices for years to be able to do this and are proud that we have been able to do so. At work last week a few of my colleagues (who had s... (429 words)

Dating a single parent with a teenager

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 444 days ago

17 September 2023 (F)

age 51-59 - I am a single woman in my early 50s with no kids. I'm trying online dating which is a minefield. However over the last week I have made a good connection with a man in his late 50s. We have had two lengthy conversations this weekend on the phone. He is divorced and his 15 year ... (224 words)

Early friend dating and sensing a conflcit coming

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 454 days ago

17 September 2023 (M)

age 36-40 - I have an inquiry about new friends. I try and be very open to different kinds of friends. I've seen people who are closed off and I feel they miss out on great people because they are so safety-concerned and any sign of remote conflict, sends them into closed-off mode. For me, ... (416 words)

Husband pulls away when I have a depression episode

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 459 days ago

15 September 2023 (F) age 30-35 - Hello, I have battled depression all my life, to the point where I've come very close to taking my own life a couple of times (most recent was 2 years ago after we had our baby). I'm on antidepressants and I exercise, eat fairly healthy and take steps to manage it but so... (348 words)

How can I make amends with my friend about the money?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 454 days ago

14 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m currently feeling very guilty for accidentally misleading a friend regarding helping her out financially….. 18 months ago my friend was facing a potential situation where by she would need a solicitor and she was struggling to cover the cost by herself. She was short £1... (346 words)

Sister In law has caused problem with our rent

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13 September 2023 (F)

age - Hello: My husbands oldest sister who s his power of attorney he is disabled she has went and not paid our rent and owes money to the housing authority we got a letter on Monday I called her left a message. She called yesterday morning and I told her about it well he... (227 words)

A for sale sign has caused much tension between neighbors

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 464 days ago

12 September 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - So I want to start off by saying that I’m not one to suffer with anxiety and I’ve always considered myself strong and able to move on when rubbish happens but something that has happened recently has made me feel quite vulnerable…. I live in a cul de sac- all our houses a... (673 words)

I'm wondering if my friend is jealous?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 460 days ago

12 September 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - Does my friend seem jealous? We are both female single never married and in our late 30s. We met because we work together. The other day I asked her about dating and she said she was not interested and was going to focus on work. A couple weeks later I told her I was going to ... (315 words)

Is he depressed, toxic or is it me ruining the relationship as he says it is.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 464 days ago

11 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I moved in with my partner a year ago and things are becoming toxic in our relationship. I walk on eggshells most days with him. I am always trying to make him happy and putting him first. He’s a very negative person (glass always half empty) blames me for everything that’s ... (180 words)

How do I handle working with someone like this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 465 days ago

11 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello! I have a bit of a work issue right now I’d love some advice on. I’m a creative and work on a few different brands in my job which has a set number of people working on each of them and whilst I lead on the brands, I have someone with more seniority who I might ... (505 words)

We both want to buy a house but I also want to travel

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 462 days ago

11 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi cupids, I have a bit of a dilemma with my relationship when it comes to finances and matching up with what we both want for the future. For context, I had a turbulent upbringing with both of my parents addicts. I worked really hard and became self sufficient, now livi... (536 words)

How can I let my Kenyan friend down without hurting him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 465 days ago

11 September 2023 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I used to communicate alot with someone from Kenya years ago. I considered him to be a good online friend. However, I got into a relationship with someone and we didn't talk as much. Recently he messaged me and I'm now single and he's telling me he was alway... (153 words)

Should I confront my friend about not inviting me to her engagement party?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 465 days ago

11 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - Can you please advise if I should confront my friend or not over something that has left me feeling upset. We’ve been friends for around 15 years, she was my bridesmaid at my wedding a few years ago, she even told me she was pregnant before telling her own family so I feel... (259 words)

How do I tell my brother and his wife that I'm moving out of state?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 467 days ago

9 September 2023 (M)

age 26-29 - My brother, his wife and I live on the same street. My brother and I have always been close. I am single and work from home. I rent while my brother owns his home. About 4 months ago, my brother and sister-in-law announced that they are pregnant. My brother and sister-... (175 words)

My mum's friend is a bad customer

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 467 days ago

8 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m really annoyed at my mums friend for messing me about and also at my mum as she is siding with her friend!!! Last year i started making and selling some items- jewelry, hats, bags etc… My mums friend who I’ve only met a handful of times saw my stuff as my mum shared... (721 words)

How to let him down gently

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 467 days ago

8 September 2023 (M)

age 36-40 - Before the summer, I ask my ex to give me some space as i was feeling overwhelmed by our interactions. It felt very unbalanced, as he was in love with me then and I wasn’t with him. He wanted to keep having long talks but for me I really needed to move on and find closure so I ... (134 words)

After our drunken threesome I had sex with boyfriend's friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 469 days ago

6 September 2023 (F)

age 18-21 - Is it bad I let my boyfriends mate finish inside me in morning. My bf had been talking to me for few months about this, so we finally had a drunken threesome with his friend last night. Everything was fine until we met in toilet early morning , whilst my bf was asleep , I let ... (124 words)

My girlfriends says sex hurts

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 453 days ago

5 September 2023 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi; my gf often complains that it hurts her when inside. She's wet, we use lube but I can't cum until I go hard. Is there anything we can do to make it easier? Sometimes she's just looks me in the eye out of pure love and takes it hard but I don't think its fair as I know she... (77 words)

Dating for 2 months and I asked where this is headed

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 468 days ago

5 September 2023 (F)

age 30-35 - I’ve been dating this guy for 2 months now. I really like him and feel like things were going really well. I finally thought I’d met someone special. I however asked him where he saw this going and he said he didn’t know I feel really upset and hurt. He said it’s certain ... (159 words)

Should I seek therapy after this break up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 468 days ago

4 September 2023 (M)

age 26-29 - Should i go to therapy 2 months after my break up. Hi everyone, its sucks having to come back to this site cause it means im in trouble again. This time, i need help with coping with my feelings. Around april this year i met a very lovely girl during a DnD she started. S... (1150 words)

How can I include my friend in the wedding celebration?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 471 days ago

3 September 2023 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm getting married. My best friend and I talked, and he will not be able to attend most of my wedding events. He will only be able to make the wedding ceremony at the church where no alcohol will be served. The reason is that he just started recovery due to his heav... (126 words)

Dealing with a new partners sexual experience

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2 September 2023 (M)

age 51-59 - For those sensitive to sexuality, the following does contain some - I do believe modest - references ot sexual activity as they are at the root of what currently drives me into madness. I started a relationship a little over a month ago. I had been agonizein gover somebody w... (1509 words)