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Most people would say that I am a teenager, therefore I am unable to give good advice, which I think is totally prejudiced. I love helping people, and I am considering being a therapist when I'm older. I've been told by a few people that I'm good at giving advice.
I'm single, but I currently like a boy, who most people say likes me back.
I am into all sorts of music, and sometimes use it as a form of free therapy. It is a great way of expressing emotion.
I think the reason I enjoy helping people with relationship problems, is because I've never been in one, but know many feelings and have experienced loads in my few years.
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13, worried because I've never had a boyfriend! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I'm 13 and I've never had a boyfriend. Everyone else seems to have had one. There are girls in my form that have been out with sooo many boys. They have like 10 different ones every year and have been going out with people since they were like 8. ...
A. 3 October 2009: I'm 14, nearly 15, and never been asked out or had any sort of male attention in my entire life. Don't sweat, there's nothing wrong with you. Concentrate on your studies and have fun with your mates, and the right guy will come along when it's the ... (read in full...)
Stange lump something to worry about?
Q. Warning you now this is going to sound gross but I just wanted to ask on here incase its nothing because I'd rather not have to show this to a doctor or anyone. A random sort of pea sized lump has grown in my anus, most of the time I can't fee...
A. 15 August 2009: I suggest seeing your doctor. If your doctor is male, you could always ask if you could see a female doctor, and it might make you feel slightly less embarassed. But there is nothing to be embarassed or ashamed about. Doctors are trained to handle ... (read in full...)
I told a 'white lie' and now it's come back to haunt me. What should I do?
Q. I don't actually know what to do. About a week ago, my friend persuaded me, on msn, to ask my crush's best friend if he had a girlfriend. I did it. He doesn't. However. There's a backstory. The girl who I asked wouldn't tell me unless there wa...
A. 11 April 2009: I reckon I'll take things by my own pace. I'm going to write him a note and give him it on the very last day of the year. And then wait.... (read in full...)
Who should I choose? T, L, or W?
Q. i'm really confused about my feelings: there are 3 guys: "T"- amazing and such a lovely guy he's helped me through a lot and is hot as! but he's 17 "L" - he's 16 and is such a good mate i felt like i loved him but we've changed he's still amazi...
A. 11 April 2009: No one can answer this question but you. Who do you get along with more, have a closer bond with, and more importantly, which one is more willing to catch you as you fall for you?
Good luck x ... (read in full...)
Should I write him a note?
Q. Hey there! So there's this boy, he's only a year older than me (or so..) and I met him in my art class at the beginning of the semester. He now sits at my table with my two good friends and we have a lot of fun as a group. I like him, a lot, but...
A. 11 April 2009: I'm going through this right now. And I think writing a note is a good way of letting your feelings known. That's what I'm going to do. I once walked away. I gave up. And I felt terrible afterwards.
I'm not outgoing. I'm alarmingly shy, but when... (read in full...)
I told a 'white lie' and now it's come back to haunt me. What should I do?
Q. I don't actually know what to do. About a week ago, my friend persuaded me, on msn, to ask my crush's best friend if he had a girlfriend. I did it. He doesn't. However. There's a backstory. The girl who I asked wouldn't tell me unless there wa...
A. 23 January 2009: well you see, it's not that simple.
I have told him repeatedly that I do not wish to tell him. But he doesnt listen.
Here's the conversation we had today in maths.
Him: Just so you know. I'm not going to ask. But tell your friend no cause I li... (read in full...)
Should you shave your arms?
Q. Should you shave your arms? It's just I have some quite dark hair on my arms, and I wondered if it's normal to shave your arms. It's not like super-dark, so I don't have to shave. I just wanted to know....
A. 21 January 2009: I wouldn't personally. I tried it once and it made them grow back thicker, darker and denser. Underarms and legs I would advise instead.
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Am I developing normally for my age?
Q. hi my name is pete im 14 and i have some pubes but no arm pit hair my penis is around 3.5 inches and when erect 6 inches am i normal for my age...
A. 1 January 2009: Everyone develops at different times. Some people are slower or faster than others.
You're perfectly normal, don't worry.... (read in full...)
What did she mean by her message?
Q. Alright, so i like this girl alot. she's the same age as me and we have a damn near every thing there is in common. but idk if she likes me. ive got a hint i think, i said somthing to her on myspace about how a one of my girlfriends dumped me cus i ...
A. 31 December 2008: I know it's not smart to drink at 16, but everyone does it so I can't blame you.
Well to find out, try flirting back. Ask her out in a flirty way. I'm not going to suggest anything, because girls like different flirting techniques, plus, I'm rubb... (read in full...)
Why do people believe - or not believe - in God?
Q. Im just curious here, I wanna hear from people who are and are not in anyway, religious. To the folk who to believe there's a god, why do you believe so? A personal miracle happened to you, or some sort of experience that has made you believe? Or ...
A. 31 December 2008: I do and I don't.
I'll explain. I do believe in God because I think he controls what we do and when we do it. For example, I believe that when we are born, our whole life is set out for us. That way, we get a balance of good times and bad times. T... (read in full...)
Is he my toyboy?
Q. Hi everyone my question is this who come guys can date younger girls but girls cant date younger guys? I'm having this problem I'm 13 so's my bf but hes in the year below me I feel like we're falling in love we have loads in common and inseparable! ...
A. 5 December 2008: Personally, I don't think theres anything wrong with dating a boy younger than you. The guy I have my eye on is 6 months younger than me. My friend is dating a boy the year below her. My nan and grandad have been married for years and my nan is ... (read in full...)
I eat and then throw up trying to lose weight, please help me!
Q. I hate my body i am 15 stones just 5 10" i eat and eat and eat then throw up i do this at lease 5 times a day i try to loss weight but it never happens i so fat and ugly i don't understand how others think im beautiful. ...
A. 2 December 2008: Hun, what you are going through is extremely dangerous. I read a story of a girl who died from this sort of thing. Please, please, PLEASE seek medical help. Don't waste your life; its valuable and you only get to live it once.
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I have all these qualities and yet don't have a boyfriend... what am I doing wrong?
Q. Confidence? Beauty? Personality? I have all of that, except confidence and I've never had a boyfriend....What am I doing wrong?...
A. 29 November 2008: Remember this: it's not that you're not good enough for someone, it's that they're not good enough for you.
Hang in there, you'll find the right man someday.
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My mum and I never got on well, I don't know what to do...
Q. ok right me and my mum have never got on well. we always have arguments and i have s.a.d seasoning depression and this time of year is the worst for me.. my cousin died in september and hes best friend hasnt spoke to any one about him since last ...
A. 28 November 2008: Hun. I know you think that you are the victim in this situation, but really your mother is just showing she cares. To a parent, their child is the most important thing. Think how she would feel. You lie about staying somewhere, she phones and ... (read in full...)
How do I speed up my period so it will end sooner?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have the whole house to ourselves on Sunday and we hardly ever get the whole house anymore. It should hopefully be good but there's one small problem.. I'm on my period. My periods normally last about 5 or 6 days and on Sund...
A. 28 November 2008: Sorry, hun, but there is no way to slow down or speed up your period. It happens as it happens. And it will always be that way until you hit menopause.
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How can I shift these spots?
Q. This is irritating me. I know this has nothing to do with relationships, but I need help. I've tried everything but my spots just won't go away. Everynight and morning I rub a spott cleansing lotion on my face. Every other day I wash it. And occ...
A. 27 November 2008: my diet? well. I try to eat as much fruit and veg as possible. Usually about 4-5 a day. And I do try to drink as much water/fruit juice as I can. ... (read in full...)
My ex asked me to have sex with him! Should I?
Q. Hi, I've just split up with my boyfriend who i was with for 8 months and my ex before that has always been there for me. He's always come round when i needed him and gave me a shoulder to cry on, he's been like a big brother to me (: The other we...
A. 27 November 2008: Personally, no. For one, you're still young. Have fun and live. You shouldn't be thinking about having sex; instead, hit the books, study more and get a firm hold for the future.
If you do end up having sex with him, trust me, you'll end up regre... (read in full...)
What makes a guy attractive?
Q. Hello, I just have a quick question, sorry if it sounds ignorant. I have tried to figure this out, but I have failed. What makes a guy physically attractive? I know that it's really the personality and all, but being attractive doesn't hurt, so I ...
A. 16 November 2008: My personal preference is, apart from personality, eyes and hair. I like dark eyes, for example, brown, or dark blue or even green.
I like blonde hair, or light brown.
But this differs from woman to woman.
I would say, good skin, a nice sm... (read in full...)
The kids at school tease me about my virginity and sex...Whatcan I do?
Q. Dear Cupid the year 9s at my school keep on asking whether i'm a virgin or not. I reply I am and they start laughing. I've never even kissed a boy or had a proper relationship before; and I don't particurlly want to get teased about it... a...
A. 15 November 2008: Treasure your virginity.
My best friend's step mum lost hers when she was 14. And to this day, when she is 21, she still regrets it.
Don't fall into the web of peer pressure. When you're older and you're in a sturdy relationship wit... (read in full...)
Was I destined to be miserable?
Q. I need help, I feel lonely and isolated in my school. I feel like I can't connect with people and I feel like they always avoid me.... was I destined to be miserable?...
A. 14 November 2008: Of course not. You're just shy. I had trouble with shyness when I was younger, and I couldn't make friends very easily, but I don't have that now. All you need to do is join school clubs, or approach a friendly-looking person in the h... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is shier than I, how to initiate a first kiss?
Q. Hi guys, few questions for you... How do you snog properly and do you have any tips? And how can i take it further? And do you think i should at 13? Also if my GF is more shy than i am, how should i initiate a first kiss(snog)? Any help will be very ...
A. 14 November 2008: There's really no rules. Once your lips touch, it just comes naturally. Be gentle, and if she feels uncomfortable, don't pester her. Be respectful of her.... (read in full...)
Why do teen guys only have one thing on their mind? What's the big deal about sleeping around while you're so young?! Why are they like this?
Q. why do guys nowadays only want one thing. ONE thing. every single guy that i like, end up going out with them for like a month n then they think they can get straight into my pants, i was goin out wi this guy called "R" and i was with him for 9 ...
A. 22 September 2008: I'm proud of you - being brave and saying no and not being scared to decline him.
That takes guts.
Boys get very hormonal during this age range, and sometimes are put under pressure to have sex with as many girls as possible. To me, this is ludi... (read in full...)
What do I do about this crush? I'm all out of ideas.
Q. I have a bit of an issue. This might be a bit long. I apologize beforehand. I’m 13 years old and I like this boy from my form room at school. We sit next to each other. We have a lot of laughs, and we get along well - as mates. His friends seem...
A. 21 September 2008: a few days ago, I was standing with one of my friends, who I haven't really spent a lot of time with lately. so I was stood with her, catching up on things.
and this same boy comes along and stands next to her, because they are best friends,... (read in full...)
I need help to call this girl I like...
Q. Hi readers, I met this lovely girl at a party and she gave me her no. w/o asking for it. I gave mine too in return. Honestly I like her and I think she likes me too! I'm 17 this year and I'm in a boy school. I got no prblem with girls except the...
A. 1 August 2008: All you need to do is be yourself. Don't be nervous. She's a girl, not an alien. When you find the courage to call her, as the phone is ringing, decide what you're going to say before you say it. That way, it stops stammering and struggling for ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and want a baby... but why?
Q. i'm 13 and i want to have a baby but i don't feel unloved my mom and my friends would do anything they could to help me why do i still want a baby so badly?...
A. 1 August 2008: You could just generally like children, and feel as though you'd like to have one yourself to see what it feels like to care for a youngster.
But, hunny, you're too young to have one now. Wait until you're older, and have a steady relation... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to go out with my underage girlfriend?
Q. ok I have a question concerning me and my girlfriend. I am 18 and she is 14. was a big surprise for me when i found out she was 14 when she looks and acts around 16. and I was wondering is it extremely wrong for me to date her? I like her a ...
A. 28 July 2008: I think it's fine for you to go out with her and be in a relationship. I don't think it's illegal. Like you said, the only bad thing about the relationship, would be if you were to have sex with her. You seem like a decent person and you seem to ... (read in full...)
Am I gay for having gay sexual fantasies? Am I just confused?
Q. I'm 13 and i know im not Gay. I like women and i want to have sex with a women. When i see 2 gay people kiss i get digusted. There is this kid that's a year older than me, i think he is a slight bit gay. Sometimes when I'm just thinking about stuf...
A. 27 July 2008: Don't worry about getting a girl to perform oral for you just yet. You're too young for that. And don't worry about getting a serious girlfriend just yet, either. You're in highschool. I agree with FinnMcCool, you're just having a fantasy.... (read in full...)
Is it less likely to get pregnant while you're on your period?
Q. ok so me any my boyfriend have been ready for sex. we've done it a few times. i know we're ready so don't even say i'm too young. but anyways, we had sex when i was on my period. he used a ultra thin condom so guess what? it broke. and i don't know ...
A. 27 July 2008: Sperm is able to swim through blood.
You can get pregnant whenever; on or off your period.
If you do turn out to be pregnent, then please, PLEASE tell your mother. A doctor cannot perform abortion without your parents consent, unless you are over... (read in full...)
I'm ready but a little scared that he might not be "the one", should I give him my virginity or not?
Q. i was wondering.me and my b/f has been datin 4 7 mths and he dosnt rlly pressure me he has told me he wants to do it..im ready and i want to have sex with my b/f but im a lil scared tht he might not be the one should i give him my virginlatity or ...
A. 27 July 2008: You've found a boyfriend that will wait until you are completely ready. If you want to have sex with him, and have considered the consequences, then give it a go. You'll never know until you try.
However, if you still have a few worries, talk the... (read in full...)
Why does my girlfriend keep bleeding after having sex?
Q. me and my girlfriend have just had sex and for the first time she started to bleed and plus she had pain's but after bout 20 minutes the blood so then me and my girlfriend was both horny so we tought we do it again but now she hasn't stop bleeding ...
A. 27 July 2008: The reason she is bleeding, is because at the top of a girl's vagina, is a piece of skin which can break easily, and if it didn't break during puberty, it would break during her first sex.
It will stop shortly. Don't worry too much about it, unle... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this online relationship with this girl? We live 400 miles apart.
Q. Hey everyone, I would really like anyones help on this little situation I'm in. A little while back I met a girl online through an extremely large art website (deviantART for those of you wishing to know) so her and I started talking on there...
A. 27 July 2008: Talk to her more, get to know her better, and when you both finish college maybe talk about meeting up somewhere.
Just remember that not everyone you meet online are genuine. Take precautions before you decide to meet her.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
How do I convince my on line date that he should come to my city first?
Q. Theres this guy who I have been chatting with online for a while now. I really do like him alot and he likes me alot too. He found me on a dating website, and contacted me first, despite the fact that I live in another city to him. I replied anyw...
A. 27 July 2008: Just remember that not all people you meet online are genuine. Make sure you take precautions before you decide to meet him.
Why don't you try and tell him about the attractions and things to do in your city, and try to persuade him with his intr... (read in full...)
Am I gay for having gay sexual fantasies? Am I just confused?
Q. I'm 13 and i know im not Gay. I like women and i want to have sex with a women. When i see 2 gay people kiss i get digusted. There is this kid that's a year older than me, i think he is a slight bit gay. Sometimes when I'm just thinking about stuf...
A. 27 July 2008: You're at a confusing part of your life, considering you're 13.
What I think is happening, is you're just experiencing new things and are slightly confused about this boy you know. It is quite common that adolescents experience feelings for memb... (read in full...)
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