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*erMum
writes:Dear Cupid the year 9s at my school keep on asking whether i'm a virgin or not. I reply I am and they start laughing. I've never even kissed a boy or had a proper relationship before; and I don't particurlly want to get teased about it...any halp please?YerMum xx Reply to this Question
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reader, cwg98 +, writes (30 January 2011):
Don't worry about it. They are just idiots losing their virginity in yr 9. Odds are that they are lying and trying to boost their ego!
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reader, vanessadazed  +, writes (15 November 2008):
wow that's sad. i'm a senior in high school and a lot of people are still virgins. a lot of people lie that they aren't just to seem 'cool'. but don't worry honey you're not alone and don't be ashamed it's not a bad thing. just don't let yourself be pressured into doing anything because that's the worst. and if i were you i'd rather be called a virgin then be called a slut
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reader, xxbecksyxx +, writes (15 November 2008):
 Treasure your virginity.
My best friend's step mum lost hers when she was 14. And to this day, when she is 21, she still regrets it.
Don't fall into the web of peer pressure. When you're older and you're in a sturdy relationship with a wonderful and caring man, and when you feel you're ready, go for it.
But until then, don't give it away. It's valuable and when you give it away to the wrong person, trust me, you will regret it.
x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): ur kidding me!
Year 9's if anything they r sluts!
U r a responsibal to not have had relations like that now.
Its ur not ur fault that they were so desprat they did anything. lol.
ignor them and just tell them that u r the mature one, cause u r
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reader, steve107 +, writes (1 December 2007):
 from a teenage guys point of view there aint nothing wrong with you being a virgin. people who have sex too young often get thought of as slags. it aint a good rep to have. take life one day at a time and you will know when your ready. it may be at 16 or 26 it dosnt matter do it cause you want to not cause other people.all the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): theres nothing wrong with being a virgin!! you should wait for the right person and till your 16 or you might regret it and there probably virgins themselves! My friends are 14 and they've never kissed a boy its normal .. relax the right lad will come along good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): The age of consent is 16. Be proud that you're not having sex, because it means you have more respect for yourself. Sex isn't a badge of honour, and your virginity is precious. Don't throw it away for peer pressure, give it to someone you're prepared to spend the rest of your life with, or at least be in a long-term relationship.
Don't listen to those girls, and smile to yourself knowing that you're much better than them.
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reader, Happy to help :) +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Hello :)
Oh wow, your actually just like me. I've never kissed a boy or had a proper relationship, but that does not mean anything. Most of my friends have kissed and done everything else with a boy but i dont care. You are who you are and you should be proud that you ARE a virgin as the legal age is 16. Tell them that you will do things when your ready. Don't rush into anything that you may regret later on in life. Just ignore them or stick with your real friends.
Hope that helped
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): what sort of school do you go too! the girls in my year that have done it get called slags which they deserve too.i am in year 10 and a virgin i dont mind it you are probaly not emotionaly ready for sex and neither are thease girls you will have a boyfreind when you have eough confidance live your life have fun with freinds year nine is a great year.focus on your studies best whishes
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reader, hello1 +, writes (1 December 2007):
 I was in your situation and I know what it's like at school. I PROMISE you, when your a couple years older you will look back at 14yr olds and think its too young to have sex. Most of these people properly haven't had sex but are just laughing at your reaction, or if they have their the rough kind of people. Be proud your a virgin, next time just "say so what? I'm young and I want to wait. My choice not yours!"
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (1 December 2007):
 Hon, by all means treasure your virginity.
Believe me, your virginity is something to be proud of.
Others that have already given up their virginity before marriage are usually dealing with feelings of guilt and are quick to tease and chide others who have not made that same mistake.
My 22 year old daughter is proud that she still has her virginity and has resolved that she will not give it up to anyone but whom she is married to.
There are a whole host of problems and responsibilities that come with sex and if you are not ready to take on those responsibilities you are not ready for sex.
Pregnancy is one of the main concerns. If you have an accident who will provide for the baby financially?
Will the father be there for you and the baby or will he say; "Well, I am not old enough to be a father yet and we aren't married etc. etc."
You are still young so be a kid while you can be a kid.
Your childhood will be gone much too soon enough and you can never get that back. If you give that up before it is time you will always regret it.
Now go do the right thing. Doc
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2007): chances are, they are virgins too, just trying to hide it. don't be in a hurry to grow up, sex will come, be you'll want your first time to be special, trust me.
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