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*oggirl2007
writes:Hey there!So there's this boy, he's only a year older than me (or so..) and I met him in my art class at the beginning of the semester. He now sits at my table with my two good friends and we have a lot of fun as a group.I like him, a lot, but the thing is, I'm not really sure how to tell him this. I'm shy, all together, so is he, and neither of us talk much, mainly joining in on the conversations at the table when asked something. Also, I don't see him much outside of class, but I'd like to get to know him more.There are also three other girls who like him, all three being incredibly different people when compared to me. Of course, he might not choose /any/ of us, but I always have the feeling that he might, and then I have the feeling that he just won't even consider me.You see, I'm the quietest one out of all four girls who I know like him, so I think he wouldn't see me like that because I'm not the best at flirting and whatnot. One of the two other girls at my table also likes him, but she's more confident with herself it seems and much more outgoing, as well as much better with words.My friend told me to write him a note, telling him how I think of him, but that seems really childish to me and I'm not so sure.I also don't want to just give up, having done that in the past, which made me feel less confident with myself and thinking that I just won't get a boy to like me by doing that.What do you think I should do?
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (18 April 2009):
 I did the exact same thing in high school. There was a boy I really liked; we started out great friends. But I wrote him a note telling him how I truly felt about him and if he wanted to take our friendship to the next level. He wrote a note back to me saying he liked me but only as a friend. Well, things got awkward between us and the friendship died. I agree with FA. Give it a shot if you want and feel confident enough, but just be careful. Once your feelings are known to him, there's no turning back.
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reader, xxbecksyxx  +, writes (11 April 2009):
 I'm going through this right now. And I think writing a note is a good way of letting your feelings known. That's what I'm going to do. I once walked away. I gave up. And I felt terrible afterwards.
I'm not outgoing. I'm alarmingly shy, but when I'm around him, I'm not. I can say anything and I don't care. Try boosting yourself up with confidence then write that note. Maybe slip it into his locker or something.
Good luck x
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (11 April 2009):
 Right now you have an age appropriate relationship withhim and it is great. You have a friendship. Letting him know that you have romantic feelings for him will forever change that relationship. This should be carefully thought out and not rushed into. You are anxious because you think he will choose one of you to be his only. Contrary to popular belief at this age he should not be exclusive (have only one girlfriend). Nor should you. Now is the time to experement and get to know many differet personalities. Writing a not is ok if thats the way you can pluck up the courage. Just be sure you are ready to take the risk (all love is a risk). Whatever happens you will have gained experience, whichis good. Be young and enjoy life. FA
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reader, CuriouserAndCuriouser  +, writes (11 April 2009):
 You know what, he may like you best for your shyness, because it's something he can relate to.. and it means a lot less pressure and confrontation for him; so you never know. I think before you write him a note, you should try to talk to him more one on one.. because the note might take him off guard if you guys don't talk much. So some harmless, casual one on one talking would be good.. Maybe if you guys could sit beside each other at the group table, and you could start by asking him to pass you something, then complementing his work.. see what he says, how eager he is to talk or open up and go from there..Don't ever do what your friends tell you to do; do what you feel is right and what you're ready for. That is the best advice to go by.Good luck!
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reader, BethBabes +, writes (11 April 2009):
 i wrote a note to the person that i like. its not childish. its an easy way out if your not good at actually telling someone face to face. hand it to him yourself though. at least everything will be out in the open. include that you like him but also that you want to know him better etc. just everything you feel
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