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writes:I need help, I feel lonely and isolated in my school. I feel like I can't connect with people and I feel like they always avoid me.... was I destined to be miserable? Reply to this Question
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reader, Artistry  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Hi there, I agree with everything that has been said. One more thing I would like you to do, is to build your own self-esteem. If you like reading, find some library books on building your self-esteem. You could also find things that you are interested in, art, photography. stamp collecting, things that would be of interest to you, and broaden your interests. Find a camera club to join maybe, in other words stretch yourself, join a book club. Find things that make you grow, this will give you things to talk about. See if you can find an overseas penpal to write too, you can find ways to have friends, it is a matter of searching, you are growing, enjoy your journey, and don't look at the lack of friends, but where you are going and what a good time you are going to have in life, it's an amazingly wonderful road to travel. Also, see if your local
military office can put you in touch with some military people who would love to have you write to them while they are overseas. Good luck and stay in touch.
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reader, xxbecksyxx  +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Of course not. You're just shy.I had trouble with shyness when I was younger, and I couldn't make friends very easily, but I don't have that now. All you need to do is join school clubs, or approach a friendly-looking person in the halls. I know it's scary, but it's easy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): No you weren't. Sometimes you can imagine they avoid you when nobody wants to make the first move. Just talk to one friendly-looking person to start off with.
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reader, Everoth +, writes (14 November 2008):
 Someone comes up to you, talks to you and tries to be friendly, you enjoy the fact that someone is taking the first step and trying to get to know you. Now reverse that situation. Sure you're nervous going up and meeting and talking to new people, but in general people like meeting new people as well. Try to go out and meet new people, reconnect with people you've talked to before but haven't talked to in a while, we are only as lonely as we let ourselves be. There will always be those assholes but don't let them get you down and trust me, people aren't trying to avoid you, you just need to calm down and realize that they will not always be immediately friendly to someone they don't know very well to begin with. It all just takes time, but try approaching people with a smile on your face, a compliment, something funny to say, preplanned is just fine. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2008): If you are a very shy person that is usually the case. Most people feel awkward around shy people and find them really boring as they never talk, so they stay away from them to try and avoid an awkward conversation. Try talking more, and smile at everybody, a simple smile can instantly change your views about someone. Also get involved in activities in your school, you meet new people and have something to talk about.
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