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What do I do about this crush? I'm all out of ideas.

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Question - (18 August 2008) 2 Answers - (Newest, 21 September 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *xbecksyxx writes:

I have a bit of an issue. This might be a bit long. I apologize beforehand.

I’m 13 years old and I like this boy from my form room at school. We sit next to each other. We have a lot of laughs, and we get along well - as mates. His friends seem to approve of me and I approve of them. However, I’m having them feelings of confusion, and I currently wonder if he likes me too. He acts like he does, often giving me mixed signals, but I don’t know what to believe. All of my friends say he likes me. But I’m not too sure.

I first knew I liked him in May. I was going on holiday with my friend for a weekend, and I realized I would miss him, and that’s where I noticed I felt for him. I felt partially overjoyed, but also a bit embarrassed.

I kept thinking about him and he always seemed to enter my mind at the most inconvenient of times. During my maths exam, he sat just a few seats away, and he altered my mind stage for the first half of the test. Luckily, I passed, but I would have got a better mark if he wasn’t sat so close.

The first memory of liking him, I remember, is when we had to work for the reception staff together at school. We had to spend a whole day helping out teachers and students together and it was great fun. We both got the jobs done as a team and we had a few laughs in between. Half of me felt happy that he was speaking to me, and that we were sat at a table doing nothing all day, but the other half of me felt strange, like I was going to say the most stupidest thing and I felt incredibly nervous during the whole day.

The second memory, I recall, was during drama class. We were filming a scene outside for a mini movie. We had to stand in vertical rows for a marching scene. When we got the signal to start the march, I missed my cue (I started too early) and went head first into my crush’s back. Not only did he not push me away, but he didn’t complain about it either. The rest of the scene passed without fail and it got completed. The next day, we had to film inside. We borrowed an English classroom that wasn’t being used, and set up the camera in there. It was our groups turn to film a scene - there were 3 in our group; me, my friend and my crush - and I was the camerawoman. In between takes, my crush and I would mock the bad actors, and have some laughs. The day passed, and the movie got completed.

A few weeks later I got invited to a fancy dress party. Considering fancy dress isn’t one of my favourites, I passed and decided not to go. The day before the party, I got off my bus at school, and my friends told me that I didn’t need a costume, and so I finally agreed to go. I turned up at the party and I was welcomed by my friends and we were all having an amazing time just standing by the tables and chatting. But then, across the room, I saw my crush at the bar, ordering a drink. My friends noticed him also. He looked at me, smiled and I subconsciously waved, later wondering what gave me the urge to do it. He waved back and I went back to my friends. An hour or so later, I was dancing with my mates on the dance floor. With my lack of dancing skills, I was wiggling my hips, hoping what I was doing was graceful enough. My crush was walking across the room to the bar, yet again. He saw me and laughed, telling me that he would spread around the school that I couldn’t dance. I tried to reason with him not to, but he laughed it off and said he would. It was time to go home, soon after that. My dad came to pick me up. He was standing outside when my dad drove away, and half smiled just as we turned the corner.

A couple of weeks ago, the school decided on an activity days week, where the students went on individual activities with their friends rather than having to endure lessons. I was stuck with 40 girls for 3 days. It was a very long 3 days. I didn’t get to see my crush at all during them. The only time I got to see him was when he got off his bus. He was looking for his mate, and I pointed him in the right direction. He didn’t say much else to me. That was the last time I got to see him for 6 weeks.

I miss him so much. I can barely wait for school to start again as I will finally be able to hear his voice and see him face to face. I have a few images and videos, but that’s it. But then I know, I’ll get my hopes up, and when I finally get to speak to him again, he won’t want to speak to me. He’s very…change-y. Sometimes when I’m around him, he can be the most talkative person alive, but others, he’ll be moody and won’t say a word. It’s his birthday soon. I signed his class birthday card. But I want to give him an individual one. I don’t know where he lives though.

I often find myself wondering what he’s doing, or where he’s going, and I always find the need to check where he is. I seem to be going shopping a lot more because I have a chance that I’ll see him. I find myself walking around, hoping to bump into him at the most random moment. But so far it hasn’t happened.

Please help me. I’m confused. I’m out of ideas. And, I’m love struck. Any thoughts I’ll be happy with.

Becky,

x

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A female reader, xxbecksyxx United Kingdom +, writes (21 September 2008):

xxbecksyxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question

xxbecksyxx agony aunta few days ago, I was standing with one of my friends, who I haven't really spent a lot of time with lately. so I was stood with her, catching up on things.

and this same boy comes along and stands next to her, because they are best friends, and whilst this happens, she jokingly mocks me. I knew this was a joke. but he didn't, and he stood next to me and said to her 'don't say that.'

however, she simply laughs and says 'she's my friend. it was a joke.'

and then he got the hint, and says 'oh. i thought you were being nasty to her.'

and then he quickly walks away.

does this mean anything?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2008):

It sounds like he does likes you but does'nt want to admit it but I guess it all comes down to 1 question when you looked at him did he look back in the same way feeling the same heartacke? If so take a chance and ask the guy out!

Good look ;-)

Take a risk he might be worth it.

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