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writes:Confidence?Beauty?Personality?I have all of that, except confidence and I've never had a boyfriend....What am I doing wrong?
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reader, xxbecksyxx  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 Remember this: it's not that you're not good enough for someone, it's that they're not good enough for you.
Hang in there, you'll find the right man someday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): firstly u r not doing anything wrong. u r so so lucky to have those qualities. the only thing u need 2 add is 'talk to boys', be fun, smile, it can be about anything. don't ask guys out (this can scare shy ones and attract bad ones), BUT flirt so that they'll know u would say yes to a date. start slow hang out in groups. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): i think you dont have the guts to ask a boy or man out. go to night club for example,ask a hot boy to dance,get his number,then you have a boyfriend! it works for me everytime ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): I never had a boy friend during school and college days. Not that I wasn't pursued.
Just that I wanted to make something out of myself.At 14 I wanted to stand on my own feet when I grew up.In India most of the time its the dad or the husband who picks up the tab.I can honestly say I have never got a single penny from my parents ever since I completed my education.A very rare thing let me assure you especially since I need not have worked at all in the first place.
I concentrated on my studies when some of the girls my age were busy having boy friends and seemed like were having the time of their lives.I had my crushes and infatuations.Yes it got lonely at times.Thankfully I had nice friends.But I never lost sight of the one goal that was there before me."Education".I became the school topper.Got my head into software.Today I am successful.
I am having the last laugh as those girls who laughed at me for being a bookworm got into messy affairs and couldn't even complete their studies.I waited till 24 to find my husband.It was an arranged marriage.Cultures do vary.Today I have a great guy and a gorgeous baby in my life.I can't love them enough.
Dear Little Sis, I hope my story makes you think today.Its very easy to give into peer pressure.Its very easy to be one among the crowd.Everyone else are having boyfriends.But life is much more than that.Make something of yourself.Have a healthy self esteem.
Also regarding looks,at teenage most of the girls are still blossoming.At 14 my friends used to say I look very plain and normal.But I never let it get to me nor did I feel so.Ha Ha.At 29 when I recently met my friends they gushed "The ugly duckling has turned into the best looking of the lot!".Its just the way you look at yourself.If you think you are pretty and love yourself,people are going to see you as pretty and exotic too.Feel it in your heart.All the best dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Please dont beat yourself up about this one small thing in your life. If you say you are what you are then get on with living sorry but my partner had an affair in 2007 for this Iam still trying to get over it as she lives only across the bloody road in a small ave. I am not a bad person and i do not class myself as ugly nor do i class myself as stupid. Just be happy and you will find the right one but one thing never trust your so called best friend nor your partner so just be happy your on your own and go out and have the best time of your life before it ends just like i thought my had. Traci x
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reader, wendie dee +, writes (23 November 2008):
 Hi lucky you. I wish i had all them qualities. Believe me your not doing anything wrong,i just think think that because your so lovely boys most propably think you wouldn't want to know.
It may be a case of if you fancy someone, you may have to make the first move, and don't be afraid of rejection it's only your ego that gets bruised. Good luck sweetie.
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 You present as 13-15...that's actually fairly young to be dating. I wouldn't worry about it. It is a lot more rewarding to date someone you actually care about than to date for dating's sake, and I think many young teens lose sight of this. In the mean time, work on appreciating yourself and gaining self-confidence. To love and be loved, you must love yourself first =]
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reader, getright11 +, writes (23 November 2008):
 your not doing anything wrong.
its just that guys now dont really know what they want, and when they finnaly do, its when they go for someone they know they cant get. so ust make sure your that someone, try to put yourself more out there;D
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