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writes:why do guys nowadays only want one thing. ONE thing. every single guy that i like, end up going out with them for like a month n then they think they can get straight into my pants, i was goin out wi this guy called "R" and i was with him for 9 week, my parents went away for the weekend one weekend and he came over, he thought because my parents wernt in, he could 'do me' as he politely put it. so i had enough with him, kneww its all he wanted and finished with him, but then i started seeing a guy called "A" on the 9th september, and just yesterday after going out for not even a fortnight we were in my room and he started to un do my trousers while we were kissing, took his hands away from me and zipped them back up, he had his hands up my top and stuff, was tryin to undress me and i told him to stop it, he said "i love you" to mee, and i just thought oh thats it now, he'll pretend he loves me so ill sleep with him and i told him to get out of my sight! why have guys only got one thing on their mind! not been stereotypical because i know its not every single guy! but like 16, 17, 18 lads constantly think about sex and it drives me crazy! whats the big deal about sleepin around while your so young?! why are they like this?
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reader, grobanite  +, writes (8 December 2008):
 Not all guys are like this. I haven't had much experience, but i've been dating my current boyfriend for 2 months now and he hasn't pushed for sex or anything. We're both 18. He's very considerate of my feelings and I feel so lucky to have him. He's also Christian, so perhaps that can help you. Its awesome that you pushed those guys away, but if you really want a guy to not try anything, find a Christian boy. They're amazing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2008): Omg! i know exactly what you mean... (BTW LazyGuy (the poster) is sucha weirdo/jerk) if a guy thinks he's "mature" enough to have a girl friend what so ever (not just to 'play around with') then be nic to them!
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (25 September 2008):
 Well, I admit that as a teen I had only one thing on my mind. I fantasised about it, dreamed about it, discussed it with my friends near constantly. We wanted it, we needed it.
As for the sleeping around. Well, we had to do something before we were old enough to finally get a car. Oooh that first car. It felt so great. You never forget your first. I sure as hell don't. Still got the license plate as a momentum.
Sweet memories, I like to think that when I am old and senile and no longer able to enjoy that true mens joy, driving, I can still recall those moments and smile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): Alot guys are just immature. Sad to say.
And some arn't your goal are and should be to stick with the matture guys. like myself i dont set my eyes straight for pussy. or straight downstairs.
Im more intrested in having fun finding out what the person is like fallin for them.
One other thing is when your in like (like iam)
im in love with this one woman who i been with for about 6 months we havn't had sex yet. its not that we dont want too. were both just not COMPLETLY into it or yet.
we are and know we want it. and sometimes its perfect but as we grow closer to getting to it, i dont know it feels amazing as it is just before we even try it.
My point is. mature guys will trend longer and give more repsect. immatture guys well they just want body. and have fun... matture guys are idk. more HAIR like facial.
and they dont always crack jokes or do stupid things. ya know that is were getting to know them takes place. soo work on that.'
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): Men are made of hormones and only want your body.. me and my friend are both 16 and i'm overweight and never even had a bf. my friend is so skinny and pretty and guys up to 40 undress her with their minds and hope for any excuse to touch her.. damn pigs..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): Men are Men... they all like to have sex. No matter their age. The only difference is, when they get to be 25 plus they act a little more mature aout it. Just remember, sex is not good unless you are in love with the man. It's one thing to have sex and another to make love with the man you are in love with. My advice is to wait until you are married. Trust me!
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reader, xxbecksyxx +, writes (22 September 2008):
 I'm proud of you - being brave and saying no and not being scared to decline him.
That takes guts.
Boys get very hormonal during this age range, and sometimes are put under pressure to have sex with as many girls as possible. To me, this is ludicrous, and if I'm ever put in this position, I'm not going to fall for it.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): I was 14, I got together with a boy that was aged 16. I made him wait a YEAR before i decided to say yes. But to be honest, i cant remember what i told him, or how we managed to wait a year, and it was still not worth it when it came to it!!! If you dont want to do it- then dont. If they inisist, or say they love you, then this shows how immuture the boy/s can be. He should respect your wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): That's why I like older men. Although some of them can be pushy, too. My bf was 25 and I was 20 when we started dating. He waited for eight months for me, and he probably would've waited more. Maybe you should wait until you are older to date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): I understand why you wouldn't want to do that type of thing with a guy at your age but if you honestly really like the guy and you trust them and they trust you you shouldn't hold yourself back from an intimate relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Guys are just doing what actually works.
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reader, lovexkiss +, writes (22 September 2008):
for one im 19 and been with my fience for 3 years,hes not even allowed in my room!
why do you have to be in your room why not watch a dvd or something,a guys mind if your going upstair in your bedroom = 1 thing,thats what i think anyways x
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (22 September 2008):
 In my belief, we live in a society that want everything easy. We're told that everytime the going get tough, we should stop. But if we do, we'll never achieved anything.
Teens/adult alike feel as if they can't do anything so they try to find quick fix to their long term dreams by short term escape such as drugs and sex.
Also, it's around that time that guys are sexually active.
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When I was around that age, I had big dreams that were always crushed by people around me. They were always saying stuff like "the only way to get rich is by winning lottery" or "you can't achieve that because you need to be smart to have that."
So I stopped talking about it, but never stopped dreaming. I learned later on that the only person who can stop you from achieving your goals and dreams is you.
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Have a nice day!
P.s. I find awesome that you stick with what you believe is right and I hope you always will! :)
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reader, Jodiesmith +, writes (22 September 2008):
wow your so mature for your age!! well done for not falling for the old I love you now lets have sex - and also well dont for not sleeping with everyone and anyone!!
Its a shame but most guys are like that at that age - because its quite new to them - plus all their mates are talking about it - and they have this idea that it makes them a man - remember women mature faster than men, just stick to your guns and dont be pushed into anything unless your ready and i promise it will get better -
good luck
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reader, Jodiesmith +, writes (22 September 2008):
wow your so mature for your age!! well done for not falling for the old I love you now lets have sex - and also well dont for not sleeping with everyone and anyone!!
Its a shame but most guys are like that at that age - because its quite new to them - plus all their mates are talking about it - and they have this idea that it makes them a man - remember women mature faster than men, just stick to your guns and dont be pushed into anything unless your ready and i promise it will get better -
Im so proud of you, you sound like a great person!! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Hormones. Nature wants us to procreate. Some guys are more influenced by their hormones than others. It's hard to find young guys who realize there is more to life than "doing it". I am glad to hear that you think sleeping around so much when you are young (or at any age, really) isn't the best idea. You sound like you've got it together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): In a word, Hormones.
I'm wondering quite how to put this in the simplest terms possible, but here goes:
In the grand scheme of things man was put on earth to sire children, anyone's children, to perpetuate his species and that is his only purpose. Rather like the mayfly which emerges from the lake, mates and dies, and the female mayfly which, having mated, lays her eggs and dies. The only real difference between humans and mayflies is the timescale!
To achieve his aim the man (or boy) must first get excited enough, and then get your clothes off to reach his goal. He will get excited once he has a handful of your boobs. If you remove your clothes for him and he'll consider he's on a home run.
Women were put on earth to bear children, but it was also programmed into them to be selective about who would be a suitable father to her children, which is where your reluctance to go any further with these boys comes into play. You're selecting them out so far.
You'll find the right partner sooner or later, but in the meantime it's a simple selection process. You'll know when you find him because he'll be kind and considerate, he'll take your feelings into account and place them above his own, you'll fall madly in love with each other, get married, and you'll want him to be the father of your kids.
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