We were friends with benefits, now I want a serious relationship, can I trust him?
Q. Alright so we started out as a one night stand about 3 years ago when I was 16 and he was 23. After that we became friends with benefits and remained that way for a long time, while I was completely in love with him. I started applying pressure to ...
A. 6 November 2007: Give yourself time. Sometimes we are too hard on yourselves because we truly don't realize how much we are asking. Letting go of even a bad relationship is a lot of stress, so you need to find ways to cope when you do it. Don't rely on yourself ... (read in full...)
Scared of the consequences of getting more sexually involved...
Q. Hello, I'm a 21 yr old female currently in a relationship. This is my first boyfriend actually. I do want him and care for him a lot, i feel i've grown a lot thanks to him in many ways. I feel more confident about my looks and my way with people ...
A. 3 November 2007: Get married to him. You all should be talking about marriage not sex. I feel this way very strongly, and I know both sides of the story - the "conservative" religious old-world way and the anything goes don't think twice American way, and I've come ... (read in full...)
Help! I am so worried my guy is going to cheat on me for a hot chick.
Q. Hi, anyone able to help with crazy fears about my boyfriend meeting somebody hotter than me. Basically anytime I go out with my boyfriend if we come in contact with a very attractive hot girl I get totally uncomfortable and feel so upset( I dont s...
A. 2 November 2007: It could be one of two things or both. It could be you, it could be him, or it could be both of you. You could be really insecure. You don't have to be the hottest chick in the world to feel relatively secure in yourself - and I say self and not... (read in full...)
We were friends with benefits, now I want a serious relationship, can I trust him?
Q. Alright so we started out as a one night stand about 3 years ago when I was 16 and he was 23. After that we became friends with benefits and remained that way for a long time, while I was completely in love with him. I started applying pressure to ...
A. 1 November 2007: I am going through similar things right now. I have my ex's flowers in my room and a teddy bear that smells like him but I know that its a dead end. He's never going to change all the things that bothered me enough about him to break up than get ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend cheated and now I don't trust him?
Q. Hiyah, well this is probably gonna be reali confusin n long and you're all gonna think omg when you read it but its worth a go.. I'm 13 and I got with my bf in feb.. at the beginning everything was fine.. I trusted him round other girls and when ...
A. 29 October 2007: Everybody goes through phases where you want to stay in your own little world, completely oblivious to reality, like an ostrich with its head stuck in the sand. In your world you have a relationship with problems, in reality you have a guy who is ... (read in full...)
What does he mean when he says he has fallen for me but doesn't want a relationship?
Q. hiyyya, i'm really baffled a little help can go a lonnnnng way in makin me feel more LESS confused haha welllll... i've liked this lad for a while and only recently found out that he likes me back! :D massive complication though :( he's been t...
A. 29 October 2007: The way I see it is - its a good thing. A relationship really means sex. If he is saying he doesn't want one it might mean he doesn't want you for sex. You are both still so young, you really have to define what a relationship means to you before ... (read in full...)
How can I move on?
Q. I was 17 when I fell in love for the first time. I know people will read this and think that 17 is too young to be in love but I'm 23 now and I know without a doubt that there was love between us and I've never been able to recreate those feelings. ...
A. 28 October 2007: It is very difficult at this age to get your feelings in check. I think that life's biggest lesson its unpredictability: one day you are on top of the world, the next minute you've lost everything. Abraham Lincoln, of of America's greatest ... (read in full...)
I'm confused and very angry.
Q. Hello I don't know if you can help but this is driving me mad. I was married and wife had affair so i divorced her. I'm 38 and met a woman online over two years ago. We chatted for around 4 month. Being totally upfront and honest about our pas...
A. 28 October 2007: Maybe when you met her you were still "on the rebound". Your past with being cheated on by your wife was still in the front of your mind and you needed a friend more than you did a girlfriend, so you could be totally honest and talk to her about ... (read in full...)
Husband acting strange about escourt wife's activities.
Q. i am working in an in-call escort service and i am married. i love my hubbie and we have a pretty good sex life, but he is getting older and wants sex less frequently. but that is no problem for me, since as an escort i am getting all the sex i ...
A. 28 October 2007: Sexual boundaries are very dangerous to cross, one way or the other. It might have ruined your relationship with your husband already, something that is much trickier to fix than money issues.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I once went out with a guy for one year and six months. Then we broke up because of a big argument we had. We had many arguments before - but we had got past them. After a month of trying to get him back I gave up and I have had five other ...
A. 27 October 2007: You should definitely tell him. In fact, I advice people to always be honest with friends of the opposite sex about their true feelings for them. It's only fair - to him and to you. His decision doesn't define your happiness though - remember that, ... (read in full...)
Long story - I need advice please...
Q. Okay, here is what I need advice on. I've been seeing this girl for almost 2 years. the last 8 weeks has been the hardest. She has a friend that lives in San Fransisco. 8 weeks ago she goes up to hang out with her friend. She likes to go out to ...
A. 27 October 2007: This her sleeping with you and another guy and lying to you thing - not good. Not to mention dangerous. You need to grow a backbone and stop sleeping with her whenever she's lonely. Then stop doing mean things to her or whoever you are going to be ... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend doesn't listen to me, am I a control freak?
Q. Hey everyone i have been in a long distance relationship for a year and a month and we havent seen eachother since this due 2 immigration issues and i was deported from Canada. I am in Portugal this is the story things at this point is really ...
A. 26 October 2007: I feel really bad for you, really. I just broke up with a very jealous, controlling, dishonest (also angry and alcoholic) boyfriend and I feel bad for him too. The thing is, in my case, after a while I just got to the point where things weren't ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and involved with 2 guys and a girl and still feel the need for more!
Q. hey you guys...I am in serious trouble. I am a 16 year old girl and I am currently involved with 2 guys and a girl. I have a problem where I am always looking for more heat and I will go to any measures to get it. One of the men is 47 and happens to ...
A. 26 October 2007: You sound like a sex addict. I would check into that. What you are doing is very dangerous, very emotionally destructive and the more you keep going the worse you'll spiral out of control. You are deffinately missing something in your life: you are ... (read in full...)
His text messages gave the game away! What should I do now?
Q. theres this guy i like. ALOT. we arent together yet but we ae thinking of it. recently he came round mine and asked if he could use my phone charger as it is the same as his. he went out of the room for about 20 mins or so. i found myself read...
A. 26 October 2007: I would agree with the people before me who said he sounds like a player and he shouldn't be sending sexually charged messages and telling you he loves you at the same time. Young people are way too permiscuous these days and also too willing to ... (read in full...)
He says he has a 'business relationship' with a previous paid escort to him
Q. My husband has been seeing escorts for a few years (not sure just how many), I found out 2 years ago. He says the physical part is over (I'm not so sure about that); but he has a business relationship with a previous provider. Really! He writes ...
A. 23 October 2007: From how he is acting - and even the term "provider" - shows that he still sees nothing wrong with seeing escorts, even if he might not be doing it anymore. Is it just a business relationship or a friendship as well? If you think about it in a ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to expect him to love me again?
Q. I was married for 28 years until he started staying away from home and told me he loves me but he is not "in love with me anymore". After trying for months to work things out I moved out. Once a week he visits me and we have sex because he says he ...
A. 23 October 2007: After 28 years, you'd think you are entitled to each other, but now he wants something different. He's obviously wrong. How are you "not in love" after 28 years? You two belong together. You are trying to give him the excitement of new circumstances ... (read in full...)
He gets defensive about the ex girlfriends that keep calling and that makes me more nervous! What should I do?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years. But his ex girlfriends still call him, alot. I have asked him to stop talking to them, or at least tell me when he does. ( he had been hiding it and I found out through a friend) He gets ...
A. 20 October 2007: You have to be careful how you approach this problem, so that he would be willing to talk about it without getting defensive. Talk to him. Tell him you want an honest relationship. Let him see that you are vulnerable instead of attacking him. ... (read in full...)
Women, on a date for coffee, what questions would annoy you?
Q. Girls, if you met a guy and went for a coffee, would you be annoyed if he asks about you, such as what do you usually do in your spare time? what colours do you like? what kind of music do you listen? whats your hobbies?,etc.....What questions will ...
A. 20 October 2007: Do not ask what colors she likes. That question stops being popular with girls after the age of 6. Conversation is an art. People just sit around and think of the best most intriguing thing to say. Do not have a list of questions prepared, this is ... (read in full...)
Regarding sex, I want to reject my husband on our date tonight to show him how I feel when he constantly does it to me!
Q. Sex is great when we have it, we just don't have it that often. We have sex maybe once a week to appease me. That's not what I want and how I want it. I want him to want it/me. He says he does when questioned but he does not show it and does not say ...
A. 20 October 2007: I'd say the problem is the porn addiction. ... (read in full...)
A few questions regarding a woman I'm attracted to... Even though I'm married...
Q. I met this woman at a lunch party last May and ever since I have been very attracted to her. I am in love with her and told her so. I am married, 34 years old while this woman is 36. My wife and I have a great relationship but she is out of the ...
A. 20 October 2007: Good! I am really glad for you. Stick to that decision and make friends with men instead.... (read in full...)
I'm a proffessional hacker, but I don't like what I've found. What shall I do?
Q. I'm 30 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. I've known him for 6-7 years. We were friends before anything. I moved from one coast to have. But I am highly insecure which causes me to snoop. I ama professional in Computer spyware ...
A. 19 October 2007: I am so sorry! You are obviously in love with a pathological lier and an unrepentant cheater. You've tried to salvage this relationship, and that's fine, I am always on the side of giving people second chances, but now there's just no reason to ... (read in full...)
Regarding sex, I want to reject my husband on our date tonight to show him how I feel when he constantly does it to me!
Q. Sex is great when we have it, we just don't have it that often. We have sex maybe once a week to appease me. That's not what I want and how I want it. I want him to want it/me. He says he does when questioned but he does not show it and does not say ...
A. 18 October 2007: I'd reject him and tell him exactly how you feel right now, just like you are saying it here: it's better to have nothing.You need to be reassured that he still loves you, that's what's important - not even so much the sex. Don't mean to throw coal ... (read in full...)
A few questions regarding a woman I'm attracted to... Even though I'm married...
Q. I met this woman at a lunch party last May and ever since I have been very attracted to her. I am in love with her and told her so. I am married, 34 years old while this woman is 36. My wife and I have a great relationship but she is out of the ...
A. 18 October 2007: You are really setting yourself up to get screwed in this situation... and possibly screwing up her life if she's stupid enough. ... (read in full...)
A few questions regarding a woman I'm attracted to... Even though I'm married...
Q. I met this woman at a lunch party last May and ever since I have been very attracted to her. I am in love with her and told her so. I am married, 34 years old while this woman is 36. My wife and I have a great relationship but she is out of the ...
A. 18 October 2007: I would be really interested to see other what people say about this... Personally, I think this woman is trying to figure you out. A part of her rejects you as a jerk and part of her sees the nice guy in you. She's lonely and you fill a space in ... (read in full...)
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