New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

I think my boyfriend cheated and now I don't trust him?

Tagged as: Cheating, Teenage, Troubled relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (29 October 2007) 10 Answers - (Newest, 7 February 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hiyah, well this is probably gonna be reali confusin n long and you're all gonna think omg when you read it but its worth a go.. I'm 13 and I got with my bf in feb.. at the beginning everything was fine.. I trusted him round other girls and when he went out with his mates but now I dnt no if i can?!?! Well my bf was as we'd call a bit weird when I first started goin out wiv im.. well he wasn't exactly popular.. and now well hes like.. well every1 wants to get with him and about a month ago when we were goin out he started actin real weird with me, he wasnt talkin kissin or even lookin at me.. nd evry time i went dwn 2 c him or try to talk 2 im he'd jus blank me. Then at our youth club he arrived with a loada girls.. i personally don't like any of em no matter how nice they can be but thats jus me.. nd i jus broke dwn. i couldnt stop cryin then the followin monday he finished me.. he broke my heart /3 . i didnt sleep all nite, everyone said he'd cheated on me nd i think he even admitted it 2 ppl but when i asked him he denied it.. then on the friday we were just so close.. he acted like we were still goin out even tho we werent.. i loved him so i just played along.. apparantly he'd got off with lots of other girls and kissed other girls but "for a dare" .. i dnt kno bout u but i dnt du kissin ppl for a dare when your in a relationship. then he gt a gf.. they'd kiss nd stuff in front of me and it broke my heart 2 see this. we'd still hang around 2getha so i stil went dwn 2 see him bt after 3 weeks of not bein 2gethah he asked me bak out.. well got his m8 to so i didnt hav chance 2 talk 2 im properly i sed ye.. soo now ive been bak with him 4 a week nd at skwl 2dai his ex has been sayin that this girl wanked him off dwn tha park y.day he says its a load of rubbish bt i dno. hes always with girls nd i get jealous if hes even talkin 2 his ex.. i wna talk 2 im bout it bt i dno wt 2 say!?! and and i dont wanna lose him! Please help!! x x x x

View related questions: cheated on me, his ex, jealous

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008):

OH MY GOD! You are 13 for god's sake! Get over him, focus on school. These kinds of things will happen to you many many more times, because this is just the way life is. GET OVER IT!

<-- Rate this answer

A male reader, Uncle Trev United Kingdom +, writes (30 October 2007):

I would attempt to reply to this question if I could read it.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, tulipdame United States +, writes (29 October 2007):

Everybody goes through phases where you want to stay in your own little world, completely oblivious to reality, like an ostrich with its head stuck in the sand. In your world you have a relationship with problems, in reality you have a guy who is more interested in his friends' approval than in any girl, including you, and takes commitment very lightly. He might be an attractive person and he might have a soft side that draws you, but he doesn't deserve to be loved as you love him. You do love him, I feel.

What I have learned works in situations where I feel this beautiful incredible thing for someone who's would involve me in a really ugly situation is I just separate reality and my dreams. I am cold to the person on the outside, but I am in love with them on the inside. I save all his messages, but I return his phone calls, you know? Just hold on to your memories until someone new comes along, that way you have some fuel to keep you feeling like at one point you were loved while you wait. Good luck, I believe you can do it!

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Gemini1506 United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2007):

Omg your 13, yeah in your age group you may seem like you have it all wrked out. do you seriously wna get wrked up by one guy? Your meant to be having the time of your life. He's a bastard for hurting you and it sounds to me that he really ent worth it.

Dont let him make you feel down, your probably too pretty to be sad. What ever he's put you through rise above it and show him your better than that.

Serioulsy i wou;dnt get back with someone who could easily kiss someone else because some ppl told him to

xx

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, xLamentedxAmourx United States +, writes (29 October 2007):

xLamentedxAmourx agony auntI do not mean to be mean, but I have a problem with girls your age. Well, at least with you, you stayed committed and did not break up with you because you "Could not take it anymore."

ANYWAY ...

If he is going to cheat on you and shit, why bother? He is not going to stop cheating, and does not want to be with you. I am guessing he is 13 - 14? Guys that age a dipshits, just space yourself and do things for you. Try to live again without him in it. Soon you might find someone else is worth it.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, rockelle United States +, writes (29 October 2007):

rockelle agony auntIt sounds like this guy is doing what young guys do, they play the field. You and he are too young to be in a relationship anyhow. It sounds like he makes you sad more often than he makes you happy. That is not a good sign. Maybe you should concentrate on some other things and let him pursue you.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, lis81 United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2007):

lis81 agony aunthey there look ur are very young to be worrying about things like this forget the boy concentrate on your school work and your friends as your friends will always be there for you boys wont !! trust me i know one day you will find the one when you`re old enough who you wont even have to worry about if he`s cheated or not cuz you will be soulmates and trust each other 100% so have fun while you`re young i wasted my childhood with boys and its taking me till i`m` 26 to find the right one !! take care

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, elliebellie United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2007):

omg!! lol yup its long! im 13 as well so we have summing on common. i think you shud just get rid of him. im sorry if that sounds really mean but hes causing you all of this heartache and you sed u were up all night once. let everyone c him as a jerk and walk away. there are loads of ova guys out dere hu wud appreciate u and treat u a lot beta. hope everything goes well and this helps

lol

ellie

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007):

oK, i'm 13 and iv put myself in your shoes. gr8 txt lingo btw! lol. ok, well 1st i wld say tht hes not worth it, if YOU dont feel comfortable about him being with other irls, then the chances are that he will cheat on you. Ask him again, looki him in the eye and say, "Listen, I've heard loads of rumors about you and your ex. I want to know if this true. I'm only saying this once, so listen. If you lie to me, or I find out that you lied, then I'll never go out with you again so don't expect me to take you back, so you better come clean now." Then if he denies it, then try and trust him, but if you hear more rumors, try and find EXACTLY where they're coming from cos it might be a jealous ex. But if he admits it, just walk away and DON'T look back. I know it's easier said than done, but it works. I know.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, dapone 1 United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2007):

dapone 1 agony aunthello.

seems that you have become involved in a multiple love triangle, come on babe this guy is no good for you, he is playing on your emotions so that he can be with you and when it suits him and with other girls as well.

This is no way for him to play you like this, you need to be treated a lot better, do you not realize how wonderful you are, why are you letting this happen to you, he does not care about your feelings why would he turn up to your club with other girls for, when he knew that you were there, what a total pudding head.

I now it is really up to you, but i would drop this triple timing, using a nice person like you, pudding as soon as possible, so that you can meet Mr nice guy who will adore you, and respect your feeling, and not turn up with loadsa girls on his arm, do not cry any more over him he is not worth your tears, OK BABE.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "I think my boyfriend cheated and now I don't trust him?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0468764999968698!