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writes:Girls, if you met a guy and went for a coffee, would you be annoyed if he asks about you, such as what do you usually do in your spare time? what colours do you like? what kind of music do you listen? whats your hobbies?,etc.....What questions will make you annoyed and not comfortable, questions that will turn you off... Reply to this Question
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reader, tulipdame +, writes (20 October 2007):
Do not ask what colors she likes. That question stops being popular with girls after the age of 6. Conversation is an art. People just sit around and think of the best most intriguing thing to say. Do not have a list of questions prepared, this is not a televised interview. Just try to relax around her and let the conversation come to you, whether it is a question or some statement about your experience. Of coarse, there are basic things you want to know about any person such as their background, how many siblings they have, their education, but you just gotta dig around a little bit, like knocking on a wall to find the part that sounds hollow until you find something that really makes them tick and makes the conversation interesting. Just try to really learn what kind of a person she is and let her know who you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): dont just quickfire questions. if she is on a subject dont change it until there is silence, and then either say something related to that subject or ask a question. but if it is too random she will think you werent listening.just watch will smith in 'Hitch', great pointers there.good luck !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Just ask a few question or it will turn into an interrogation! Never ask her age unless she tells you. She will also tell you about her past if you two become and item but never ask about it. Keep it light and you will be fine.
take care
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (20 October 2007):
 they're all fine but be careful how you put them across. personally i dont like being asked outright "so what are your hobbies?" i just think its a cheesey question and it feels a bit awkward and like being interviewed. but maybe thats just me. keep it relaxed and friendly, you could talk about things you already know you have in common ie where did you meet her? do you know where she works? you could ask her about that - if she likes it etc. make sure you smile lots and keep your body language open and friendly and use lots of eye contact, be confident and RELAX. that pretty much guarantees a good date.
the worst date i ever went on was when i was 18 and it consisted of sitting in his car in a car park talking for about 6 hours (which i actually loved) but straight away it was question after question: whats your birthday? whats your mums name? do you have any pets? are you a virgin? what do you drive? whats your longest relationship? what kind of boys do you like? seriously he threw them at me one after the other and it felt like an interview rather than a date. its fine to ask questions of course but try to keep it flowing as a conversation with questions rather than question answer question answer. you know what i mean? then he started telling me how amazing his ex was and that he once had sex with his boss in her office at work. steer clear of ALL of these things lol. ex talk is such a no-no.
just be yourself, dont put too much pressure on it and have fun
good luck
brooke
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Its fine to ask questions on a date, just not too many. This way you let the girl know you are interested in her, and keeps the conversation flowing. Just try not too ask questions that are too personal or things that are really boring like "what did you have for tea last night?" and remember to talk about yourself a bit too. Good luck!
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (20 October 2007):
 None of them questions would annoy me, there normal questions to ask out on a date, because to me a dates like a test, and you wanna find out what shes like to see if its worth taking things further. But if i went out on a date and the guy was a total mush and kept saying mushy complimentary things then that just reads desperation. Another, dont even mention an ex, ive had a few men go... "oh god yeah my ex girlfriend was a total friends freak" or anything remotely similar, even a mention of an ex girlfriend, will put a girl off, becuase it will make her think you havent gotten over your ex, even if you have, the girl wont think that. Just be yourself and you`ll be fine, talk about each others hobbies and what youve done in life, things that will have impressed her. If your jobs interesting talk about that. But the most important thing is that your comfortable and confident on the date, confidence shows. Make sure you have a laugh with her, girls like humourous guys, but not too much humour. Im making us women seem hard to please and your only going for a coffee haha. Sorry. But anyway you`ll know if she likes you, coz she`ll smile, agree with things you say and get excited if shes done the same things as you etc. Hope this helps. Let us know how the date went :)
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