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writes:hey you guys...I am in serious trouble. I am a 16 year old girl and I am currently involved with 2 guys and a girl. I have a problem where I am always looking for more heat and I will go to any measures to get it. One of the men is 47 and happens to be my English teacher. I find him extremely attractive and I am coinstantly all over him. The other guy is my step brother..yes yes I know it sounds wrong but he is soo hot. The woman is a girl in my class. I cannot break away from any of these people and I cnanot stop touching them. I love who I am and I love the people I am involved with but something is missing...is it possible that I need more lovers in my life? PLease help me! I am so confused! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2007): It sounds like you are not emotionally fulfilled, and that may be why you feel like something is missing. If you continue having sex with these people, I think sooner or later you are going to start having strong feelings of love for one of them, compared to the others. As far as your stepbrother, there is nothing wrong with you having sex with him as long as you both want to do it and enjoy it. You are only 16 and are probably just going through a phase. If you feel this is a problem, you can see a therapist you can help you work through any issues you have.
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reader, YellooFish +, writes (26 October 2007):
It sounds as if your a sex addict this is very dangerous! Please dont do this as there is many consiquences such as your teacher could get arrested because of underage policies! Please stop because you could also get hurt along the way.
The need for more is a side affect for having so many partners. Just get rid of 2 or all or ease your way down because you obviouly dont love all 3 of them for future relationships they are sex partners! think about STD
Listen to this advice!
Yelloofish
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reader, tulipdame  +, writes (26 October 2007):
You sound like a sex addict. I would check into that. What you are doing is very dangerous, very emotionally destructive and the more you keep going the worse you'll spiral out of control. You are deffinately missing something in your life: you are involved with women, so do you talk to ANYONE who is not sexually involved with you? There's a lot of pain usually underneath when someone acts like that that the person is deathly afraid of having come to the surface - see a book called "Virgin Suicides". Until you deal with what's really troubling you you are not really living. And worse - with time you will harden so you need to address this ASAP! Private message me if you think there's more I can talk to you about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): You have a serious issue!!! You should get rid of the 3 of them and find real love!! love is not sex what you like about those 3 is sex and not more. and you should definitely break up with you teacher!! he could be your father which is discustting sorry harsh but true!!!
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reader, Gemini1506 +, writes (26 October 2007):
Do you not care that you may hurt one of these people? You dont need more heat you have issues. Do you feel like you need to be with someone to feel that way, cause love yoou dont. Stop before it gets out of control, your sixteen you shouldnt have to worry about these things. If u still feel like you need 'more' lovers, i think you should talk to someone
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reader, Serinity +, writes (26 October 2007):
 What is possible that you need ONE lover and some counsiling. Was your father in your life when you were growing up? If so, did he ever give you any attention? If you truley love someone, it only takes that one person to fulfill your wants and desires. It seems to me you just haven't found TRUE love yet. Maybe that's what you need to calm your hormones. Right now your just experiencing LUST, and lust and love are very different. Best Wishes.
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reader, Emzy1591 +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Ok...what ur doing is slightly....wrong.
Why dont u just pick one of them (probably best not to be ur stepbrother) and try n have a relationship with them. Being in a deep and meaningful relationship with someone you love is always more fufilling then having 10 or so lovers under your belt. If you still need sexually satisfying then spice things up with that partner you chose to be in a relationship. I think thats the thing you are missing.
Also think about all the hurt you would cause if any of them found out. You would lose them as a partner but also as a friend and will get a repuatation and no one will want to come near you. Harsh, but true.
In my opinion, dating more people at the same time as the other 3 your currently dating will tangle you even more in a web that you wont be able to get out of.
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reader, honkifuluvnicole +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Im very jealous that you are involved with your English teacher, I want my english teacher so bad.
anyways, i think its normal to want more than one. just limit yourself, you know? be strong and pull away from maybe all of them
dont end it badly, say you need a break.
try to find someone that you really like, and maybe something will develop over time.
its worth a try.
best of luck
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