Am I wrong in thinking he's got too many ex's and too much baggage?
Q. I had a first date recently, it went pretty well. He did however have a few ex girlfriends still in his life. One a psycho stalker,his words not mine.Another who visits him for weekends sometimes.Plus one or two others He asked for a 2nd date, ...
A. 17 June 2012: Yes YOU ARE RIGHT! Stick to your guns, this guy will only bring you misery. He probably doesn't like to be the one who gets dumped which is why he is trying to persuade you to keep seeing him. Don't be reeled in by this guy.
In my experien... (read in full...)
Friendship with the ex???
Q. Me and my ex broke up a year ago, was very messy, we were together for a year and a half. I have a new boyfriend, everything is great, I love him to pieces. I don't think about my ex in any way other than a friend but my current boyfriend has a pr...
A. 17 June 2010: Hi,
You need to respect your current boyfriend's feelings on this one I think. Not everyone is comfortable with the idea of ex partners hanging around in the background as "friends". You were once emotionally and sexually involved with that per... (read in full...)
Symptoms of pregnancy or a reaction to the pill?
Q. so, my boyfriend and i have been having a lot of unprotected sex, where he also finishes inside me. i have only been on birth control pill for a month now. i just got my period today(when i was supposed to according to my pills) but its just a thick ...
A. 14 April 2010: Hi,
Your symptoms sound very similar to the symptoms I had when I was taking Microgynon 30 (a contraceptive pill which didn't agree with me). I also thought I was pregnant! It's very unpleasant. You should see your doctor a.s.a.p. and tell her... (read in full...)
Anxious about body changes from taking the pill.
Q. I have never been on the pill but I am getting quite a bit of hair on my neck and chin, I have made an appointment with my doctor and my friend says she will probably test my hormone levels, how do they do that? I have googled the pill and the...
A. 8 April 2010: Hi,
I used to take Dianette for my acne and had no problems with it. I took it for 6 years although the nurse later told me I shouldn't have been on it for that long! Anyway, I never had any weight issues whilst taking Dianette, or any problems... (read in full...)
Is an intensive driving course worth doing?
Q. Hi, I'm hoping for some opinions/ feedback. Do u think an intensive driving course is worth doing? I have failed my test 3 times- each time making more mistakes. I found a 12 hour course split over 2 days and then you take the test. It's £350 but ...
A. 8 April 2010: Hi,
I am in the same position as you regarding driving lessons/tests. I too have failed for the third time and been having lessons once/twice a week for over a year. However, I did make less mistakes than before on my last test.
I know how fr... (read in full...)
Should I believe he is being genuine when he said he doesn't want to be anyone's boyfriend right now?
Q. First off, i have been dating and trying to keep busy. Was with my ex for 3 and a half years..it was petty stuff i think that broke us apart.. fighting over things i regret.. no one cheated.. we did have alot of love.. he broke it off... a year la...
A. 1 April 2010: He's keeping you dangling which is selfish! Leave him alone, don't call him, let him call you and when he does, tell him how busy your social life is and how you've been asked out loads (i.e. you're spoiled for choice) ;) If he doesn't want to be in ... (read in full...)
My partner seems confused, he wants to break it off then he doesn't. Help!
Q. hi, where to start, Been with my partner only a short period of time but in that time things have been really good, we have met each others families, friends and all get on very well. Every couple has a moment and we had one at 6 months and worke...
A. 31 March 2010: Hi,
I have been in this position myself with a guy and I agree with softtouchmale2003. His comments are spot on.
I just want to tell you that I gave my ex some 'time out' in the hope that he would get his head together and we could continue w... (read in full...)
Is his behaviour obsessive?
Q. I have recently begun dating a guy. We have a six year gap between us and at the start, before we went out, we chatted on Facebook. In our relationship at the moment, he is clearly more interested in me than me to him. During our web chats, he ...
A. 21 March 2010: Hi,
It sounds to me as though this guy is really into you and he wants you to know that. But if you don't feel the same way then you need to explain it to him. Maybe even consider ending the relationship if it doesn't feel right for you.
On t... (read in full...)
All of a sudden he tells me he needs to break up because he can't be in a relationship right now...
Q. Hi everybody, i have just broken up with my bf of a year. And i am very upset, we were so good together and we were very much in love. You could say it was a whirlwind of a year - we became serious vey quckly and both of us fell deeply in love. I am ...
A. 18 March 2010: Trust me, you will come to terms with it but it does take time. I felt exactly like you are feeling now when my ex ended it with me. It's a horrible feeling. But those feelings come and go with time. You'll go through a cycle of all kinds of ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden he tells me he needs to break up because he can't be in a relationship right now...
Q. Hi everybody, i have just broken up with my bf of a year. And i am very upset, we were so good together and we were very much in love. You could say it was a whirlwind of a year - we became serious vey quckly and both of us fell deeply in love. I am ...
A. 17 March 2010: Hi, Sorry but it sounds as though he's had enough of being in a relationship altogether. He probably didn't give himself enough time to heal after his previous break-up. Sometimes people get straight into another relationship because it makes... (read in full...)
If he's dating again does that mean all hope of us getting back together is lost?
Q. Hi, My ex and I split up a few months ago but stayed in touch. We talked about getting back together but then had an argument and haven't seen each other for a few week and he told me he is dating someone else. We still have feelings for each other ...
A. 12 February 2010: Hi,
I was in this kind of situation myself a few months ago. We tried the staying in touch thing for a while but all that seemed to do was cause more emotional upset and damage. If he's dating other women then his heart isn't really with you is i... (read in full...)
Is Facebook reflecting how I fail socially in the real world?
Q. Sorry, but this is post about using a social networking site to validate my worth as a human being. I am on facebook and I am not popular on there, nor am terribly popular in real life. I'm like a leper of facebook actually. Less than 30 friends and ...
A. 8 February 2010: Social networking is so overrated! I think it's sad how it seems to have taken over our more personal forms of communication. People these days seem to be way too wrapped up in it. I'm not on Facebook either and agree with CaringGuy's comments!... (read in full...)
I really don't know how to move things forward with him or how he even feels about me?
Q. I find it incredible how one person can have such a massive impact on your life. I really want to be with someone so much, I have done nothing but think aboout him since our date. The thing is, i'm just not sure how this older man feels about me! ...
A. 8 February 2010: You need to ask him if he wants the same kind of relationship as you do. Don't keep your feelings bottled up, you need to communicate properly with this guy. Even if it turns out he doesn't feel the same as you, at least you will know and then ... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell my mum when my practical exam is in case I fail...
Q. I am about to take my practical exam in a few weeks, and am worried about it. I have decided to keep the test date to myself to Mum, her boyfriend and some of my friends. I am planning to share it with my friends nearer the day but for Mum and her ...
A. 3 February 2010: I take it that this is your practical DRIVING test you are referring to? If so, I would definitely recommend NOT telling your mum when you will be taking it. I'm taking mine again in March and have not told anybody yet. I certainly don't intend to ... (read in full...)
I'm so down about my love life, at 36 will I ever find love?
Q. Please help, I have cried myself to sleep the past 2 nights. Im 36 single and just unable to find love again. Since me and my ex, of 5 years split up 4 years ago, Ive gone from one disasterous relationship to another. I don't want him back, b...
A. 1 February 2010: It sounds as though you need to give yourself a break! You will find love again but these things usually happen when you least expect them to. I am also in my 30's with no kids and I went through a very painful break up recently with a man who I was ... (read in full...)
Would I be wise to take another chance with him?
Q. hello, i split with my boyfriend of three years, almost three months ago. The desicion was his, i tried all ways for us to stay together but at the time he was having none of it. we stopped seeing each other all together, as he lives a 1hr and ...
A. 1 February 2010: I think that because you have allowed this guy to stay in touch with you, even after you split, he may have got it into his head that he can hurt you, walk away and be with somebody else for a while, and yet still have contact with you and creep ... (read in full...)
His comments made me wonder "Is he just not that into you?
Q. I recently started dating a man who is 11 years older than me, we have known each other for a few years and been friends ever since. He was in a relationship until about 3 months ago and although it was always obvious that we found each other ...
A. 13 January 2010: It sounds as though this guy isn't ready for another relationship full stop. I mean come on, what relationship doesn't have complications, some bad times and a bit of drama? A very boring one in my opinion! If he only wants the good bits of a ... (read in full...)
Need of a Reality Check or Her!
Q. Happy New Year all, I hope it's been so far so good and possibly a fruitful year ahead. My question is regarding an ex I broke up with in early December. The back story is I'd been seeing this girl for around 2 months and I cannot tell you h...
A. 3 January 2010: I just read all of that and you have my empathy! I'm in a similar situation with my ex. Can't get him out of my head. Why do they always say 'You are wonderful but...'? It's just so cruel. I tried the 'just friends' thing and found it so ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of going to bars and nightclubs!
Q. Ok, i'm only 25 years old, but lately, i've been thinking that i'm really sick of going out to nightclubs and bars !. I get annoyed with loads of drunk guys trying to chat me up and dance with me, and one thing that happened recently got me kind of ...
A. 29 December 2009: Just tell her it isn't your thing any more. You've been there, done it and now you want a change. And there's got to be a better way to meet guys, right? If she takes offence, that's up to her...but a real friend would understand. Good luck :) ... (read in full...)
Getting your ex back through friendship - did it work for you?
Q. Hi, has anyone out there ever tried to win their ex-boyfriend by playing the friend card? Staying in life as a friend and hoping things take their natural course to reconciliation? thanks...
A. 28 December 2009: I just tried it for a month with my ex, in the hope he would have a change of heart. He dumped me then said he wanted to keep in touch and talk if I wanted to. We spoke about twice on the phone, I used to do most of the texting and it would take him ... (read in full...)
What is he thinking and how do I move on?
Q. Just wondered if you could give me some advice on my break-up please? Any comments or ideas would be greatly appreciated! So here it is - My ex boyfriend and I broke up just over 2 months ago. He is 27 and I am 28. We started off having a long...
A. 28 December 2009: Hello,
Having gone through a similar break-up myself a couple of months ago, I know some of what you must be feeling. We weren't living together but had been making plans to as he lived down south and me up north. He spent months telling me how m... (read in full...)
Trying to get over a very recent break-up during the holidays...
Q. Trying to get over a very recent break-up during the holidays...we were together about 9 mo, very close and believed we loved one another..we haven't been getting along on some things and we both agreed maybe we should go speak to a third party and ...
A. 26 December 2009: Yes, definitely stick with your decision if you don't want to be taken for granted. Sounds like your ex-girlfriend has too much emotional baggage from previous relationships. I'd say she needs to be on her own for a while until she knows what she ... (read in full...)
I am tempted to call or text him. Should I just do it or wait?
Q. My ex and i broke up over a year ago..not due to anything that couldn't be repaired..noone cheated..i know what i did wrong and my regrets and left him a voicemail in september. He called me back about 5 minutes later. I told him directly my ...
A. 26 December 2009: Hi,
I think 11 days is a long time, holidays or not! Why does this guy need so much space anyway? Either he wants you back or he doesn't. He either wants to be in a relationship or he doesn't. If you want to put your mind at rest, call him asap... (read in full...)
We're talking together after a year and are closer than ever... Is it possible we can get back together if we take things slowly?
Q. I can't be friends with this ex because it would be too hard. I went through a break up and after a year of no contact I still had feelings for him and contacted him and he said he can't jump back into this and it would be like starting over and he ...
A. 24 December 2009: I think you are wasting your time on this guy. You say you can't just be friends with him so what is your relationship with him at the moment? You are letting him mess with your head. If he can't give you a straight answer about getting back ... (read in full...)
Does he want me back but he's afraid? How to encourage him?
Q. T. and i were together as a couple for 7 months. Before that we both were alone for 3-4 years (we had sex with other people but not real relationships). We are both very attractive and social people, we picked each other right away, had a "one m...
A. 16 December 2009: Hi, I am in this kind of situation myself with a guy, although since I texted him how sick he makes me feel, he hasn't been in contact since. He said all those kinds of things to me, same as your guy said to you. He is being exactly the same... (read in full...)
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