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writes:I am about to take my practical exam in a few weeks, and am worried about it. I have decided to keep the test date to myself to Mum, her boyfriend and some of my friends. I am planning to share it with my friends nearer the day but for Mum and her boyfriend, I don't intend to say anything until I have taken the test, and know the result. This is because they have not shown much support in anything I do/done - in this case, if I pass they will be happy, but if I fail, I believe they won't let me forget it... however Mum believes that I should share it or I am not behaving in an adult like manner. But how can I possibly tell them if they are going to constantly remind me about it? Am I really childish? Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Man-of-questions +, writes (3 February 2010):
I agree with the below comment. It's taken me 4 attempts, soon to be a fifth, and I still can't pass. I feel pressure to pass. My Dad is really supportive but my mum makes me feel worse than I already do when I fail. So this time, only my Dad and my instructor know. Not even any of my friends have been told.
So no, you're not being selfish or childish at all. You are doing the test for you, for nobody else, and that means you should tell who you want. So just ignore your mother and focus on passing. You don't need the added pressure.
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reader, trueatheart +, writes (3 February 2010):
 I take it that this is your practical DRIVING test you are referring to? If so, I would definitely recommend NOT telling your mum when you will be taking it. I'm taking mine again in March and have not told anybody yet. I certainly don't intend to tell my mum. The last time I failed, she was more upset about it than I was and made me feel worse about it, which really annoyed me.
At the end of the day, this is something you are doing for YOU, not for other people. There's enough pressure on to actually pass the test in the first place without having the added pressure of family knowing (and teasing you)about it (before and after the event).
You are an adult and it is YOUR test, so if it feels better to not tell your mum then don't. Good luck!
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