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writes:Ok, i'm only 25 years old, but lately, i've been thinking that i'm really sick of going out to nightclubs and bars !. I get annoyed with loads of drunk guys trying to chat me up and dance with me, and one thing that happened recently got me kind of depressed.I liked this guy who was out one night. He was gorgeous, and seemed confident and polite, but I found out that he had a girlfriend.He tried to kiss me but i wouldn't let him. He said " i know what i'm like " so i took that to mean that he probably flirts with a lot of people, or maybe cheats. His girlfriend had left the club without him, so perhaps he had annoyed her somehow ?.Also, one of my friends who i usually go out with kisses every guy that chats her up , and i find it irritating. I know thats her business, but i shouldnt have to see that when i go out if i dont want to, and it makes me feel kind of left out too. She's a nice girl, but she seems pretty naive and vulnerable. And everytime a guy asks if she wants to leave the club and go somewhere else, she asks me if we can all leave, but i say no i want us to stay where we are. One reason is becasue i get annoyed with some of the guys, but also, it's for our own safety.I also love going to the theatre and concerts, and i wish i could find a guy with the same interests. I have plenty of female friends who like doing that.Even the friend i just mentioned likes doing that too, but i want to explain to her that i dont want to go out drinking very much now. How can i tell her without hurting her feelings ?.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 There´s nothing wrong with clubbing, in my opinion, but it´s all right not to enjoy it.
If you DO drink,though, then DO NOT DRIVE!!! JUST ONE DRINK is one too many and affects your judgement. A car is a huge piece of steel that weighs several tons... and can really devastate, in the wrong hands.
If the attention from guys makes you uncomfortable, you could always go to a gay bar?
Just a suggestion, maybe clubbing just isn´t for you!! Hey, different strokes for different folks.
If someone is TRULY your friend, they won´t turn their back on you. So you don´t like clubbing... is that a good excuse for your friend to ditch you?
I think you should suggest an activity you both enjoy... go out to dinner, or a day trip or a continuing education class.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 December 2009):
You tell her it would be nice to do something else instead. There are guys out there who like the theatre and concerts and such. And it could be a very good opportunity to meet guys who are not drunk and perhaps have more in common. Maybe even join an acting class if you like acting? Just tell your friends you'd like to do something else.
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 Just be honest and let her know how you are feeling. You have the right to let your friend know what YOU would like to do for a change! Just focus on your desires and not her behavior. Don't be judgemental.
And how about making plans with other friends to go to the theatre or a concert?
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reader, trueatheart +, writes (29 December 2009):
 Just tell her it isn't your thing any more. You've been there, done it and now you want a change. And there's got to be a better way to meet guys, right? If she takes offence, that's up to her...but a real friend would understand. Good luck :)
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