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writes:Please help,I have cried myself to sleep the past 2 nights. Im 36 single and just unable to find love again. Since me and my ex, of 5 years split up 4 years ago, Ive gone from one disasterous relationship to another. I don't want him back, but since me he has a child with someone else and is now in a different relationship and completely happy. I am over him, yet cry about him and get upset that I can't find love again. I go out all the time, internet date like there's no tomorrow, have loads of friends, am popular.. The guys I date want to go out with me but I don't like them. I starting to lose heart and it's now getting me down. Im 36 and have no kids and wonder if I will ever feel that great feeling of love again :-(x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): thank you curiousOhot - I stay out of my exes way, when Im out and he is out he always says stuff to me to try and have me hanging on to him forever lik "im jealous seeing you with someone else" and stuff like that,
I wouldnt ever confide in him, besides his ex won't allow he to say hello.
I dont want him,I just want to be in love with someone Im adore - I dont want to just settle with anyone, I just can't find him :-(
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reader, curious0hot  +, writes (2 February 2010):
 It is normal to feel upset/jealous when your ex appears to be doing better in some way than you. I say appears, because you never really know what exactly is going on in someone's life. I assume you guys aren't close friends that confide in each other.
You will find love, you just have to keep looking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2010): *** I am the original poster - thank you all,
I am usually such a happy, free spirit, its just these past few days it's all got on top of me. I guess I feel like I have no sense of direction.
I'm starting an Open University degree next week, something for me, so will throw myself into that and keep on smiling I guess. Perhaps ease up on the dates and relax a bit, step up the exercise a bit get those feel good endorphins going :-)
I feel better already for having some advice so thanks again all of you x
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reader, trueatheart +, writes (1 February 2010):
 It sounds as though you need to give yourself a break! You will find love again but these things usually happen when you least expect them to. I am also in my 30's with no kids and I went through a very painful break up recently with a man who I was convinced was 'the one'. It left me feeling so much despair.
I know what you must be feeling but sometimes you just have to stop putting pressure on yourself to find somebody. Try to concentrate on other things. Take up some new hobbies, keep yourself fit & healthy, anything to make yourself feel good whether you have a man in your life or not. You will find somebody eventually as I hope I will too. Don't panic and take good care of yourself :-)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2010):
Of course you will. My girlfriend went through a disastrous divorce and was just about ready to give up after meeting some crap men. Then one day she found me :). You will find someone, it will just take time. Guys already like you, so you know there is interest. It's just about meeting the right person (which isn't easy and usually happens when you're not looking). The most important thing is that you be happy for yourself, or good guys will think you're unhappy or desperate and run a mile.
Read that book PinkTopaz suggested too. I've never read it, but I'm sure it would be helpful.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (1 February 2010):
Get the book: How to be Wanted: Use the Law of Attraction to Date the Man You Most Desire and Live the Life You Deserve. By Romy Miller
I know the title sounds totally cheesy, but it's not. And it's not completely about men and dating, but getting the life you want. It got a lot of good reviews from other readers and I just started reading it and it's really good and easy to read; not a lot of pages. It will definitely make you feel better about yourself.
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