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... Send *raycie a private message | | | *raycie's profile:I am a very blunt and honest person. I have 3 young children and I am married we will celebrate our 1 yr wedding anniversary in August but we've been together for 3 yrs. I think im a good person to ask relationship advice from because i have been with some pretty horrible guys who treated me like i was nothing but a POS but i stayed with them until i finally had enough with all the emotional and physical abuse and i realized that i deserved so much better than this. I just turned 23 so im young and know what young people are going through. I think I can give pretty much any advice on any category I went through alot of struggles during my teenage years. I had a baby at 16 while i was in high school so if you are a single teenage mom or you are a teenager and pregnant and need advice i can definitely help well if there is anything else you want to know just ask |
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I definitely felt something but I don't know if I'm just being stupid?
Q. I've been really close friends with this guy for almost 3 years. We had a connection immediately because we are so alike but not long after we became friends we started going out with a girl I really don't get along with. Whenever I've been seeing a ...
A. 30 January 2011: The only way you are going to know how he truly feels about you is to straight up ask him. It does seem like you guys have a great connection with each other and that is very important in any relationship whether it just be friendship or a romance.... (read in full...)
When I try to leave he tells me I'm being selfish and to think of the kids!
Q. i have been in a relationship with this guy who is 19 yrs older than me for three years now and we have two small children together and we live together. he doesn't want to take me anywhere. he always have an excuse on why he don't take me anywhere ...
A. 30 January 2011: You're being selfish by staying with him and you are hurting you and your children. You are not happy and your children can see that and they feed off of it you are being emotionally abused and you need to get out now... (read in full...)
Concerned about fiance's relationship with a co-worker
Q. I just found out that my fiancee has been more than a little friendly with a married male work colleague. I always assumed their chats were fairly innocent seeing as they didn't communicate that often. But I did some snooping and I was shocked at ...
A. 30 January 2011: You need to tell her enough is enough and you're not taking this shit anymore. Tell her its not right for her to be doin what she's doin and she needs to stop and tell her how bad it is hurting you and if she doesnt stop tell her to kick rocks ... (read in full...)
He won't like it that I went out to the club -- should I tell him?
Q. So my frineds and I go Out To eat And after That they want To go To the club of course I'm the driver for tonight I'm engaged and I know if I tell him that we when to the club he is going to flip but I'm not drinking nor am i dancing with any guys ...
A. 30 January 2011: You have the right to go where ever you want to go. He is your fiance' not your daddy. If you want to go to the club then you should go. If your fiance has trust issues then maybe you should think about not getting married to him until his trust ... (read in full...)
I don't want an abortion but my boyfriend does
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 2 years, we moved in together on our 1 year anniversary and our relationship is great! He is 27 and he has 3 kids and I am 21 and I have 1 child that is 3, I've recently found out that I am pregnant ...
A. 25 September 2010: If you want to keep the baby then keep it. DO NOT let your boyfriend pressure you into having an abortion. Guys dont understand the emotional bond you automatically have to the baby when you find out your pregnant and they dont understand whats it ... (read in full...)
I know I did the right thing but my friends are making fun of me about it
Q. I want to start of by saying I know what I did was right BUT I hate the fact that my friends are still making fun of me for it. A few weeks ago my gf (of a 3 months) and I were at a end of summer party with a bunch of our friends, she was REALLY D...
A. 11 September 2010: You sir are a rare gentleman and a real man unlike ur so called friends who just seem like wanna be players. You did the right thing and your friends are idiots for treating you like. If i was at a party and I got trashed and somebody took advantage ... (read in full...)
I've taken 7 pregnancy tests and all were positive, but did I take them too early?
Q. i had sex like 3 to 5 weeks ago with no protection and im realy scared because 4 days ago i took only one pregnancy test and it came out positive so the next day like at 9 or 10 in the morning i took 6 more and they all came out positive but someone ...
A. 19 August 2010: If you had UNPROTECTED sex 3 to 5 weeks ago and you just took the test 4 days ago and all 7 came up positive then YES YOU ARE PREGNANT there is no such thing as a false positive there is only a false negative so talk to your doctor and set up an ... (read in full...)
The New Tough Love
Q. He was charming, sexy, funny, and all about me. From living in his brother's basement with his dog, I allowed him into my house with my three children. One by one the true colors were mind blowing. Each layer peeled back to show his verbal viole...
A. 8 August 2010: I love your spunk get that sucker for everything he has... (read in full...)
Lots of pregnancy questions!
Q. Is it okay to tan in a tanning bed while pregnant? Is it normal if you get sick in the heat even if your only in the heat for like 5mins while pregnant? Is it normal to eat a lot while pregnant? Is it normal to get sharp pains in your stomach wh...
A. 8 August 2010: Tanning beds are not safe in general they can lead to skin cancer and can have some defects on ur baby. Eating alot of food during pregnancy is perfectly normal. Getting sick n the heat is very common among pregnant women be sure to drink lots of ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex to lose virginity even though I don't think it will be as special to him as it is to me?
Q. I have been with my partner for three years and so far we only engage in oral sex. I havent been ready to go forward with full sex and he has been very understanding about this. However, now I am getting tired of being a virgin as I am 25 and its ...
A. 4 August 2010: You and your bf have been together for yrs and if he hasnt pressured you into sex then he is one hell of a guy. Your bf will think having sex with you is very special because he is so in love you and you mean the world to him just because he lost ... (read in full...)
Fancy my best friend's older brother, but can I tell if he likes me too?
Q. ok so my bestfriend that I've known since like 3rd grade has an older brother that I "fancy". He is only one year older than me and we stay up all night texting eachother and I've never thought of him this way but now that I'm older we've both ...
A. 4 August 2010: Lol the point is bcuz you guys are so close it should be easy for you to talk to him and tell him how you feel and i really dont think you'll ruin the relationship... (read in full...)
Fancy my best friend's older brother, but can I tell if he likes me too?
Q. ok so my bestfriend that I've known since like 3rd grade has an older brother that I "fancy". He is only one year older than me and we stay up all night texting eachother and I've never thought of him this way but now that I'm older we've both ...
A. 2 August 2010: Just put on your big girl panties and straight up ask him.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on my unless I'm shaved
Q. My boyfriend and I were talking about "what ifs". and it came up, "what if i was nine months pregnant and couldnt shave "down there"?" his response, "i wouldnt go down on you". my thought was arent you suppose to love someone even in there natural ...
A. 28 July 2010: The what ifs are way to hypothetical yes he should love you for you no matter but he is just a boy and if he wants you to shave down there before he goes down on you then tell him he needs to shave his parts before you go down on him i mean after ... (read in full...)
Should I call him?
Q. Okay, so I met this guy (let's call him Seth) this summer. We met in this out of town class that I went to. It lasted an entire week, so we saw each other a lot. I would frequently catch Seth looking at me instead of paying attention to the lessons. ...
A. 17 July 2010: These days age is just a number so if you guys like each other CALL HIM... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 5 years has become disinterested
Q. I'm a 27 year old guy and have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. We moved in together 2 years ago and for the first year everything was great, the 1st four years of our relationship was exactly what I wanted, we were communicative, we laughed, ...
A. 16 July 2010: Have you ever thought that maybe she is tired of what is going on now and maybe thinks that you guys would of already been at the next level of your relationship by now which would be getting MARRIED maybe she is starting to question whether or not ... (read in full...)
I'm scared. Should I tell someone what happened?
Q. so i was at my friends house the other night. it was around 1:30 am or sometihng close to that time when i fell asleep on her couch. her brother and her cousin where in her brothers room when i passed out. i woke up at around 2:30 to the feeling of ...
A. 13 July 2010: Tell somebody you trust about what happened and go see a counselor if that will help you too im sorry you were put in that situation ... (read in full...)
Help! Am I plan "B"???
Q. Ok so I met this guy and we started texting he was really sweet and we had a lot in common. We talked on the phone for 2 hours one night, and tried to get to know each other more. When we first started talking he said he wanted a relationship and ...
A. 12 July 2010: Dont waste your time with this worthless bum go out and find yourself a real man... (read in full...)
How can I let this go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing one another for 10 (ten) months now. I love him to bits, and everyone and anyone can see how head over heels I am for him. The only problem is I feel very insecure, because of something that happened in the ...
A. 12 July 2010: If you trust him and you trust your relationship then you'll just have to find a way to get over it just tell yourself that he loves you and wants you and he doesnt love or want her... (read in full...)
Opinions appreciated. Am I still a virgin... or not?
Q. hi so, im not sure if i lost my virginity, like his penis was in me but he was pretty thick and i was pretty tight and it was my first time so it was really sore, he pulled out though when i said i couldn't take it so does it mean im not a virgin? ...
A. 12 July 2010: Yes you did lose your virginity because he was inside you even though it was for a short period... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really controlling but I cant dump him because I have been with him for too long!
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for more than two years now and at first he was good but now he is controlling me. its that bad i cant go on the computer, msn, have facebook or even look and listen to boys on tv! i cant have boy mates or ...
A. 12 July 2010: Girl you need to grow a back bone and step up to your man and tell him look enough is enough and you're not gonna take his controlling crap anymore and if he has a problem with it then tell him to kick rocks and get to steppin ... (read in full...)
Women only: Do you like the "wife beater" t-shirts on guys?
Q. Dear Aunts, My boyfriend and I have made a bet. He says girls think guys look sexy when they wear those "wife beater" t-shirts. I say they look very tacky; especially worn without a shirt over them, and most girls think as I do. So this is w...
A. 12 July 2010: Wife beaters on guys who are built look totally hot in them but a guy who has way to much flab definitely SHOULD NOT wear them... (read in full...)
I snooped through his phone, how can I get his trust back?
Q. Hello everyone, Today I looked through my boyfriend's phone. I know it was wrong but I was just curious. Now hes terribly mad at me and won't speak to me. We live together and he is the love of my life. He put a lock on his phone and told me not ...
A. 12 July 2010: If he totally went off on you like that for looking through his phone then he has to be hiding something from you. There is just no way he would of gone off on you like if he wasnt up to something ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't make any special efforts to make me happy!
Q. hey all, I m in a weird situation n dnt knw wat to do. My boyfriend and I love each other and I know he cares a lot for me.But he is weird in many respects. Like he will not make any special effort to amke me happy. On my b'day this year..ofco...
A. 12 July 2010: There are very few men out there that remember everything and anything but he is typical guy and he does love you and maybe he does make you happy but just not in a really huge way he seems like a simple person or shows his love for you in the ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to hurt so much after this?
Q. i am 17 years old and last night my bf fingered me for the first time. Ive only ever read about what an amazing experience it is but it really hurt. I can barely even touch down there this morning because bits of it is still painful. Im guessing ...
A. 12 July 2010: Yes its normal to hurt after being fingered especially if it was the first you ever had any contact down there so you will be very tight and your boyfriend was probably a little rough but the pain will go away in a day or 2 but next time tell him to ... (read in full...)
Answer to the question most of the teenagers are asking... "Am I pregnant ?!"
Q. Am I pregnant?... This is probably the most asked question on this site. Girls and boys let me first say that if you're not ready to become parents ALWAYS USE A CONDOM OR TAKE THE PILL!!! This is VERY important. Remember this. OK back to the ques...
A. 12 July 2010: I do not believe that just because you are a teenager and if you get pregnant you should have an abortion thats crap. I was 16 yrs old when I had my son and i never once thought about having an abortion or giving my child up for adoption. I still ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend I dislike her new boyfriend?
Q. My friend has been dating this guy for a little over five months. Ive never met him, but from what she tells me, i dont like him. he is like 3 years older than here. He does drugs, and has been in trouble with cops a time or two, and he hurts her ...
A. 12 July 2010: You have the right as a friend to tell your friend that you dont like her boyfriend and you have the right to tell why you dont care for him BUT your friend has the right to stick up for her so called man and she might get mad at you but me ... (read in full...)
My heart is broken, how can I get over this?
Q. How do you get over a broken heart? 'Cause right now... mine is shattered! The guy i loved, just wanted me to give him oral sex... again... i admit i did it only once though, but then all he wanted to do was get me in the sheets. He said we were ...
A. 12 July 2010: You are hurting and you are mad and upset and angry and confused and it sucks to feel that way but you will get over it. It might not be today or tomorrow but you will. Next time you find a guy and he only wants to use you as his little toy tell the ... (read in full...)
I'm ready for sex at 13 but I don't have anybody to share my first time with!
Q. I AM READY for sex, but i don't have anybody to share my first time with. What should i do? I truly am ready, but i want the first time to be with a guy but i really am ready... what do i do?...
A. 12 July 2010: I'm sorry but i just have to ask you one very simple little question. ARE YOU CRAZY? You are a 13 year old CHILD. Nobody in their right mind is ready to have sex at 13. Your mind and body is not physically or emotionally ready to engage in something ... (read in full...)
The girls and the girls, the girls and the guys, then add a little bisexuality!
Q. My name is Ella and i have this bestfriend called Mia. Mia is bisexual and has only ever been out with two girls. Mia got me into being a bisexual but after two years I stopped feeling that way. I have a boyfriend called Jack and we have been going ...
A. 12 July 2010: My advice to you is if you've only been dating this guy for a week then its probably just lust and not love and if you are startin to like this other guy then you need to be fair to jack and joe and to yourself and end it with jack so you can ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him?
Q. So I have decided to break up with my boyfriend of 8 years but I dont know how to go about it, i'm really scared as I know he will be really upset with me. But I have been really unhappy for some time. I try to pretend that the way we are living and ...
A. 12 July 2010: You guys have been together for a very long know each other very well but because of how close and how long you have been together its going to hurt no matter what but the best thing you can do is just be totally honest with him sit down and calmly ... (read in full...)
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