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writes:I'm a 27 year old guy and have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. We moved in together 2 years ago and for the first year everything was great, the 1st four years of our relationship was exactly what I wanted, we were communicative, we laughed, sex was fantastic, and we both genuinely enjoyed each other's company. This was up until january, when she begin to be distant and moody, for no reason i can think of. After things coming to a head and me taking her aside and asking what was going on, she said she wanted to move out, although she still wanted us to be together. She moved in with her sister, i moved back in with my parents, and we carried on seeing each other. Ever since then, she blows hot and cold. For a few weeks we're as we were in the beginning years of our relationship, and then, for no reason, she'll become completely apathetic, not reply to texts or answer calls, and basically seem completely non-plussed. I have asked her how she feels and she answers with such a lack of enthusiasm that 'yes she does still love me and wants to be with me' that i now just think she's talking crap. I am contemplating ending the relationship because I am constantly stressing, and get brief bouts of paranoia, wondering whether there is another man involved or whether i am just being strung along for sex until something better comes along. If anybody has any ideas or has experienced anything similar, please enlighten me. I love her and care for her deeply but I don't want to be in a relationship where I am the only person interested in actually making it a relationshipCheers all x
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reader, LoveIsStrongerThanPride  +, writes (18 July 2010):
 I sort of agree with Traycie. I am in a similar situation. I have been with boyfriend 10 years and I have left him about 5 times. I want to get married and I want children, im 31 now and sometimes I feel like I just can't wait anymore but he is so clueless. He will just think i have a bad attitude or im being distant.
Probably you know where she is most of the time, right? If you want to give one last shot, go big and if she still acts this way or denies you then say goodbye.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2010): Ok, now from a woman's perspective.. Things aren't all about great sex and a boyfriend type of relationship. If I were her, depending on her tastes, I would say that you should stay with her but with some changes. Now you gotta take on a whole different persona. Act like you want to maintain the relationship, but not in a desperate way. Trust me, these thing will get some laughs from your girlfriend and laughing is a great ice breaker :). Show up at her doorstep in a nice outfit.. Like a business suits, not too classy. Hold up a nice assortment of pink flowers (or whatever color she likes) and ask her out on a date. Tussle your hair a bit; we're goin for high school crush type of look.
So the idea I guess would be... do everything you never did. Be different. Have fun :). Try n rekindle that spark. Maybe even take the time to redo your entire bedroom in sexy rose petals and lavender. It'll work
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 July 2010):
I think you should end it. I get the feeling that this girl thought she was ready for real commitment, but she really just isn't at all. You're right, you do seem to be there just for the sex and nothing else. It's not fair of her to play you like this, it's really not. You might be the safe bet until someone else comes along, there might be another man somewhere, or she might not be ready. But, in truth, she made the decision to move on, then the decision to move out. I just think you're wasting time with this woman. I really do. I don't like it when men and women waste other people's time like this and mess them around. It's cruel. You should end it, and you should meet someone else who is ready to commit.
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reader, Traycie +, writes (16 July 2010):
Have you ever thought that maybe she is tired of what is going on now and maybe thinks that you guys would of already been at the next level of your relationship by now which would be getting MARRIED maybe she is starting to question whether or not you guys are ever going to get married or if you just plan on dating her the rest of your life. It seems she's maybe being distant because she might be waiting for something big to happen between you guys like a wedding but thats just my opinion
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