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*odie sherwood
writes:i have been going out with my boyfriend for more than two years now and at first he was good but now he is controlling me. its that bad i cant go on the computer, msn, have facebook or even look and listen to boys on tv! i cant have boy mates or girl mates and its getting to a time i feel its getting worst. i have a best boy mate who treats me better than my boyfriend im not allowed to hang round with but we like each other, i dont know what to do and beacuse ive been with him for too long i cant dump him please help ????
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reader, babyV  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 what i think you should do is bring up the subject and tell him how you feel about it... and if he has friends that are girls then i would tell him he couldnt hang with them if you cant hang with your friends that are guys. this has happend to me and it worked for me and i hope this helped some...
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reader, helpme:] +, writes (12 July 2010):
A length of timw should not matter if you are in love. You have probably said too long because you are in love. If so all you can do is follow your heart but dont let your heart take over your head.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Being with someone "too long" doesnt exist. Your just not used to being away from him.
What you need to do is tell him how you feel and that it is not fair, he has gone too far, and that if he doesnt change you are leaving him. You need to do this, or else you are trapped. Get rid of him and live the life you should.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Of course you can dump him. People break up after 25 years!!!But if you plan to do this, at least explain what is wrong and give him the chance to change.
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reader, Traycie +, writes (12 July 2010):
Girl you need to grow a back bone and step up to your man and tell him look enough is enough and you're not gonna take his controlling crap anymore and if he has a problem with it then tell him to kick rocks and get to steppin
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): you are to young to be dealing with a controling bf, i have been married for 13yrs and he will try to be controlling sometimes but i always remind him that we asre equal in this relationship and if he doesnt like it the door is always open. you need to dump him 2 yrs is not long at all they are just life experience you'll learn as you grow up and find a new bf and remember what the last jerk was and don't make mistakes again, as a women you nees to stand for yourself and dont ever let a man rule you world. dont get that low always stand higher then him..DUMP HIM.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (12 July 2010):
 You're doing just what he hopes you will by acting this way. Dump him. You can definitely find someone who is not a jerk like him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): You have never ever been going out with someone too long to dump them!!! Don't let him isolate you I bet he wants you to feel like that
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (12 July 2010):
 OF COURSE you can dump him - and you must!
I suggest you enroll your parents in helping you deal with him - I suppose you're living at home with them? They can forbid him to come around, or to phone you, you know. at your young age your parents are supposed to protect you.....also talk to your school counsellor.....
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 By the sound of it, you've already admitted defeat by saying you can't dump him because you've been with him too long.
You have not been married for 15 years and have not had a family together.
He is just another boy.
You CAN dump him, it's up to you whether you're strong enough to do so.
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reader, LilPixie +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Of course you can dump him. It doesn't matter how long you have been together. People split up after 5, 10 maybe even 20 years of being together.
You're not happy in this relationship and you deserve someone who is going to treat you right, so get out of this while you can. Like CaringGuy said, he'll be beating you up next.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 July 2010):
You need to dump him. This is abuse. So what if you've been with him for so long? No one will care except him. He'll be beating you up next. You need to get away from this guy NOW. H doesn't love you, care about you or anything like that. He just enjoys abusing you. You can split up with him, and you must.
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