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writes:My friend has been dating this guy for a little over five months. Ive never met him, but from what she tells me, i dont like him. he is like 3 years older than here. He does drugs, and has been in trouble with cops a time or two, and he hurts her constantly. (mentally, not physically.) she has texted me multiple times with cases as to how he hurts her inside, but i just encourage her to keep her head up. As ive said, i dont care for this guy. I dont want to hurt my friend, but I feel i should tell her that her bf is taking her time away from myself and our other friends, and none of us (her friends) care to much for this guy. Should I tell her we dont like him? or be good friends and keep my mouth shut?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks you have all helped! I tried telling her that from what she tells me im not sure i like him too well, she said hes acting better, so well see! thanks guys!
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reader, Traycie +, writes (12 July 2010):
You have the right as a friend to tell your friend that you dont like her boyfriend and you have the right to tell why you dont care for him BUT your friend has the right to stick up for her so called man and she might get mad at you but me personally i am very blunt so i would tell that i dont like her boyfriend and she can do better
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reader, divb  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 First of all good friends want their friends to be happy and it seems her bf is not a nice guy and this might affect her in the future.You should tell her what you think about this guy.Let her know what you guys think about him because you don't want your friend to suffer later on.Just tell her that you don't think this guy is good for her.And let her know that you guys love her a lot and does not want anything or anyone to harm her.Explain to her calmly.If she gets angry with you then leave it....at least you did your part by being a true friend.GOOD LUCK
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reader, divb +, writes (12 July 2010):
First of all good friends want their friends to be happy and it seems her bf is not a nice guy and this might affect her in the future.You should tell her what you think about this guy.Let her know what you guys think about him because you don't want your friend to suffer later on.Just tell her that you don't think this guy is good for her.And let her know that you guys love her a lot and does not want anything or anyone to harm her.Explain to her calmly.If she gets angry with you then leave it....at least you did your part by being a true friend.GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): I would say tell her, you don't want this guy to put his hands on her, or rape her, if he's doign drugs... these things can happen. Just let your friend know how you feel, if she doesn't understand...aboiut how you guys feel, and what could happen to her... she's not a very good friend.
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