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... Send *hor a private message | | | *hor's profile:i think i qualify because of my past. i have been to hell and back. two failed marrages, being dumped. loss of friends through tragic death. helping a friend that lost someone that way.
sometimes i may not have all the answers but i am a good listener. i wont give negative answers like you will be ok, you will get over it. that isnt what you want to hear.
i live in north england. what makes me tick is seeing someone i have helped put a smile on their face and see they have lifted their spirit.
i am currently in a relationship, i had given up until i saw there are worse off people out there with me and feel i can grow stronger |
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Any good tips on how I should propose to her?
Q. hi me and my gd have been together for 6 yrs and love each other very much.Ive decided to ask her to marry me. I've got the ring and everything i just don't know how to say it and at what time and where to do it. Neither of us are the type for going ...
A. 31 March 2007: me and my ex wife, before i proposed to her. one night we layed in bed bored. she had about 10 packets of love hearts sweets, you know the ones with words on them like kiss me love me. we where sat eating them. what ever they said we had to do but ... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my guy about periods and things ? Surely most guys dont want to know!?
Q. I know this sounds silly, but OK, here goes: Im kind of weird about talking about stuff that's very female. Like periods and stuff. I've known my boyfriend for a month and a half, and now I'm on my period!! How do I talk to him about it?...
A. 31 March 2007: i think he would be more embarassed if he made love to you and you didnt tell him. happened to me once when i was younger. i was doing oral, when i looked in the morror i looked like a ribena man :) or dracula. serious though, he has to learn so ... (read in full...)
We are moving on to oral sex soon, any tips to make it good!?
Q. hi there.....me and my gf are gonna take things a step further really soon and i was just wondering how to give really great oral sex... and also shes had some before and i havent so how can i be her best ever....any tips would be extremly ...
A. 31 March 2007: take it slow, dont dive straight in. start from kissing and work your way down. dont miss anything. when you get there if you dont like the taste add a bit of yogurt or fresh cream. its tasty. keeps you there for ages
good luck
thor... (read in full...)
We met on the internet, one minute hes 16, then 18, but now hes saying hes 20, Im 14 and confused as I love him!!
Q. Hello...I am fourteen years old and I am dating a guy who is nineteen turning twenty a month before I turn fifteen...I met him over the internet and first he said he was sixteen. Then he told me he was eighteen and then he said he was seventeen ...
A. 31 March 2007: first you are under age and second he lied to you. can you realy fall for a guy like this that lies to you. there is a lot of talk about sex and no relationship. it is possible that he is trying to get into your pants and you are silly if you let ... (read in full...)
We get on great and are very comfy together, I love him and want to make it official, how can I tell him without scaring him off?
Q. Ive been seeing this guy for over a year and things recently have got very comfy with us, which is great. I love it a lot but, it was always a casual thing and it hasnt became official. I know he enjoys my company, as I do his and we always have a ...
A. 31 March 2007: i think after a year he musy know you love him by now, maybe he is waiting for you to say it. i thought he would have said it by now, most guys do :). the thing with not having as much sex is maybe due to burning out. too much in the beginning. you ... (read in full...)
He's started talking to me for no reason... do you think he likes me?
Q. i need ur opinion.today i had midterm exams and the guy sitting behind me is 1 year older..he has never talked to me as he is in grade 12 and im in 11th. but yesturday he asked me what did the teacher have up on the board... then today he asks me ...
A. 31 March 2007: i agree with chi, just go up to him and ask same things like what lesson do you have etc. make the odd conversation. maybe he has seen your personality and likes it, he wants to make friends. its not a sissy thing and most guys like to hang out with ... (read in full...)
His room mate seems to be making up excuses now about me moving in saying it's a bad idea.
Q. I've been planning to move in with my boyfriend for months, and his apartment mate was fine with it at first, but he seems to be making up excuses for why its a bad idea and being extremly difficult. His main complaint is that I don't let him act ...
A. 31 March 2007: as him if he would rent a room for just the two of you. dump his mate he isnt your lover your bf is. he should stand up for you if not get out of it. ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend seeing someone else?
Q. is my boyfriend seeing someone else my boyfriend have been working away for a week while he was away i didnt heard from him then tonight he calls me asking how i am and stuff and if i've met someone else i said no thn asked if i have a sex life and ...
A. 31 March 2007: you didnt say if meaning working away was in different country or somewhere in uk. if he is abroad and he doesnt stay in regular touch it could be down to expence. if he uses a mobile it costs him to recieve calls from you and also he might not get ... (read in full...)
I'm 24 and have been married 2 weeks. My husband (28) has just taken a lover who is 64!!!
Q. I'm 24, and have just got married to my new husband who's 28. Recently he went on a business trip for a few days, or so it seemed, until a good friend (female) had told me she'd seen him with his lover. I thought that was bad enough - se...
A. 31 March 2007: sounds like your friend could be a bit jealous. your new husband has come between your friendship and she cant handle it so she is stiring things up so you will leave him. has she got proof like photos or witnesses or is it just her word. could this ... (read in full...)
Im seeing an older guy and all we do is have sex, plus Im not sure if I trust him!
Q. I have been seeing a guy alot older than me 4 about 2mths now, however all we do is just have sex.. he has made suggestions of going out but we haven't yet, the only thing that bothers me is he lives with his baby's mum and says he is there for ...
A. 30 March 2007: stacey slater, max branning, tanya branning. do these names ring a bell. they are characters in eastenders. They are going through a similar situation. in the end someone is going to get hurt. get out while you can and find someone single. you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates me wearing make up!
Q. My boyfriend is having problems with me putting on make up. He said he doesn’t want me to get my make up on him and he thinks real beauty should not be created with make up. He doesn’t even like lip balm when I kiss him. It actually stops us from ...
A. 30 March 2007: if you like to wear it and feel comfortable but also give him his wishes by not wearing it for him. he sees you as beautiful without it so take it as a compliment. saying who doesnt want his gf to look good, that is only your oppinion. he is wanting ... (read in full...)
Why does he tell me he loves me one minute then 4 days later, wants nothing more to do with me???
Q. I recently split with my boyfriend of three years as he cheated on me and he begged me to take him back, i said no. He then said can we at least be friends as it would break his heart if we couldn't. Then for days later he told me he had met someone ...
A. 30 March 2007: he might love you and is torn between two lovers, maybe the other one has some hold over him. him cheating on you in the first place must have broken your heart too. both of your heads are mixed up and you dont know what you want. maybe a break from ... (read in full...)
Im only 11, but I love 2 guys, and dont know if they love me to be able to choose which one to go out with!?
Q. hi cupid im 11 years old and i live in florida im in elementry, in 5th grade. there are 2 guys i both love but i don't know if they love me and the problem is i don't know who to choose i both like them but i have a BIG choice both are cute ...
A. 29 March 2007: i been there when i was 12 or 13. 2 girls i fancied both goodlooking, i spent all my time trying to choose then they where whisked away. so if you like them find out quick which one is paying attention to you and go for that one. but be carefull as ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so insecure when I'm not with my girlfriend?
Q. I've been in a relationship for a few months now with a girl who I really like. In fact, I don't think I've ever liked someone as much as I do her. The problem I have is I'm getting quite insecure about it. I'm not sure if it's just a lack of s...
A. 29 March 2007: have you been hurt bad in the past by other women. lost someone you realy love and blamed your self. these voices in your head are natural.it is that you are affraid to come out with these things in case you hurt your loved one. keeping things ... (read in full...)
We just seem to stare into one anothers eyes all the time, why are we like this?
Q. hi I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months now and its going really well! Over the past few weeks I have started to feel differently, for example when I am talking to him we are just looking into each others eyes, just staring for ages! Even ...
A. 29 March 2007: because you have became soulmates, true lovers. you can only do that if you trust someone and are truly in love with someone. both besotted. i am so shy that i cant look people in the eye but my exe i did all the time, i could look her straight in ... (read in full...)
When do you say 'I love you', when your in love or when you start to love someone?
Q. I'm 19 and in my first relationship. Im starting to really love my boyfriend, but I know Im not 'in love' with him yet. When do you say 'I love you', when your in love or when you start to love someone? I feel like I really want to say it now......
A. 29 March 2007: how long have you been seeing him. if it feels right just come out with it. he might be thinking the same thing. i met my ex and it was only a few weeks that i told her i love her. it was on the end of my tongue, i just had to say it. she said it ... (read in full...)
He wants to wait until marriage to have sex, anyway I can change his mind ?
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 20 year old virgins. He told me he is waiting for marrige, but I want to have sex now, bc I love him. Is there anything I can do to change his mind???...
A. 29 March 2007: be gentle with him, he might be a little scared or timid. dont push him into it. maybe he has errection problems. or he loves you and doesnt want to take advantage of you, being a gentleman. if you love him give him time and he will come around to ... (read in full...)
If he knows I like him, why does he behave in this way ?
Q. I am so in love with this guy..and have been for ages i cant stop thinking about him ..evrything reminds me of him! i try and move on.. i try and forget him but it doesnt work! hes a guy from school and evryday i snob him and try not to stare at...
A. 29 March 2007: if he has a gf move on. he is winding you up and teasing you. you should find someone decent and single.
thor... (read in full...)
Its been 4 months together and hes stopped making the effort, should I carry on dating him ?
Q. Ive been dating my bf for 4 months. In the begining, it was exciting and new and it really seemed like he liked me. But now I've noticed that he really doesnt treat me special at all. NO compliments, doesnt tell me he likes me, doesnt call me or ...
A. 29 March 2007: you have burnt out too quick. maybe done to much in too little time. you need to relax a while then try light the candle again. 4 months has given you both time to get to know each other, you are beginning to find out what each other is really like. ... (read in full...)
Whenever the phone rings-I hope it's him but it isn't. Surely if he was that interested he'd make excuses to call. Should I call him?
Q. hey guys, i asked for advise on 16th march "should i mix business with pleasure" id like to say thanks to everyone who repied its much appreciated. the problem i have now is that i havent seen him since he told me he couldnt get a g/f which is over ...
A. 29 March 2007: pluck up the courage take a deep breath and go for it. call him now before he gets snapped up. saves you from thinking if only i called him. if he says no atleast you tried. dont be embarassed
thor... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband that after 3 kids...I am pregnant again?
Q. im 30 odd and ive had 3 kids i decided i was done with mothering but yesterday i was late, so i went to the store and bought a test and it was positive. however i made a big fuss over not getting pregnant again. how do i tell my husband with out ...
A. 29 March 2007: tell him now before its too late. not telling him he will find out when its too late then there will be an argument. if there is an argument when you tell him it should blow over and get back to normal. you say its only you that made a fuss over it ... (read in full...)
He's in a band with my ex..so how do I tell him I have feelings for him?
Q. My boyfriend split up with me a week after he cheated, and my friend was there for me, hes 19/20, and I've just turned 16. He's always been there for me in the past, and i sumtimes feel like i have feelings for him, do i tell him?? but to make ...
A. 29 March 2007: is he a friend or have you fancied him while you where with your ex. maybe he should have been first choice. i too have a female friend that i turned to but she had a bf. i like her but dont want to get with her incase i spoil the relationship we ... (read in full...)
I'm not comfortable with my user name on this site...how do I change it?
Q. How do I change my name on here. The one i have sounds a bit heavy. I'm not comfortable with it. thanks...
A. 29 March 2007: thanks for reply... (read in full...)
How does a man last longer during intercourse?
Q. how does a man last longer during intercourse? is there something i can do or take to prolong my ejaculation?...
A. 29 March 2007: either try and remember the whole of the england rugby team, if your on bottom count the paterns on the wall. or get your gf to masturbate you an hour before sex till you ejaculate then during sex later it will take longer. or have more sex after ... (read in full...)
I loved him but he didn't want kids in his future, so I broke it off. Did I make the right decision?
Q. I had been dating this guy for a little over a year and we got along great.We rarely argued and we loved each other very much,however, he warned me that he wasn't sure if he would ever want children.I have always wanted children,so we broke up, but ...
A. 29 March 2007: you have to talk to him about it, ask him why he doesnt want kids. just dont take the answer i dont want kids because there is more. some people that dont want kids just want you for sex if they cant give you a real reason. maybe he has a sister at ... (read in full...)
Ive fallen for my friends Ex, I dont want to lose either, what do I do ?
Q. I have fallen in love with the ex of my friend. They were a pair 3 years ago and only for a short time. First she said that it’s ok if I meet him but now she wants to conclude our friendship if we get a pair. I don’t know what to do because both of ...
A. 29 March 2007: ps.... i forgot to say. my friend introduced me to his ex gf, they remained friends after split. he spoke highly of me to her. i met her she gave me her msn address. we talked for a while telling each others problems. we arranged to meet and ... (read in full...)
How do I ask my bf to use a condomw when we have sex?
Q. hey, Ive resently had sex and it was with my bf and we didnt use a condom and how do i ask him that i want him to use one what shall i say???Please Help Me. xxx ...
A. 29 March 2007: first tell him you are under age and if anything like pregnancy or sex is found out he can be in lots of trouble. dont ask him to use a condom tell him he has to. if he refuses dont give him sex.
butkeep in mind all the time you are under age.... (read in full...)
I've lost all confidence when it comes to sex, been together 9 yrs and in a rut!
Q. i've been wi my partner for 9 yrs and we have a 5 yr old daughter, i am really insecure even though i am attractive and can attract many men. i jus don't have the confidence to be sexy around him. we have got into a rut an rarely have sex or a laugh ...
A. 28 March 2007: try not to worry about your sister. sometimes lack of sex can come down to preasure. to mend the loss of sex you should kneel in front of each other, maybe wear something sexy. dont touch each other, observe eachothers body with your eyes. do this ... (read in full...)
Ive fallen for my friends Ex, I dont want to lose either, what do I do ?
Q. I have fallen in love with the ex of my friend. They were a pair 3 years ago and only for a short time. First she said that it’s ok if I meet him but now she wants to conclude our friendship if we get a pair. I don’t know what to do because both of ...
A. 28 March 2007: if she is an ex it should be no problem, unless she cheated on him or hurt him in anyway. if it was his problem and no way of them getting back together go for it. talk to him and explain what you feel for his ex. if he gets angry or falls out with ... (read in full...)
My husband's personal hygiene is bad. We have fights about this a lot! What can I do?
Q. My husband's personal hygiene is bad. He doesn't change his under wear everyday. After a lot of debate and persuasion he started changing. If i am not around he doesn't bother to change. And now again he doesn't change. Adding to this he doesn't use ...
A. 28 March 2007: can be either he has been brought up to be a slob, had his mother wait on him like i had in the past, now shes gone i am learning. or he is depressed about something and wont share his problems, sometimes its not easy to open up especially if he is ... (read in full...)
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