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writes:I recently split with my boyfriend of three years as he cheated on me and he begged me to take him back, i said no. He then said can we at least be friends as it would break his heart if we couldn't. Then for days later he told me he had met someone and they were getting a flat together and settling down. We then exchanged harsh words and i felt bad after so i apologized. Then he said he wanted nothing more to do with me but told me he loved me and was begging me to take him back four days before. What is going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Cheating is not always the end of a relationship, but unless there are some very extenuating circumstances, it needs to be. And, from what you decribe, you did the right thing. This is not a mature man and he is hurt, rather his pride is hurt that you did not believe his bull. More than likely he would do it again and this is most likely not the first time, no matter what he says. He may be use to having women believing his lies and you did not. So to hurt you, he does the most hurtful thing and that is having what appears to be a "real" relationship with another woman. Then, he doesn't what to have anything else to do with you, AKA: Rejection. This is all to hurt you. Whatever you do, don't take this man back unless there is more here that you have not decribed. If you do, he will find ways to punish you.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (30 March 2007):
 I think he's been looking for a reaction from you, that's all! If he has met another women then he's obviously met her a while ago, especially as now they're going to move in together. He was feeling you out to see what you'd say. Maybe he hasn't met anyone at all but just wanted to see your response.
The best thing to do here is keep your distance from him for now and give him some space. It's over between you anyway and being friends would have been nice but it's not always possible for some to do. Let him make the first move if he wants to make amends but until then I would forget about him and get on with your life.
Eve
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reader, Bailey J +, writes (30 March 2007):
 One word MEN. We’ll never understand them. My friend is going through a similar thing with her fella. They been together 18 months and he’s been telling her he doesn’t love her but doesn’t want to break up… he spends all his time with his friends and has cheated on her… still she wont finish with him and he still wants to carry on their hopeless relationship.
The thing is and this is true he doesn’t want her, but he doesn’t want anyone else to have her. I think the same thing applies here. If I were you I would walk away… your better off without him. He’s cheated, he’s met another girl and is planning on living with her yet asking you back… he’ll never change – like he’s hurt you I bet he’ll hurt the girl he’s with now. He’s not worth it… meet someone who will treat you how you deserve to be treated.
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reader, elsie +, writes (30 March 2007):
 why do so many people(especially guys)jump headlong into another relationship so quickly?i think some people just cant handle the pain of rejection and run to someone to take their mind off it and boost their ego.what on earth is he talking about settling down with this other girl for?sounds like hes in some sort of shock.i think you both need to sit down and put all your cards on the table.good for you that you did show him you wont stand for him cheating on you.thats a massive step in the right direction.if you do get back with him take it slowly and make it crystal clear that youll dump him if he cheats on you once more.good luck.
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reader, thor +, writes (30 March 2007):
 he might love you and is torn between two lovers, maybe the other one has some hold over him. him cheating on you in the first place must have broken your heart too. both of your heads are mixed up and you dont know what you want. maybe a break from each other while you gather your true thoughts.
hope this is of any help
thor
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): I think that the best thing you can do in this situation is give your ex and yourself some time apart to sort out your feelings, because when two people first break up there are just too many feelings you're experiencing that it is overwhelming. Time apart(without any or very little contact) will let the two of you think and figure out what you really want.
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