Why can't I just believe my husband when he says that he's not concerned with my looks?
Q. Please note: Anything that you read that my husband said was in answer to questions that I asked and I told him to be honest. After a long, and sometimes loud, discussion with my husband last weekend, I am still having trouble believing someth...
A. 14 December 2010: Have you ever heard the saying, beauty is only skin deep?
It says your age is 41-50, that is typically when most people have passed their prime for physical beauty.
Is it really worth pursuing something you can't change?
Personally, I t... (read in full...)
Is it OK for me to tell him 'no contact' with the girl he cheated on me with?
Q. My bf cheated on me with the same girl, several times. He claims that he no longer has sexual relations with her, but they do talk in a friend basis. He thinks I should be ok with him hanging out with her, but I'm not okay with it at all! Should it ...
A. 14 December 2010: Can you give him an ultimatum?, cheating?, do you really have to ask? Of course you can, and be totally justified in doing so.
Are you willing to be in a relationship with someone that cheats? If he won't be faithful, should you stay in a relati... (read in full...)
Good or bad idea to get ex girlfriend a present?
Q. Getting an ex girlfriend a christmas present, is that a good thing or is it a bad thing? I was just curious about other peoples opinion. ...
A. 29 November 2010: For their sake make sure they know if you mean it for friendship or if you mean it as more.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my cousin's ex
Q. I have become good friends with my cousin's ex for 10 months now. My cousin no longer contacts me because I kind of got involved during their break up. She asked me to do something and I asked him to go see her. He got mad and that was it. After the ...
A. 29 November 2010: Sorting out your feelings usually removes blocks on feeling happy, feeling happy wasn't that weird. Always best to face things if it's possible I think.
Anyways, glad to help and I hope you keep feeling happy.
Best wishes, and
Smile(:... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my cousin's ex
Q. I have become good friends with my cousin's ex for 10 months now. My cousin no longer contacts me because I kind of got involved during their break up. She asked me to do something and I asked him to go see her. He got mad and that was it. After the ...
A. 15 November 2010: I don't think the circumstances really are as bad as you think. It seems you cousin has no interest in the girl, and it has been 10 months. I would say a good friendship is the best foundation for a good relationship.
There is the risk, that if ... (read in full...)
Unexpected boyfriend -- is it love or just a crush?
Q. Last year i had an on again off again "thing" with a boy in most of my classes. Over the summer i became severly depressed and cut myslef off from the guy i liked. During the time we stopped talking one of my friends used the oppertunity to start a ...
A. 15 November 2010: Learning about love is sometimes a rough thing. Whether this is love or just a crush, I think it has the ability to develop into either.
If your feelings for this other guy are keeping you from committing to your (ex)boyfriend, I would say, tel... (read in full...)
Is there a reason I literally have no emotion towards anyone right now?
Q. About 2 or 3 months ago I broke up with a girl I had been dating for about half a year. I fell in love with this girl and felt things I had never felt before, but she left for college and we couldn't make things work between us because I have trust ...
A. 15 November 2010: I don't have a lot of information to go on. My best bet is that you mind knows why your heart won't. Your mind keeps bringing you to the lack of closure on your other relationship.
The relationship ended for mental reasons, your heart doesn't ... (read in full...)
I need your take on this guys... Do you think he likes me a little?
Q. I have been at this company for a few years; I was in a serious relationship and it was hard on me after. It has been a long time. One guy in my area is very good at his job, smart, very outgoing, moved up fast. He is pretty personable too and ...
A. 15 November 2010: Does he like you as opposed to just being nice like he is to everyone? Yes, it sounds like he likes you a little; you already know that. It also sounds like you like him but aren't secure.
From what you say he is a nice guy, and that he will tre... (read in full...)
How do I start up a new life abroad on your own and with a baby?
Q. hey want to make a new life for me and my baby but i don't know where to start kind of a chicken shit really afraid to do it cos i fall flat on my face. How do I start up a new life abroad on your own and with a baby and i have done courses but...
A. 15 November 2010: Starting a new life is just something that happens. If you have a place to live and a job that pays you enough to live on, it is already done. Your new life will naturally fall into new rhythms caused by the changes from your old life.
You m... (read in full...)
I need some advice on how to handle this guilt I'm feeling.
Q. I need some advice on how to handle this guilt I'm feeling. I'm overwhelmed with guilt for breaking up my boyfriend's family and hurting his children and ex wife. Our affair was brief, only a little over a weeks time before he stated he couldn't do ...
A. 15 November 2010: Like you said, you will never be able to undo what you happened. Make the best of the situation, and accept that more cannot be expected of you than your best.
It is a delicate situation in may ways. If you want forgiveness, the best way I wo... (read in full...)
If he cant see himself with anyone but me for the rest of his life, then why is it so hard for him to fully commit to me?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years now, and living together for over 1 and a half years. We talk about the fact we want to be together forever, but when it comes down to him actually popping the question, he always is saying he ...
A. 15 November 2010: With only the information you have given it is impossible to determine why he does not want to commit. Based on the fact that you have been together for so long and are happy together, that he is afraid of commitment probably isn't something to be ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my girlfriend and her male friend?
Q. Myself and my girlfriend are in our thirties and have been together happily for 3 years, living together for the last two. About a year ago she made a new male friend through a mutual friend. At first I didn't mind, but he lives in a differen...
A. 25 August 2010: Ask her to include you in the relationship, if it is platonic this should be fine and go over smoothly. Go with her when she goes to visit. That it makes you feel jealous is understandable, tell her how you feel; if she values you she will ... (read in full...)
Dealing with drama because of my ex.....
Q. After my ex left me for his female friend he claimed ! He told Me not to call no more so i say what ever! i havent call him , now he callin me cause she wants to speak me woman to woman that some body been prank callin her and i told him look nobody ...
A. 25 August 2010: He is nothing to you, what does it matter if he thinks you are prank calling or not? You don't need to say anything. Let him go.... (read in full...)
Does she care for me or is she after something?
Q. Well me and my girlfriend has been together for a while, i asked her to marry me 3 months ago she said yes we was very happy together or at least i thought, about 3 weeks ago she finished the relationship with me and we only just got back together ...
A. 25 August 2010: You can't get engaged to her until she gives you a straight answer as to why she broke up with you.... (read in full...)
He is messing with my head! how do I get over him?
Q. A few months ago i told this male acquaintance that i liked him. He was nice and said, he could only see us as good friends. Fine, ok i moved on and focused on work and other friends and meeting other guys. Meantime my crush and i are spending time ...
A. 25 August 2010: Draw lines, he cannot cuddle with you or kiss like he loves you as more than a friend and maintain you are not more IF ONLY BECAUSE it is messing with you! I say draw the line, treat me completely like a platonic friend (you have to hold to this! ... (read in full...)
Jealous of my boyfriends sister and ashamed of it!
Q. My boyfriend's sister is years younger than him and they have a very close-knit relationship. I feel pathetic because I'm jealous of their relationship and how much time they get to spend together, whereas I'm lucky to see him once a week. It'...
A. 25 August 2010: Wow this is a sticky situation. Your feelings are understandable. When you say "It's completely irrational and I try to tell myself that they're family," I think you are wrong. I would say she sees you as a threat. She probably really values he... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting? or should I be worried?
Q. My girlfriend has pictures of herself with another guy on facebook and its really pissin me off! There are about five pics of them and they all seem really flirty to me. He has his arm around her in most of them. They talk on the phone and skype ...
A. 25 August 2010: It sounds like there is a real problem (if only because it makes you feel uncomfortable) and it has been around for a while and not taken care of itself. So I would say you need to do something at this point. I would say the best option is to ask ... (read in full...)
How can I meet mr right?
Q. hey, im so fed up latley i just cant meet the right boy. i know everyone says there is someone out there for them but how come i cant find mr right ?? every boy i go for just wants sex. im fed up of it and latley when i go out im stoping myself ...
A. 22 August 2010: This is a backwards approach but it works for me. Change how you appear and act so that you attract people who want the right things and discourage people who want the wrong things. Like don't be as sexy, yes you will get less attention in all but ... (read in full...)
I'm hesitent on telling her how I feel
Q. I have a friend that I recently started spending time with, I didn't really see her for close to a year. I have feelings for her, and I feel inside that I have had some kind of feelings for her for a while. We always have a great time together ...
A. 22 August 2010: Actions speak louder than words, make her a priority in your life and spend more time with her, when she is around pay more attention to her than anyone else, she will get the hint. Letting things develop without being official has merit too. You ... (read in full...)
Annoyed with best friend squealing
Q. hi guys, i am pissed off with my best friend, who i used to consider the brother i never had. i thought i could safely bitch about my gf to him while me and my gf are in a bit of turmoil over money and trust, and other issues. he was happy to agr...
A. 22 August 2010: If they have the beginnings of an emotional affair going the last thing you would want to do is give him leverage against you by complaining about you girlfriend to him. That he would betray your trust is wrong and annoying, I would cut him out of ... (read in full...)
No one likes me!
Q. well....i cant believe i am writing this post....i am 25.. just felt to vent out so i am here...i dont know where my life is taking me...i feel miserable and worse all the time and want to just roll over in bed and cry although i know it wont ...
A. 13 August 2010: Love will happen when it happens, trying to force it doesn't help. If you don't think you are interesting/etc, find someone you find interesting/etc and spend time around them and maybe try copying some of the stuff they do in another unrelated ... (read in full...)
Impossible Love and Missing Her
Q. I am married to a good person. We actually get along well and try to take care of each other on a day to day basis. In many ways I feel as if I am married to my sister or to a favorite aunt who also happens to be a workaholic and who has virtually ...
A. 13 August 2010: I can't say I have any experience with this, so don't take my comments for more than they're worth. First let's cut all the expectations and examine all the options.
You say you and your wife take care of each. That's more than a lot of marriage... (read in full...)
I love my best friend... she's my friend's girlfriend :(
Q. hmmmph... here's to start my story, we've been best friends for 7 years... and in that 7 years i knew i love her... she knows about it already... well, here's the unlucky part, she has this boyfriend, they've been together for 3 years already... her ...
A. 5 July 2010: It sounds like she is using you and you deserve better. If she knows you love her, she should not double play (insert derogatory comment here), either she should break up with her bf, or not let you touch her.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant but doesn't want to be with me!
Q. i been dating this girl for over 2 years,im 21 and she 18.we hust found out in may 2010 that she preg.at first we were thinking of aborting but some how her mom found out.i went to her house about 3 days later n we all sat down her mom,dad,her and ...
A. 5 July 2010: "her and her family are hiding something from me" Perhaps the child is gone? Is she asking for child support payments or anything? Ask her about custody?
You cannot make her have feelings for you, even if you have feelings for her. Even wit... (read in full...)
She hurts me so much and I don't know what to do!
Q. I've been with my girlfirend for about 8months now. When we started dating she was a sweetheart and was so nice. After the third month she began to fight with me with for just about anything small or big. She would start the fight, get me heated and ...
A. 5 July 2010: You deserve better than her. No one should abuse you like that.
You love her. But it seems like she has changed. The person you love no longer exists. Let her go. There is no one and only for anyone, you will find someone else. If you stay... (read in full...)
How can I improve my confidence about doing intimate things?
Q. My boyfriend is almost 25 and i am 26. We both haven't had sex yet. He goes mad sometimes when i say i don't want to go all the way, although, he apologises afterwards, and he has only gone mad about three times . However, i know he isn't just ...
A. 5 July 2010: love is more than sex, how is the rest of your relationship? Is the someone you want to marry? I am religious and so believe that sex should be kept sacred for marriage; but you must make your own decisions.
Can you determine why you feel unc... (read in full...)
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