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writes:I have a friend that I recently started spending time with, I didn't really see her for close to a year. I have feelings for her, and I feel inside that I have had some kind of feelings for her for a while. We always have a great time together whenever we hang out and it has been great being able to spend time with her over the last couple month. I want to tell her how I feel but every time I try to say something I can't seem to make it come out. We both just had relationships end this year which I think makes me a little more hesitant to tell her how I really feel. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, smile(: +, writes (22 August 2010):
Actions speak louder than words, make her a priority in your life and spend more time with her, when she is around pay more attention to her than anyone else, she will get the hint. Letting things develop without being official has merit too. You feel things for her now, those feelings can deepen. How fast or slow you take things depends on a number of factors which I don't know, but I would say take things at the pace that feels right, don't bend yourself out of shape.
You don't say anything about how she feels, that really is what determines how you should act I think. If she doesn't like you in return it could make things awkward between you, and shoot your chance for that to develop normally. If you have no clue if she likes you or not, I would say do the above, spend more time with her, maybe ask her on a date.
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reader, Odds +, writes (22 August 2010):
 Just ask her to go someplace where they serve drinks. Be sure to say "Wear something nice." It's universal girl code for "I'm asking you out, and am awesome enough to know not to say it directly."
Then just have a good time with her. Make her laugh and be sure to escalate, touching her arm, dancing if you can, that sort of thing. If it works out, great; if not, you can proud for making the attempt.
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