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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): I think it is alright as long as you know your own intentions. Maybe this could be a sign that there is still love and this could bring things back together. Ask your self why things ended in the first place and then act on gift!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Life is easier if you don't. Unless you are both single and still friends, then you can get away with it, BUT you really have to watch what you buy, in order for it not to be misinterpreted.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Are you currently single? Have you remained friends with this ex gf or would you giving her a Christmas present completely throw her for a loop?
I think it's ok as long as you are single, still friends with her and talk and as long as she knows your intentions behind the gift. Whether you mean it as a friend thing or possibly something more thing.
Gifts say that you took the time to think about them, what they wanted and then took time out of your life to find it and buy it for them.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Bad idea.
There are a few people that at Xmas go hog wild with presents and give a little something to literally anybody they know. But normally, one gives Xmas presents to his /her nearest and dearest among a selection of people, therefore a gift means "you are very high on my priority list ".
Or this is the way how she may read it.
Which is gonna be embarassing if in fact you have moved on. Or if you hope to get back with her and SHE has moved on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): it's a very bad thing if you are in a relationship with someone else. If you get your ex a gift and that is the case, you can kiss your current girlfriend goodbye, and rightfully so.
If not then you might want to evaluate the relationship status with your ex. Do you want to get back with her? are you doing it for just friendly reasons? those answers might help you choose to give or not to give, and what to give her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): Nay. It shows too much interest and you have moved on correct?
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reader, smile(: +, writes (29 November 2010):
For their sake make sure they know if you mean it for friendship or if you mean it as more.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (29 November 2010):
 If you are single and you are still friends or still tlk to her then yea it would be fine. Maybe see how shed react to it by casually asking what she wants?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 That depends on what your relationship status is currently. If you have a girlfriend, be cautious because she might see that sort of action as a threatening attachment. If you are currently single, I do not see any reason why you cannot give her a gift to show that you still wish to be on good terms with her.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): Bad.
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