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male
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30-35,
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writes:About 2 or 3 months ago I broke up with a girl I had been dating for about half a year. I fell in love with this girl and felt things I had never felt before, but she left for college and we couldn't make things work between us because I have trust issues and she didn't have time for me.I never got any kind of real FEELING of closure from that relationship because we basically just said "It's over" and haven't talked since then. We never even said goodbye.Recently I started seeing another girl. She's really nice, and I like a lot of things about her and we see eye-to-eye on a lot of things. We became official a few days ago.The problem is that now I feel nothing. It's kind of a numb feeling I can't explain. This girl likes me a lot and I feel bad that I can't really return the feelings. I'm not using her, because I am interested in her and do like her, but I can't really devote any of my emotions to anyone. I even went back and looked at pictures of my ex with her new boyfriend just so I could feel the pain of sadness and jealousy, or maybe even love, but I felt absolutely nothing and I still do.It's kind of worrying me. Do I have depression or something? Is there a reason I literally have no emotion towards anyone right now? Any insight or advice would be appreciated, especially if someone can explain what's wrong with me.
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reader, smile(: +, writes (15 November 2010):
I don't have a lot of information to go on. My best bet is that you mind knows why your heart won't. Your mind keeps bringing you to the lack of closure on your other relationship.
The relationship ended for mental reasons, your heart doesn't know what that means emotionally. I'm on a limb here, but no pain because why the relationship ended is acceptable, no jealously becuase you have a girlfriend, but no love because the relationship is over.
I say your heart doesn't know what it means emotionally. Does the fact that the relationship ended for mental reasons and there was no emotional goodbye mean you didn't have feelings for each other? Because you had feelings for her. To just walk away from it would mean yes, which would betray your heart. So you can't love because it would hurt your love. So when you try, numb.
To not make things work out, and not have an emotional goodbye, your ex didn't feel nearly the same depth of emotion for you, that you felt for her; she betrayed you. Take a photo of your ex-girlfriend, and burn it.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (15 November 2010):
 It sounds like you aren't over your last girlfriend yet and your new girlfriend sent you into a kinda shocked state. You need closure from your last relationship before you can really move on.
You might have depression and may need antidepressants, I know most people don't like the thought of that, but chemical imbalance in your brain can't really be helped by anything else.
Consult a doctor.
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