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writes:i been dating this girl for over 2 years,im 21 and she 18.we hust found out in may 2010 that she preg.at first we were thinking of aborting but some how her mom found out.i went to her house about 3 days later n we all sat down her mom,dad,her and me.they asked me what i wanted to to and i said i wanted keep the bby n be with her and be there .make myself responsible.about 2 weeks later she told me she wanted a brake because she needed time and she wanted get her school done and future straight.at first i didnt wanna brake up i told her that i loved her and i wanted be there and help her out but she kept refusing.after a coiple days she 100 percent changed on me.she told me not to bug her no more and to move on that she dosent love me and to find my self another girl.but i dnt want anohter girl i love her and i want her to realize all this and she does but she tells me stop wasting my time cuz she will never come back to me...i keep thinking shes pushing me away bcuz her and her family are hiding something from me.i keep telling her i wanna talk to her parents again and she refuses to let me see her and talk shes about 21 weeks in now and not once since i sat down the first time talk to her haved i seen her she wnt let me i really dnt wanna move on i love her but all this love is turning to hate what should i do i need ur advice i appriciate thank you all for your time and honesty
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reader, smile(: +, writes (5 July 2010):
"her and her family are hiding something from me" Perhaps the child is gone? Is she asking for child support payments or anything? Ask her about custody?
You cannot make her have feelings for you, even if you have feelings for her. Even with a child. That she would do this is sad, especially for the child.
Things don't add up, something is missing, until you know what that is you will probably be spinning your tires. Trying to talk to her is the right approach, but she won't tell you what is happening. In this case I would think you deserve an explanation, especially after dating her for 2 years.
Going back to the first assumption, perhaps the baby was a do or die for the relationship, and since you wanted the baby and she did not; she decided to kill things between you. She is probably not the one for you if the baby is dead. Don't feel too bad, the parents probably played a role with a strong hand.
There is no one and only for anyone. If she won't come back to you, you will find someone else.
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reader, ManAfterChrist +, writes (5 July 2010):
 Well, my OWN thoughts on this type of situation, is that it is not only her child, but yours. You are just as involved in that life as she is. If you really want to try and make it work, you have to really fight for it. It sounds like she might just be scared. Maybe she doesn't believe that you want the child. Maybe she thinks you won't want her now that she's pregnant. Perhaps her parents talked her into it. Or maybe, she got an abortion and is too afraid to admit it to you.
Keep fighting for her and for the child. Let us know how things turn out.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (5 July 2010):
 well I think you should talk with her in person. Just say something like "Will you give me the courtesy of explaining this to me in person? We have a lot of things to talk about, I know you want me to move on, I respect that, but we have more to talk about than just us and I ask you to respect that".
You at least deserve a real explanation. Otherwise, if she refuses all contact, give her space but come back when you feel that she calmed down.
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