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writes:well....i cant believe i am writing this post....i am 25.. just felt to vent out so i am here...i dont know where my life is taking me...i feel miserable and worse all the time and want to just roll over in bed and cry although i know it wont help...there are hardly any times that i feel a little happy and good about myself and it lasts for a little time...it feels i am meant to suffer in life..my social life is pathetic and it literally sucks...no friends, no life...no girl likes to talk to me....people make awkward faces when i try to speak to them and it feels like they try to hide themselves so that no body sees them with me....i have never got a proper response till date from anybody and it is obvious that people gradually lose interest as they start knowing me....i dont blame them for anything, it is me i guess....i am a fun loving and a guy with good humour when it comes to being with people i know very well and they enjoy my company..but i dread talking to strangers and struggle to keep them interested....i talk nonsense and try too hard even though i feel they have lost interest.....i dont know what to talk and i am definately not a guy who can get along with anyone and is an all rounder..all my batchmates seem so successful and they know the technique to talk to people and girls flock around them all the time...i feel so isolated and feel so immature....people just need reason to make fun of me all the time..or else they just ignore me as if i was not there and pretend like they didnt see me...they make awkward faces when they bump into me and hesitate to talk...its not like i dont try but i guess its too late in case of these people atleast now....i dont want to seem so desperate or needy...i hate attention seekers myself...but this phase has totally demotivated and disappointed me out of life and my emotions are suppressed and i am on the verge of giving up! my parents are very caring and they love me a lot...i dont want to make them feel that their son is a big time loser and he couldnt make his life outside home...forget about life, he has never experienced how it feels like to talk to people and have a bunch of good true friends in life...well here is a shock for all readers, i had a girlfriend. yes, we went around for 3 years and it was a LDR...but she was a very responsible girlfriend who taught me how to live and love and she was my biggest emotional support and the only people i was so close to outside home... we hanged around a lot and had a lot of fun together going many places...she would do anything to see me happy and we were crazy about each other....i agree that i was emotionally dependent on her as i saw her undying love and care for me...there were many ups and downs as in any relationship...we went back and forth many times but always remained special in each others' lives such that we couldnt imagine lives without each others' presence....we would wait for the day to come when we would meet and it became a part of our life.....i didnt mind not having life as her love was enough for me and i was happy....then the rough patch came and i became insecure about the relationship and started suspecting her and was being a jerk i realise now...she dumped me months ago and stopped answering my calls....i went to meet her in her town and she said that she has gradually lost feelings and me crying in front of her didnt bother her at all ...we havent spoken since then i did whatever i could to improve things...even if she came back to me, i wouldnt take her back because she has let me down so badly and it makes me feel betrayed....whatever the reason, i try to get over her slowly and hope she is doing fine too....i wonder about things life teaches us sometimes....flashbacks and memories of people who were so special to you once upon a time....how time changes people and how quickly they move from i love you to i dont know you.. how they can live without not missing you and those times when you used to do everything together...yes, now i think i know how life can be and its not easy at all...how it feels to forget someone so special and let go completely.....and you are living in a void and feel so lonely when you come back from work in late evenings... you just have to let go and you have no choice and things are out of your control....i try to improve myself slowly and learn from my past...i always wanted to welcome uncertainty and become a strong person who can face anything..my past has helped me to become one....but its just that i am facing a big trouble socializing as of now...i am going to enter corporates in a few months and i dont think i am ready to face that challenge as it needs a very influential personality there...but i am fairly optimist about building towards good future.... sorry its too long... i feel much relaxed now after realising months of suppressed emotions...maybe i seemed too much complaining about life but its just how i feel..your advice will highly be appreciated and maybe give me a reason to smile....thanks for the time....good day :)
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reader, smile(:  +, writes (13 August 2010):
Love will happen when it happens, trying to force it doesn't help. If you don't think you are interesting/etc, find someone you find interesting/etc and spend time around them and maybe try copying some of the stuff they do in another unrelated setting.
People need attention, it's just how we're wired. Hence everyone is an attention seeker. Just there are better/more acceptable ways to get it. If you give people attention they typically will pay more attention to you.
Actually everyone feels insecure, just some people are better at hiding it than others. Women like someone who can make them feel secure. Find your niche, find what your good at, what you like, and excel at that. That will give you some confidence. Then when you are feeling down/stressed, go have some fun doing what you do best.
Buy a good jokebook and read a few everyday. Find a good one and tell it to someone every day. Even if it is a lame joke to a complete stranger, making someone else feel happy, even for just a moment will make you feel better.
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reader, Booshfan1  +, writes (13 August 2010):
First of all I just have to say that I thought I was the only person in the world who had problems like this, it's weird seeing someone with the same problems. Second try and stop supressing your emotions because I do it and it will have a serious affect on your brain, I do the same and I have done it for so long that I can't stop and everytime someone really p**ses me off it feels like a jagged knife is stabbing my brain (OUCH). Third don't give a sh*t about what random strangers think of you, chances are you won't even see them again anyway. Any times you feel sad, think of anything that makes you happy and cheerful, and don't stop thinking about it. Hope this helps. :-)
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