Does he really not realize he was wrong to take off without coming over my house ? Does he believe his own lies?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month and 1/2 who told me right from the start he is bipolar. At least once a week he will do something such as make plans with me and then just go off with somebody else and not even call me to let me know. He wil...
A. 21 July 2016: I was not stalking him. I regret going over because of the outcome. There has been many, many times where I wanted to see him and with him being so close by, it would always be easy to just hop in the car and swing by, but I would never and have ... (read in full...)
Does he really not realize he was wrong to take off without coming over my house ? Does he believe his own lies?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month and 1/2 who told me right from the start he is bipolar. At least once a week he will do something such as make plans with me and then just go off with somebody else and not even call me to let me know. He wil...
A. 20 July 2016: Okay, I do understand and appreciate what everyone is saying here. I made mistakes - that day. I think that is what is so unbelievable to me. It was one bad day. He has had many and I have been easy going enough to let it go and move one. He was not ... (read in full...)
Does he really not realize he was wrong to take off without coming over my house ? Does he believe his own lies?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month and 1/2 who told me right from the start he is bipolar. At least once a week he will do something such as make plans with me and then just go off with somebody else and not even call me to let me know. He wil...
A. 20 July 2016: I get that knocking on the door was wrong. I have since apologized to him for me behavior in doing that. And yes, his unpredictable behavior should have been a red flag for me right from the start, I get that too. I just didn't show much of the ... (read in full...)
How can I move on and get her out of my head?
Q. after a divorce,i quickly found myself in another relationship with a woman i met in the pub,she was really nice,had a good job,teacher,things started going really well and i thought id landed on my feet again,things went really well for a bit,id ...
A. 23 October 2010: Sounds like she has some serious issues. I would even go as far as to say it sounds like she has some sort of mental illness and that is not something that you can fix. Unless she seeks help on her own because she decides she wants to be a better ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex I just want him to be upset that I am gone!
Q. I left my abusive husband 2 years ago. I won't get into the details of the abuse because it is over now, but I will say it was very cruel and he did cheat and lie a lot. When I left him, I swore to myself that I was going to be stong and get my ...
A. 21 October 2010: Thank you. You are right, I know this is an obsession and it has little to do with him. Something (many things) were done wrong to me and now I want to feel some kind of justice, but I will never get it from him and I need to forget it and move ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex I just want him to be upset that I am gone!
Q. I left my abusive husband 2 years ago. I won't get into the details of the abuse because it is over now, but I will say it was very cruel and he did cheat and lie a lot. When I left him, I swore to myself that I was going to be stong and get my ...
A. 21 October 2010: Thank you. You are right, I know this is an obsession and it has little to do with him. Something (many things) were done wrong to me and now I want to feel some kind of justice, but I will never get it from him and I need to forget it and move ... (read in full...)
She needs time but I'm home suffering in agony over her!
Q. okay, well basically i'm lost. My girlfriend and i broke up yesterday because i snapped and found a call from another guy on her phone and text him cussing him out for calling her. this guy has defended her in school and apparently he knew about ...
A. 10 October 2009: Love and trust are two way streets and you are not totally wrong here. Your reaction was bad - very bad and you can not blame her for being upset because if you wanted to know who the guy was you should have just asked her. On the other hand, if the ... (read in full...)
Just "bad parenting skills"???
Q. If there is anybody out there in the legal profession, I would truly like to understand this. No, on second thought, I have no desire to understand this at all. Please tell me what I can do to fix this because it is sooooooo wrong! While I don't ...
A. 10 October 2009: Thank you both for responding to me. I am a single mother and I have "snapped" on my children out of stress too, but I have never gotten past the point where I have perhaps yelled at them when there was no need to. I know that does not make me right ... (read in full...)
Why would he want to cum on my face?
Q. ok so i hope no one will be offended by this question, i am 16 and my boyfriend is 18. at the beginning of our relationship, he said he did not like receiving oral sex, he said "its just not a turn on for me" but then last night, he asked me to do ...
A. 4 October 2009: While there may be nothing wrong with this as long as you don't mind, you do need to keep an eye on things. I am speaking from experience. Since this is not a natural act and also not in his nature he obviously saw it on a porn. This may not seem ... (read in full...)
I don't understand how people have sex
Q. This is kind of a strange question, but i don't really get how people have sex. Like, I understand the penis going into the vagina, and there are different positions, but then how can you tell if some one is good if that's all there is? also, i h...
A. 4 October 2009: "Moves" are basically the things people do while they are trying to work their way up to sex. Flirting, touching, kissing ect. Just pushing it as far as you can to determine the other person's interest level / attraction and how far you can get with ... (read in full...)
How can I collect my things and have closure with my ex?
Q. Hello all, thanks for reading. I've posted two messages before on here, I'm sure you can find them through my profile name if you want any background. I've decided to leave Uni and will be leaving to go home (overseas from where I am now) in 2 wee...
A. 7 February 2009: Matt,
I am glad to hear that you got things straightened out at the university that you attend. I would say that, considering the way she is acting, cutting you loses for the things that you did not get back is the best thing you can do. As far ... (read in full...)
I don't want to make a fool of myself, should I send him a valentine card?
Q. Hi, I met a really nice lad followed me round bars on night out and left his mates to come to next bar to see me. He was a proper gentleman. Went out a couple times and everything was going well, he invited me back to his to watch tv and insisted ...
A. 3 February 2009: You would think Valentine's Day would be the perfect excuse to let him know that you are still out there and interested in seeing him again. I am not sure though, since you have only been out a couple of times and have not truly established were you ... (read in full...)
I'm 15, why do I REALLY want a baby???
Q. Ok this may sound totally stupid and immature but yeah... I don't know why but for some reason I REALLY want a baby (A daughter mostly) I have been wanting one for almost a year now... I am 15 for gods sakes! What the hell! Out of nowhere last week ...
A. 2 February 2009: I am sorry, but if you want (a daughter mostly) then you are not ready to be a mother at all. You can consider youself mother material when the only thing you want is a happy, heatly baby and are willing to accept the fact that all babies are not ... (read in full...)
I get very jealous of my boyfriends behaviour
Q. Ok so, I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years of and on but now we're engaged and I'm so jealous and I don't know how to stop. I mean I love him to death but he talks to all these other gurls on myspace and calls them babe and stuff like that I ...
A. 2 February 2009: If your boyfriend wants to marry you, yet hangs on to his other "friends" that clearly are not just friends and would not want to continue a friendship with him if they knew about you then this is very disrespectful on his part. He is asking you to ... (read in full...)
Feeling left out
Q. I am a very social person. I love people. My feelings are always hurt when I am left out of a party or get-together. I have a couple who are good friends of mine. I am pretty sure that they consider me a good friend also. I have done lots o...
A. 1 February 2009: OK, let me put it to you this way. I too am married and I have three children. Our family moved to the state where we are currently living about two years ago. I found that it is much harder to establish friendships as an adult. When you were a ... (read in full...)
Feeling left out
Q. I am a very social person. I love people. My feelings are always hurt when I am left out of a party or get-together. I have a couple who are good friends of mine. I am pretty sure that they consider me a good friend also. I have done lots o...
A. 1 February 2009: While that does not sound too pushy, it does sound somewhat childish and the only response that you will get out of them is probably "ok, we will ask somebody else, thank you." Then you will not hear from them again. If you did a favor for them in ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a bad attitude when you have been treated badly?
Q. i wish to be happier but I find it hard to trust people as I have had many friends and boyfriends bertay my trust. I still am a happy girl inside but recently I have become very negative because people treat me awfully sometimes (i am patient too) ....
A. 1 February 2009: This is a problem that probably started way back in your childhood. I know this because I am exactly like you. Although I truly love people and life as a whole, I often get hurt. I always go into relationships with the best of intentions and people ... (read in full...)
It feels like he just wants to do it and get it over with
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together for just over a year and we used to have a very active sex life, we used to have sex practically everyday sometimes more than once a day. but in the past month we have hardly had sex at all, i think it's been ...
A. 31 January 2009: It is true that after a while even in couples with the best sex lives, it does turn into routine and you need to spice it up. Sounds like that is all your partner is trying to do. There are a few things that you need to look out for though, if he ... (read in full...)
How can I collect my things and have closure with my ex?
Q. Hello all, thanks for reading. I've posted two messages before on here, I'm sure you can find them through my profile name if you want any background. I've decided to leave Uni and will be leaving to go home (overseas from where I am now) in 2 wee...
A. 31 January 2009: you don't have much time. If you are willing to cut your losses you may have to. If this is more to do with needing to know how she feels prior to your leaving, then go to the store and buy a card that fits your situtation. Write a heartfelt note ... (read in full...)
Abusive husband and started divorce proceedings, is he making me jealous on purpose?
Q. if you finally had enough of your abusive husband and started divorce proceedings to which he never answered back to the petition and then you saw him with another woman but still continued with the divorce and got your divorce and never had any ...
A. 31 January 2009: I am in an abusive relationship right now and I know exactly how hard it must have been for you to finally find that courage and strength to get out so congratulations to you. With that being said, why would you even care what his motives were? If ... (read in full...)
I am soooooo unhappy!
Q. Hiyya everyone, I'm 11 and i am soooooo unhappy. At school there's this girl who thinks we're like best friends, and i just hate her i only have say 2 half close friends, i feel like i have no friends, like i don;'t WANT an of the girls in my clas...
A. 31 January 2009: Hi Lauren,
I think at the age of 11 you and your friends or not-friends, are all heading into new stages of you lives that can be very confusing. During these times your likes and dislikes can change from minute to minute and keep in mind that the... (read in full...)
Every day we get a "run-down" of pregnant co-worker's condition!
Q. Hi, i need some advice on how to deal with my colleague.She is 7 months pregnant and all she goes on about all day at work is her baby!!! Its her 1st and i know she is excited but honestly from the moment she gets in work at 9am until 4.45pm whe...
A. 31 January 2009: This is a two way thing that you probably want to be careful with especially if she is your friend or if you liked working with her prior to her pregnancy. You don't want to say something right now that will hurt her feelings even if you know her ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the "other girl" in his life...
Q. hi everyone. I am in love with a guy older than me(10 years). I am about to turn 18 in March. Something really weird happened yesterday and I hope y'all would be able to help me out a bit here. Since our families are close together,he call...
A. 31 January 2009: I know that you weren't getting at that and even though your posting addresses you current situation, it does not really describe the extent of your relationship with him so it is hard to tell if he would love you or not. I am only saying that out ... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend, but I'm tempted to experiment with guys. What should I do?
Q. I am a 20 year old male with a crossdressing fetish. I have been interested in crossdressing since childhood, and as i hit puberty, it became much more of a sexual thing. I don't get to enjoy this fetish of mine very often however, due to the fact ...
A. 31 January 2009: You do not and should not have to hide the way you are feeling, not even to save your ralationship with her because several things could come of this. If you cheat on her with a guy, without telling her (and I am assuming that you would at lest be ... (read in full...)
I still give her attention even though she turned me down, but this does not bother her. Why?
Q. My friend who is a girl refused to be my girlfriend but we are still friends. But holding her hands does it still signify that i love her because i dont want her to think so. And Although she got a new boyfriend, i still tell her that i love her and ...
A. 31 January 2009: She is your friend, she does not want to hurt your feelings. If you continue to act this way, after she has clearly expressed to you that she is not interested in anything more then friendship, you will not even have her as that. Either it will ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the "other girl" in his life...
Q. hi everyone. I am in love with a guy older than me(10 years). I am about to turn 18 in March. Something really weird happened yesterday and I hope y'all would be able to help me out a bit here. Since our families are close together,he call...
A. 31 January 2009: Well it clearly sounds like he has some kind of thing for you, but I would actually be concerned about what that thing is. It seems like he is being a really nice and polite guy if he is calling your mom to inquire about her health. I know you said ... (read in full...)
My wife seems to do well if I treat her like a 12 year old
Q. I have been married for about a year now. As I get to know my wife better who turned 28 recently, here is the lowdown. She has low self-esteem, is needy, overly jealous, has some symptoms of dependent personality if internet sites are to be ...
A. 28 January 2009: I think that my husband feels the same way about me as the way you are describing your feelings for your wife, but if you want it from my point of view, my husband is a disrespectful S.O.B. and divorce is starting to sound like a dream to me also. ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting? Is it okay to be so realistic about marriage? I really don't want to be naive.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while. When we started dating, I never thought we would be together as long as we have. Well, I had a problem trusting him (needless to say). But I can honestly say I'm madly in love with him. He seems so ...
A. 28 January 2009: First of all, I am very impressed that you have such an amazingly straight head on your shoulders at the age of 15. The first thing that I noticed was that you mentioned that you are a virgin because it is illegal to have sex under the age of 17 ... (read in full...)
Could it be that he is afraid of his own feelings...?
Q. I've recently lost the last of my family that I could talk to. I don't feel like there is anyone one this earth that really knows me except for an ex married boyfriend. We haven't seen each other in 20 years but I ended up calling him because I feel ...
A. 27 January 2009: The fact that you are married changes nothing at all as far as the situtation with your friend goes, but it does kind of make me wonder why you feel you are so alone that you have to seek out another womans' husband. Why not turn to your own husband ... (read in full...)
I don't think he has enough room for her and me
Q. ok how should i go about this relationship and am i wrong to feel this was? that is the question now here is the scenerio...i have been dating this man seriously for near a year, he is overall good to me and a joy to be around BUT he has an ex that ...
A. 26 January 2009: I have been there too and I would hate to break the news to you, but if he is putting you second to his ex, then she is his priority and that is where you will stay even if you get married and move to a different state. When I was dating my now ... (read in full...)
Could it be that he is afraid of his own feelings...?
Q. I've recently lost the last of my family that I could talk to. I don't feel like there is anyone one this earth that really knows me except for an ex married boyfriend. We haven't seen each other in 20 years but I ended up calling him because I feel ...
A. 26 January 2009: Have you ever considered that maybe he is just a good guy that wanted to be there to support an old friend and the neediness that you displayed to him made him feel sorry for you so he kissed you, but immeditaly felt guilt because, although many men ... (read in full...)
My sanity is hanging by a thread because of him!
Q. I am not going to get into the initial problem so much only because it is the same as many on here, however it has gone to an extreem that is bringing me debiliting pain. It is impacting my ability to be a mother, concentrate at work or even feel ...
A. 26 January 2009: I want to thank everyone who took the time to read what I had to say and gave me the advice that I needed. I found all of your advise very helpful and it has diffently opened my mind to options that have always been there for me, but perhaps I did ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he's really changed?
Q. is it possible for people to really change? ive been friends with this guy for a really long time now and hes an extremely smooth talker who has hurt, cheated and manipulated other ppl including me. he was then deeply hurt by someone he really cared ...
A. 25 January 2009: I am no expert in this field by any means. As a matter of fact if there was a gold metal or some kind of "Miss Bad Judgement Call of The Year Award", it would be hanging from my neck right now. One thing I can tell you is that my husband is you ... (read in full...)
My sanity is hanging by a thread because of him!
Q. I am not going to get into the initial problem so much only because it is the same as many on here, however it has gone to an extreem that is bringing me debiliting pain. It is impacting my ability to be a mother, concentrate at work or even feel ...
A. 25 January 2009: First of all, thank you so much for taking the time to read what I wrote, I know it was long. I can understand how it would seem that I am shooting down good advise by saying that I can not leave and your idea is a good one. I am not saying that I ... (read in full...)
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