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writes:Ok this may sound totally stupid and immature but yeah... I don't know why but for some reason I REALLY want a baby (A daughter mostly) I have been wanting one for almost a year now... I am 15 for gods sakes! What the hell! Out of nowhere last week my boyfriend was talking to some friends and said he wanted a daughter. They told me and suddenly I want one more then ever. I don't know why I want one so bad! It scares me! I swear... If my boyfriend asked me to have his child I would without a second thought. I want to be a mother sooo bad. I get told almost all the time about how good of a mother I would be. I am always around babies. I take care of them more then there mothers do sometimes. I'm just so motherly. I want a baby so badly and I know that if I were to have one with my boyfriend the baby and I would be taken care of because my boyfriend is very rich. I am just sooo confused right now...
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reader, abiebosch +, writes (31 October 2013):
I'm 15 and I've wanted a baby for a long time also. I even dated a guy back last year and at one point I actually thought I was pregnant. Turns out I wasnt. I was just a little sad but glad that I knew whether or not i was. In the end I dumped the guy for various reasons. Now I'm with a good Christian guy. Even though I want a baby I plan to wait until after I graduate and get married to have one. I graduate in 2016, so i still have a few years of teenage craziness.
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reader, motherly  +, writes (4 May 2011):
Heeey, babe.I can really understand what your going through. I'm turning 16 soon and I have wanted a baby for a few years. I have sisters that are older than me and both have children so I was an Aunty a young age, so i've been around children a lot of my life. My sisters friends all say i'm really good with children. There is nothing wrong with wanting a baby at such a young age, someone people were put on the earth to be mothers. I believe I am one of them people. Of course there are a few things wrong with having a baby at such a young age; your only a child yourself you need to enjoy your life before you have a child. Being a teenager is all about socialising with your friends, and of course doing school work. You need to concentrate on your school work, so you can pass all your exams and then get a good job when your older to pay for thing like; your house, bills, children and essentials. Another thing that could go wrong would be that you may not stay with your partner all your life. Although you may think your in love, things may change and you both might go your seperate ways. Then the child will leave you as a single mother even if the father helps out you will still be on your own. Being a single mother is quite hard, especcially at such a young age...Even though there are all the bad things there are also plenty good things. You have someone who will look up to you, love you and nothing can take that away from you. If you want a child, when you have one your life will be complete (this is what it would be like for me anyway) Once I had a child, my life would be complete. That is one of the main things I want in life.So consider all the negative things as well as the possitive things before you decide to have a child at a young age. This is my opinion (please don't let it change yours) I know that having a baby now would be hard, considering I have no job, no money and I may fall behind at school. I should wait till after I finish school then have a child in my gap year before I move on to get more qualifications to train for my job. I probably won't. Knowing me I will be pregnant in the next year or so, and honestly i'm happy with that choice in my life. My parents may think differentley though. Hope I helped, sorry it's such a long post.
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reader, kittyl305 +, writes (25 August 2010):
 hello, i understand were you are coming from i have been craving a baby for 2 years now and i am just 15, i work in a nursery and i brought up my baby brother at just 7 years. If you really want a baby you wouldn't mind what sex but do you really think you would be able to afford it. you will have to put the baby into a day care centre, buy bottles nappy's wake up at un-normal times in the morning to a screaming baby, now you might not mind about the nappy's and all but your best waiting till you can get money for the baby. Think to your self would my child have a up bringing if I have it now? would you be able to cope with all the stress? would you be able to afford the baby if your bf left you? all the questions that need answers, i am just 15 and i crave a baby but i am thinking about the baby and waiting till i have money and a house a job and a stable relationship, just think before you make the decision is what i want good for your baby. just wate till your out of school as you dont wont all the idiots being total d***s with you. x
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reader, MariaCeleste +, writes (21 June 2010):
I am 15 aswell and i feel your pain, i really do! I have been longing for a baby for the past 2 years now and when my auntie got pregnant last year, I was so jealous and when I was looking after my cousin I would pretend she was mine (sad, I know). Anyway, I am an extremely maternal person and cannot wait to go through the whole pregnancy, giving birth and having this baby which I have made and she is all mine. If you get me? I don't care about the cleaning nappies/feeding/crying as it is all part of the course! I sometimes even feel like crying when I see mummy's with their babies or children because I just WANT it so bad. It isn't fair and I have seriously thought about getting pregnant now but there are too many disadvantages to the situation I would be in at this age. Even though the waiting is horrible, I feel I have to. But yeah don't worry, just means you are a lovely caring maternal person :)
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reader, 15 N Wants A Baby =] +, writes (19 March 2010):
![15 N Wants A Baby =] agony aunt](/avatars/b102bf4a-4a7e-41ea-b795-177558aea6eb.png) I feel the same way to im 15 and for the last 4 years ive wanted a baby so badly. i dont care what the sex is as long as it is happy and healthy. although i would prefer a girl .at the moment 2 realatives are pregnant and im realy jelouse of them i want one so bad i no i can give my baby everything it needs and i understand that you have to do night feeds and change lots of smelly dirty nappys but thats part of the process i dont care if im single when my baby is born. but i keep telling myself to wait untill ive finished college in about 2 or 3 years before i have one then go on a gap year before university. so then atleast i have qualifications so when i go back to continueing with my education then my baby will be looked after during the day by my mum or in the creche at the university where i want to study.
im not telling you not to have a baby but at least wait till you have some qualifications behind you. that you can use to get a decent job. i hope i helped x =] x
if you wanna talk then message me if you can x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I have always beent he same as you, i love kids so much, if someones kids need babysitting i will be the first one to volenteer and will even counsil plans but you need to think are you old enough and how would you cope, You cant have a baby and get bored of it and send it back where it came from , with a baby comes responsability and you will need to be earning money and pay for things. also you should probably wait till you are legal, just think you have your whole life ahead of you!
hope this helps :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): You can find the answer in your question.
You want a baby so badly because you are 15.
Yea you'll probably want one when your older also, Babies are a lot of fun and cute and cool and lots of other stuff, but when your 16, and you want to do other things... You'll still have a baby, they don't just go away.
Think it over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Give yourself a few more years, 5 or so. It's perfectly natural to have these urges.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Although I'd love to see her try, I don't think Rae1031 could come across as any more condescending. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a daughter vs. wanting a son. Sometimes you just feel as though you'd get along better with one than the other. That doesn't mean you won't want a healthy baby and it doesn't mean that you won't love your child as much if the gender is not what you expected. She just mentioned that she'd like a daughter, not that she wanted to necessarily choose the gender of her child. As for the 'richness' part, she may be partly right. He may not personally have a lot of money, but I do think that it's good you are thinking of the wellfare of a child. She's also right in that you do have more plenty of time. This isn't something to rush into, but the feeling is natural. Many people want a child at a young age, but it's important to wait.
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reader, Rae1031 +, writes (2 February 2009):
I am sorry, but if you want (a daughter mostly) then you are not ready to be a mother at all. You can consider youself mother material when the only thing you want is a happy, heatly baby and are willing to accept the fact that all babies are not happy and healthy and yours may be one of the unfortuniate ones. Yet, even with this knowledge, you still thank God and feel totally blessed. It sounds to me as if you just want to please your boyfriend because you think he wants a daughter right now and you are assuming that he wants this with you. He may want a daughter one day and he may very well just have to accept the fact that no matter how much money he has a son may be what he gets. He does not sound very ready for a baby at all if he too believes that when it comes to a blessing for God, he is in a position to pick and choose. As far has him being rich? I am pretty sure that his parents are probably the ones who are rich and while it may be him that they are working for they probably had college in mind for him rather then grandchildern for themselves. Even if he did come to you with this and even if you did attempt to fulfull his dreams of having a daughter chances are the moment he finds out that his parents are mad and his college fund is at stake, he will deny even knowing you. So, with that in mind, how rich are you? You are both too young and you have plenty of time. I think you are probably suffering more from low self esteem then anything else. Work on this and even get some help if you need to so that when you are ready to be a Mom, you will be able to set a good example for your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009): Because your natural instinct during puberty is to mate and continue the species.As this is no longer a nessesity, you just have to learn to deal with the urges and cage them until you are ready to let them out.Flynn 24
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (2 February 2009):
It is normal you are newly fertile and it is normal to want a baby. I was just like you when i was you age i am now 19 and i know that i need to wait so that my child can have the best life and i also need some time for myself. I still want a child bad but i know it is not the time. Wait at least through high school it will embarrass your child later if they have to tell their friends you had her in high school. Just wait
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