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writes:I left my abusive husband 2 years ago. I won't get into the details of the abuse because it is over now, but I will say it was very cruel and he did cheat and lie a lot. When I left him, I swore to myself that I was going to be stong and get my life together. I moved very far away, found a good job, my own place and returned to school to finish my degree. I did everything I set out to do, but I also gained 60 lbs and I never go out or even try to socialize or meet anybody new. Although my ex-husband started seeing his current girlfriend before we even split up, I was still a little shocked to find out that he moved her in before our bed even got cold and last I heard she was pregnant and they were planning to get married. Although being replaced so fast was a slap in my face, the truth is I would never in a million years take him back even if he had tried. Yet, two years later I am still not able to get past the fact that he didn't try. I was disreguared and replaced over night - just like that. I know that he is mentally ill and I also know that he abused his girlfriends before me (they tried to warn me) and he will continue to abuse whoever he is with. Knowing this does not make me feel better at all. I do not want him, I just want for him to be upset that I am gone. What in the hell is wrong with me, it's like I left him, but he is still in my head controlling my emotions and I just don't know how to get him out and move on with my own life.
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reader, Rae1031 +, writes (21 October 2010):
Thank you. You are right, I know this is an obsession and it has little to do with him. Something (many things) were done wrong to me and now I want to feel some kind of justice, but I will never get it from him and I need to forget it and move on. I am going to try your advise. It is a big releif to know that 2yrs. is not an outragous amount of time for this to be on my mind. I felt like I would never get over it, but after hearing from you - I feel more normal now. Thank you so much.
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reader, Rae1031 +, writes (21 October 2010):
Thank you. You are right, I know this is an obsession and it has little to do with him. Something (many things) were done wrong to me and now I want to feel some kind of justice, but I will never get it from him and I need to forget it and move on. I am going to try your advise. It is a big releif to know that 2yrs. is not an outragous amount of time for this to be on my mind. I felt like I would never get over it, but after hearing from you - I feel more normal now. Thank you so much.
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