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writes:Hi, I met a really nice lad followed me round bars on night out and left his mates to come to next bar to see me. He was a proper gentleman.Went out a couple times and everything was going well, he invited me back to his to watch tv and insisted on paying for everything. He even wanted me to go to his mate's new years eve party and away on holiday with him.Been busy lately and haven't heard from him, should I send him a valentine card or not? I don't want to make a fool of myself. Please give me you honest opinion
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reader, Rae1031  +, writes (3 February 2009):
You would think Valentine's Day would be the perfect excuse to let him know that you are still out there and interested in seeing him again. I am not sure though, since you have only been out a couple of times and have not truly established were you stand. I mean obviously, he has some sort of interest in you beyond friendship or else I do not think he would have done any of the things that he has done so far, but since this is a day reserved for celebrating love, romance and relationships he may feel like you are pushing him for more then just dating. I understand that you like him and this may be the exact hint that you would like for him to pick up on, but if he has been a perfectly respectable gentalman then he may just be one of those good old fashined guys that believes in taking it slow and making the first moves himself. I would not completely neglect the situtation though, if you had not heard from him this could also be an indication that he feels he has shown you his intrest in you and is waiting to see just how interested you are in him. Since Valentine's Day falls on a Saturday this year, I would call him on Monday of that same week. Explain to him that you have been busy, but just wanted to say hi and suggest that you get together for a drink or two on Friday night. Do not mention Valentine's Day at all. If he brings it up, just act as if you had been so busy that you had forgotten all about it. If he agrees to Friday night just have a Valentine's Day card for him in your purse and if he has something for you then give it to him in return, if not, then keep it. If he suggest that you make Valentine's Day plans such as dinner or something then bring the card with you and give it to him on Valentine's Day since you could then consider wherever he takes you to be his gift to you. I know it seems extreem to have a plan, but sometimes things are very akward at first when you are not sure of the exact intent of the other person, but if you really like them then there is a very fine line between too much and too little until you know for sure.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): No I would Wait see if you get one from him. If not then you have a reason to phone him and ask him where it is! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2009): Go For It! Valentine's Day Only Comes Once A Year!Love is the best thing to take a chance at! It doesn't matter if you are a girl or guy. If he doesn't like you back then move on with your life, and go find someone else.You can be afraid to make a fool out of yourself in the name of love. Sometimes the best thing you can do is take a chance on someone or something you aren't sure about!Whatever the outcome of this situation may be, I wish you both love, happiness, and joy on the most romantic day of the year. =-)
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (3 February 2009):
 Yes you should send him a card, even if he doesn't act on it, (which I think he will), everyone likes to get a card on valentines day.
Apart from a bruised ego, what have you got to loose?
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