She fancies sexy guys on TV... But shows absolutely zero interest in sex with me!
Q. why does me girlfriend seem to show little or no interest physically? hi, i'm 18 and been with my girfriend for just 1 year and 3 months. we've never had sex but have came close but i had to stop as she said it had hurt when i had penetrated he...
A. 31 December 2005: Well, remember. You want her to pay physical attention to you, but she isn't really doing that for the guys on the TV either.
You mention you are 18. You don't mention her age, but is this perhaps someone who is not yet comfortable having s... (read in full...)
My love for married womaniser man who has affair after affair...
Q. Up until 1 month ago I had an affair with a married man which had lasted altogether about 5 years. I really loved him and I thought that he felt the same way. When I first knew him it was through work and later found out that he was seeing other ...
A. 31 December 2005: I read your question, and I want to repeat part of it back to you
"I am starting to think that I am not good enough for him. As he is having affairs all over..."
Girl, turn this sentence around and you might just get it.
If you want to ... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex-fiance back in my life?
Q. How do I, as a female, get my ex-fiance back? He broke things off only because my sister and mother didn't trust him. Recently, he asked me to call him, but I don't know what to say. I still love and really miss. -aprilstrongfe...
A. 31 December 2005: If you were engaged, he should have stood by you (imho) regardless of what your sister or mother thought of him. Of couse, this works both ways. You need to stand up for him to your family when these things happen, as he needs to for you.
That ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is insanely jealous... Is there a solution?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over two years. For the first year we lived near each other and now he lives three hours away. We are both in our thirties. Our problem is this: we argue constantly often times blowing up into huge ...
A. 31 December 2005: 1. Say "goodbye"
2. Don't look back... (read in full...)
I haven't changed, but the absence of sex makes me think I've become totally repulsive!
Q. Heya.... I'm just feeling a tad insecure. I am 23 and my boyfriend is 25. We have had an amazing sexual relationship since we started having sex..erm about 10 months, until recently. For the last 5 times of attempting to have sex he hasn't been abl...
A. 31 December 2005: Here's a blunt response. "No", he does not find you repulsive. He is probably stressed, and the number one thing stressing him in the bedroom is exactly this problem.
The more he wants to solve the problem, the harder (softer) the problem ... (read in full...)
I need to decide..do I give up my bf because he's using me or go for the other guy and risk hurting the bf?
Q. hi, im in a bit of a muddle... ive been going out with this guy for just over three months, and today when he fingered me, he made me bleed. i know that it can happen because ive read about it. but it came as a shock really, and im so confused ...
A. 31 December 2005: I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that you're young. The key here is the difference between "love" and "in love".
"In love" is a feeling. It's hormonal in nature, and very strong (especially when we are young). It is commonly... (read in full...)
My husband lied about ogling other women and now I wonder: is he lying about other important issues?
Q. When I met my husband I was honest and told him I couldn't handle a relationship with a guy who ogles other women. It wasn't until I was pregnant that he admitted he had lied and had been doing it A LOT! But then he told me he had changed. I forgav...
A. 31 December 2005: It's instinctive. That's no reason he can't change the behavior, though. Think about it, when you walk into any unfamiliar situation, note where your eyes go. It's largely involuntary.
If he continues to stare, then it's a problem because ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is almost perfect, except for hairy nipples...
Q. I have started dating a lovely girl. Perfect in almost every way except, she has quite hairy nipples. It's fine to say I should just ignore this little problem. However, how do I suggest that she might want to get rid of the hairs, without seeming ...
A. 31 December 2005: You're wanting her to change, well that's up to her. There is nothing wrong with her, though.
If you want her to change that, be prepared to offer up something in return (I'll shave this if you shave that). But if you offer, be ready to do it. ... (read in full...)
Oh no... I got drunk and had sex with my brother!
Q. I am twenty nine years old. Last summer my ex husband had the kids away on holidays and I went to stay with my brother for a couple of days. His wife and kids were away. We went to a party and we both drank a lot, when we came home we drank a bottle ...
A. 31 December 2005: We all make mistakes, that is life. This one sounds like a whopper, and no, not something to share.
Stay friends with your brother. You both know it was stupid, and you learned from it. That's the best thing you can do from a mistake - learn ... (read in full...)
The absence of sex in my current relationship is leading me to check out other guys!
Q. My relationship is becoming a lot better. The sex between my boyfriend and me is still very little if even that. But, my question is, do I still keep trying to perk it up or what? My eyes are really starting to wander. I have this co-worker that ...
A. 31 December 2005: Talk to your boyfriend about this very directly. The first step is to spell it out for him (don't assume a guy knows anything ... ever).
He may have a low sex drive, but if you approach the problem together, you may find solutions you hadn't t... (read in full...)
Little things make my husband snap and become verbally abusive!
Q. My husband has an anger management problem -- over the smallest thing he flares up and becomes verbally abusive, never accepting what he has done wrong. I can't handle it anymore -- what do I do?...
A. 31 December 2005: You say you can't handle it anymore, but in reality it is he who must "handle it." If he doesn't, it may lead beyond verbal abuse.
Make it clear to him NOW that this behavior is not acceptable, that he's hurting you emotionally, and that he ... (read in full...)
Girls my age think I look too young, but will I be asking for trouble to go out with a 15-year-old?
Q. I'm 19 and I've became good friends with a girl who is 15. I know she fancies me. I really like her back and we have so much in common. We are perfect for each other. The only thing is the age difference is holding me back from asking her out. I'm ...
A. 31 December 2005: If you were 40, then yes, people might look at you as "a sex-crazed adult looking for a minor", but 19 and 15 is not a very large age difference. You didn't say where you are at, but 15 may or may not be of legal age depending on where.
At yo... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid that every girl I date will cheat on me...how do I stop thinking this way?
Q. i have just been dumped by my girlfriend and she says she needs me to prove to her that i can change. i am very paranoid over things, i admit there is no reason to be paranoid over this girl cheating on me. i have been hurt by every girlfriend i've ...
A. 31 December 2005: Well, if EVERY girlfriend you've had cheated on you, then a little paranoia is understandable.
Just remember, they weren't her. Hopefully, you are able to learn from the ones who do these things. You may be able to learn how to find ladies w... (read in full...)
Is this guy playing me or does he really like me?
Q. i have started to like my mate's boyfriends brother who is single, he lives about 3hours away from me but he comes home to his parents most weekends- we have becum good m8s the last couple of months- we txt sumtimes but he hates the fone he barely ...
A. 31 December 2005: Hard to say with certainty, but it sounds like he likes you quite a bit, but doesn't like telephones.... (read in full...)
I want to get into another relationship but fears of slipping up, hinders my progress. Help
Q. i need to get into another relationship, but the fear of slippery in my first one is hindering my progress. how do i go about it? how do i get a perfect match cos i have a tender heart. and how am i going to get her if i found any worthy by appearan...
A. 30 December 2005: First of all, your first sentence starts with "i need". This is a problem. You might want to find hobbies, be single, become comfortable with yourself, and wait on the relationship until you start the sentence with "I want".
Secondly, life is ... (read in full...)
Married for 11 years to my "soul-mate" but I had an affair
Q. I've been married for 11 years (together for 13 years) to the man I thought was my soul mate, but I recently had an affair with a man I met at work, we no longer work together but the attraction is this there. He says he loves me and wants us to be ...
A. 30 December 2005: Choose. Remember, "Love" lasts longer than "in love". It is still quite possible your husband is your "soul mate". It could just be that you made a mistake, plain and simple. Make a choice and commit to your decision. Whatever you do, do it for ... (read in full...)
Just started dating my best friend... Should we marry?
Q. I just started dating my best friend. Even before we started dating we would tell eachother we loved each other and such...but in a few months he'll be leaving to join the Navy and we don't want to loose eachother in the process. I've thought about ...
A. 30 December 2005: You didn't mention how long you've been friends. If you're still best friends, it's likely that you couldn't possible "lose" each other.
If you've known each other for some time, and you feel ready to be married, then go for it - get engaged.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to go out "close dancing"
Q. My girlfriend and I have a great relationship, we agree ons almost every aspect of life, in the beginning she said that she will not seek male friendships because it causes trouble and that being alone with a man allow a person to drop their gaurd ...
A. 30 December 2005: Tell her it makes you uncomfortable, and tell her exactly why. You can't control what she does, but she might be able to reassure you, or curb the behavior as a compromise. It's all about compromise.
Whatever you do, don't try to control ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous over my partner and his internet porn
Q. Hi there, I seem to being having a problem with the green eyed monster. My partner is over indulging himself with interner porn. We hardly have sex, and when we do why does it feel as if he getting me to portray one of those sluts off the web ...
A. 30 December 2005: First of all, if he got embarrased at being caught, he may have expressed embarrassment as anger (typical for a man).
Secondly, no, a man doesn't have to masturbate, he chooses to. Talk with him about it (non-confrontationally). Explain to him t... (read in full...)
I feel like we are just going through the motions
Q. Hi, I am a 33 year old women with what I think is a big problem, I have been with my partner for 10 years and we have been married 18 months. The problem is I dont think I am in love with him anymore! I do love him but feel as if we are just goi...
A. 30 December 2005: Say everything you just said in your question to him.
You say you love him. If he still loves you, you'll need to *work* to make the feelings return (and you'll BOTH need to want this).
4 Days a month? You two (he) may need to work out care... (read in full...)
She's unsure of her feelings for me. It's very confusing as to whether she wants to date or not?
Q. I have know this girl for nearly 2 years. At first it was just a really close friendship but after a while i wanted more than that. I got feelings for her that i have never had for anybody else before. When i first told her about these feelings she ...
A. 30 December 2005: You've known her for 2 years as a friend, and you've had 2 years to evaluate and contemplate how you feel for her. Give her time to catch up. If she does want a relationship with you, it's better that it's entered into thoughfully and for the ... (read in full...)
Bored with my boyfriend. Time to pack it in?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for over two years,the trouble is,i think im getting bored with him.When we go out together its alright and we have a good chat but when i havent seen him for a week or so,i dont seem to miss him,where he seems more ...
A. 30 December 2005: By one definition, love is not a feeling, it's a commitment. "In love" is the feeling which yes, naturally cycles in and out. If you truly love each other, don't expect to always be happy. Heck, they'll be days you're downright pissed. If you ... (read in full...)
My parents want me married ASAP, but now my ex has returned, swearing commitment!
Q. Hi to all, I am 24 years girl who is engaged to a cousin. Before I got engaged I was madly in love with a guy. We had a nice relationship, but than things worsened up due to his familial issues. He simply adopted silence and did not contact me,altho...
A. 30 December 2005: Agreed. After all, it's not your parents who'd be marrying the cousin, is it?... (read in full...)
Did expressing my love for him scare him off? We spoke again but he still seems distant.
Q. Okay. I was the one who told her boyfriend that she loved him but didn't get the same in return. Well, just a small update. I talked to him last night. I gave in and called him first but he did call me back again last night. Anyway, I told him ...
A. 30 December 2005: He may feel the same way, just not ready to come out and say it. Guys are, as a whole, very shy - though don't admit it.... (read in full...)
How is my boyfriend going to know when he hits the right spot during sex?
Q. I have a great boyfriend that has been able to make me orgasm everytime manually. Now we're finally starting to have intercourse so how can he do it now? I know he has to find my spot, but how and when he does, how does he keep hitting it? He's ...
A. 30 December 2005: From a male's perspective, Tinkz is right. Tell him. Not to say we can't tell, but just tell him. Trust me, you'll both be happier.... (read in full...)
My bf of 4 years doesn't give me what I want..do I give him an ultimatum or start seeing another guy?
Q. Ive been dating one guy for 4yrs. One year we actually lived together, but it drove me crazy; the lies, the kids arguing, ..... Now we live apart but still see each other almost every day. My kids love him. I love him. But he is not giving me ...
A. 30 December 2005: #1. You don't say, but have you specifically, and in no uncertain terms, told him what you want (have you told yourself). What I mean is, we men (some of us) may be willing to give the world. We can still be prone to being blind to what is wanted ... (read in full...)
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