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writes: i have just been dumped by my girlfriend and she says she needs me to prove to her that i can change. i am very paranoid over things, i admit there is no reason to be paranoid over this girl cheating on me. i have been hurt by every girlfriend i've had because they have all cheated and i am gullible. how can i stop paranoia? help on this would be appreciated please.benjie Reply to this Question
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reader, pzeller +, writes (31 December 2005):
 Well, if EVERY girlfriend you've had cheated on you, then a little paranoia is understandable.
Just remember, they weren't her. Hopefully, you are able to learn from the ones who do these things. You may be able to learn how to find ladies who don't cheat at all, as well as learn what signs to look out for.
It is possible (probable) that you are attracting, and attracted to, the very types of women who are doing these things. After all, the common trait in all of your relationships has been you.
1. If she cheats on you, then the relationship ends, right?
2. If the goal is to save the relationship (there's still a chance, or she wouldn't have told you she needs you to prove you can change), then you don't want it to end, right?
Well then, take a leap of faith. Allow yourself to be open to being hurt, because that is life. It's not fair to you that you'be been cheated on, but it's also not fair to her if you hold it against her.
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