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writes: Hi to all,I am 24 years girl who is engaged to a cousin. Before I got engaged I was madly in love with a guy. We had a nice relationship, but than things worsened up due to his familial issues. He simply adopted silence and did not contact me,although I tried to contact him many times. Life got real difficult for me ....just in that time my parents pressurized me to get engaged to a cousin, as they want me to get married as soon as possible. But the real confusion started when my ex boyfriend contacted me after six months of my engagement and swore upon his loyalty...that he was bound at that difficult time.I was always in love with him so could not resist and asked him for lifelong commitment this time. I said to him I will take a stand in front of my parents, he just has to send his parents over.But even this time suddenly some family issues have risen from his side and am stuck whether to wait for him, when again he is disappeared. Or do I stick to what my parents want from me? He always leaves me in his difficult times, however I love him so much and want to be with him through thick n thin... My parents would have agreed on breaking the engagement if I had another option...but I am even not sure about him....:( What should I do??????? plz help
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reader, pzeller +, writes (30 December 2005):
 Agreed. After all, it's not your parents who'd be marrying the cousin, is it?
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (29 December 2005):
 I am not sure of where you are from so I am not positive of what is acceptable or not in your culture but I will tell you that in every part of America I know of 24 is an adult and can marry who and when they see fit. Also, a cousin would not be a good choice for marriage in any normal circumstances. I do not understand why your parents would be pressuring you to marry a family member. As for the other guy , your ex, I would not wait for him because it sounds like his family has a lot of control over him as well and you don't need any more families controlling you. Do yourself a favor, do not marry your cousin, do not marry your ex. You need to find some control over your life before you are getting married. Good luck.
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