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writes: Up until 1 month ago I had an affair with a married man which had lasted altogether about 5 years. I really loved him and I thought that he felt the same way. When I first knew him it was through work and later found out that he was seeing other women as well as myself, but then he said he had stopped seeing them. I believed him and kept on seeing him for a further 5 month and he said he had to cool it as one of his ex's knew about me and him and he was frightened in case his wife found out, so i got on with my life .I met a lad in the army called A which lasted about a year, but all the time i was seeing A i was working alongside G. Before me and A finished G asked me a couple of times if I was still A, I said Yes and now and again he would ask if we were still together.G said here is a phone number and gave me his mobile number. I didn't ring him for a couple of weeks and when I spoke to him one day he said he did not want a relationship, or any ties, it would be just sex.I was and had been in love with him all the time I knew him and settled for what I could have with him. I spoke to a couple of friends who said he is using you and one friend said go for it. I really really loved him and still do. I started to see him again and he never took me out incase any one saw us together and then he would brag to his friends what we had done, his interpritation of women is that we are all slappers and are carpet waiting to be laid. I still kept on seeing him because of the feelings that I had for him, but now he said that it is no longer convenient for him to see him as we no longer work together he has finished it. He said not to ring or text in case his wife uses the phone. I had to deal with his wife once or twice at work so she knows my number and voice. I still love this man and find it hard to accept that it is over. I sometimes think that he did care and we did seem to click, that their was something definetly their. He said he could never leave his wife because of his children and I know that most of his assets are in her name, including the house and the 2 cars.He has had numerous affairs before me that I found out about and I think he was seeing someone else as well as me.I am starting to think that I am not good enough for him. As he is having affairs all over, he has even said he is a womaniser and that he loves women.When we did see each other I think he must have thought I was getting sick of him and he had asked me numerous times for a threesome and i said "no!". He wasn't bothered if it was a man or woman.I am finding this difficult to cope with as I still love him. Why is he having affair after affair? Does he love his wife to do this? He says he is a happily married man, so if this is the case why have affairs.
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reader, pzeller +, writes (31 December 2005):
 I read your question, and I want to repeat part of it back to you
"I am starting to think that I am not good enough for him. As he is having affairs all over..."
Girl, turn this sentence around and you might just get it.
If you want to love, and want to be loved, find someone who is up to the task. You deserve happiness (we all do).
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