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I love him, but I'm really lonely and miss my friends and family.
Q. Hey If anyone can give me some advice I'd appreciate it so much. I went backpacking to Australia 2 years ago and met and fell in love with an Aussie. Things have been so good and still are only now I'm lonely. I love our relationship but we do not ...
A. 1 October 2012: Hi Kitty,
Plan a holiday back home and visit your friends and family, take boyfriend as well if you want so they can meet him. A holiday will get you out of the rut. Also try gaining some hobbies, it is important to get out of the house and enjo... (read in full...)
I want to enjoy sex like my B/f does but I can't seem to because it hurts too much
Q. I want I know why sex still hurts for me. My first time with my boyfriend on June 8, it hurt a lot. On June 31st we did it again and it hurt a lot. On September 7th we did it again and it still hurt. Is there something wrong with me? I want to enjoy ...
A. 1 October 2012: Hi,
As your new to having sex it will hurt the first few times till your body gets use to it. There is nothing at all wrong with you it is something we all go through. The more often you do have sex the more enjoyable it will be. Enjoy the mome... (read in full...)
My longterm boyfriend wants to sleep with someone else but doesn't want to cheat. Is a threesome the answer?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years, and we have both only been with each other during our relationship. He has suggested him sleeping with another woman, but not wanting to cheat on me, suggesting a three-some. His ex-wife ...
A. 29 September 2012: You're shocked at his request. Wow. I think I would be too. After 7 years and he wants to do have sex with another woman. If it was me I would say NO!!! What has the relationship been like over the last 7 years and you want to sleep with s... (read in full...)
Could my comforting her have started something?
Q. So there's this girl on my Cross Country team I really like. She's pretty quiet and never really initiates conversation, but she's really nice when you get her started. A couple weeks ago, she fell apart after a race (took a wrong turn, and she's ...
A. 29 September 2012: It is possable you may have sparked something. But at that point of the cross country she needed a friend and you were there. She could also be feeling rather foolish. That she cried etc. But you saw a side of her no one else has so that should ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to my boyfriend spending so much time taking care of his parents?
Q. Hi, I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and half. We are both adults. We both love each other and he has given me a ring. I have not met his parents yet, but I have met two of his siblings and his family is aware of our relation...
A. 28 September 2012: Hi,
I don't think you are over reacting. Although house renovations do take over your life a little bit. Since he is the youngest of the siblings it probably is up to him to look after them. As the ties are hard to let go etc. And his parents ... (read in full...)
He says I am the problem, but doesn't want me to get help!
Q. Well now where do i begin.. I've been married for 4 for starters total of 4 kids (2 from previous 10 yr relationship) I've known my husband for a total of 12 years altho we've only been together 6 we were friends before. My problem.. when he gets ...
A. 22 September 2012: Hi, Gosh you have been through a lot of hardship, Firstly sorry for the loss of the first relationship, he sounded very troubled. Now with your current husband is he at all feeling overwhelmed, tired and struggling to find the next doll... (read in full...)
GF doesn't want friends to know about relationship.
Q. Ok, so i've dated my gf for almost 2 years now. Only people that know we're in a relationship is her family but not her friends. I asked her why she doesn't want other people to know about our relationship and she said that if we break up she ...
A. 22 September 2012: Hi,
The only sensible thing I can find why she wouldn't want her friends to know if its some kind of religion purpose. But, it sure doesn't make sense. Have you asked her straight out why doesn't she want her friends to know. Hmmm, does sound od... (read in full...)
Why do guys like this only want us for sex?
Q. I like a guy, but I'm not entirely sure what his motives are. He definately likes me back in some way or form - he watches me quite a lot, comes over to me a lot, has kissed me on the cheek a few times... But my friend says he just wants me for sex....
A. 22 September 2012: Hi, I can't answer for males reasons for wanting sex and such, but, more to the point of you. Your friend is probably looking out for you as friends do. Now, if this boy is very sexual and you like him and stuff. If you want a relationship wit... (read in full...)
How do I know if he likes me or not?
Q. Hi. I'm 17 and I have been talking to an 18 year old guy. I got talking to him through a friend who originally was trying to set us up, but at the time I didn't want a relationship. As we've been texting I've started to like him, but I dont think he ...
A. 22 September 2012: Hi,
It is my suggestion to be straight forward, don't ask your friend if he likes you or not, take the balls yourself and have courage within yourself to ask him etc. What is it you text about, you should know within those texts what he thinks e... (read in full...)
I think he likes me but why wont he talk to me about it?
Q. Hi, I have been talking to this guy online and he has shown interest in me for several years but he never came up to ke and spoke about it. We've met (never spoke to each other) at parties etc. He'd always stare at me and ask about me in my absence. ...
A. 22 September 2012: Hi,
Because its a cultural thing and you can't ask him questions. How is it you are able to communicate with him.
He is probably feeling shy and not sure himself. I think he does like you, as he watches you etc. Perhaps give it a bit of... (read in full...)
Truly love my wife, only been with her, want to try another woman though.
Q. Hello there, I married my high school sweetheart. We have been together for near 15 years, married only about 5 years. We had kids "really" young. I have only ever slept with her and she has only ever slept with me 100% fact. So in technical ter...
A. 20 September 2012: Hi,
Im not sure how to answer this, but will try, you both have been very faithful to each other why ruin that trust now. You need to be very honest with each other and think afterwards how will you both feel. I know its a once off kind of ... (read in full...)
Not enough money for a wedding, should we elope?
Q. Ok so I'm newly engaged and the date is set for early 2014, after my fiance graduates from university. My problem is that my mom who would be paying for the wedding cannot afford it. Both me and my finance don't have our careers started yet, so ...
A. 20 September 2012: Hi,
My advice for you is to get a part time job. Both of you. And save towards the marriage. 2014 is a fear while away and if you start now and put some money into savings for the wedding you'll be on your way. Weddings are very expensiv... (read in full...)
Why will my boyfriend give his friend money but won't help me?
Q. my boyfriend supports a woman who is just a friend he hardly ever sees her but gives her $$ all the time. my water is shut off but he wont help me how can i get him to help? he is with me most all the time....
A. 20 September 2012: I guess at the end of the day his money is his money and he should choose how he spends his money. Perhaps have a conversation with him and ask him could you borrow some money from him if there is money available and pay him back when you get your ... (read in full...)
Amazing girl, she makes me happy,but I'm not confident I can get her. Please help
Q. There is this girl who I spent 2 1/2 months with this summer. We both worked at a summer camp and really hit it off. I kept getting the feeling that she really liked me and I definitely liked her. She would laugh at my jokes and we would tease e...
A. 19 September 2012: I think you have a very good friendship with her. Don't confuse your feelings though. You are both young and both have so much to learn from life. If in December do take her out, but as a friend. Because you are young, Long Distant Relationship ... (read in full...)
Isn't it a bit extreme for my boyfriend to just cut certain people out of his life?
Q. This really weird interaction happened when I was out with my boyfriend. We were walking along holding hands. We saw a friend of his in the street, my boyfriend called out to him to say hi. Then they were chatting briefly and then his friend looked ...
A. 19 September 2012: Sometimes in life we make judgements about people and who we befriend and trust. He obviously doesn't trust the exfriend, which is understandable. Friends don't treat each other like that ie go after girlfriends etc. So to me him cutting off his ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend feels neglected because I'm spending time with another friend. Views please?
Q. Hey everyone, I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 26 nothing significant there but I thought of mentioning it cuz my boyfriend has been acting really immature these days.. I have a best guy friend we go bowling,dinner's lunch we have a lot of fu...
A. 18 September 2012: Hi, Sounds to me like a little jealousy, although your boyfriend does have reason to worry a little. Sounds like you are spending quite a lot of time with the friend, but what do you do, if he is just a friend, there is nothing to worry... (read in full...)
The one guy, I really like him but I don't get 'that feeling'; with the other, wow
Q. What would you go for in a guy, I met these two who are both amazing guys in very opposite ways! But yet, some how they are perfect of what I want in a guy, looks and personality wise. The problem is, one of them when I kiss him, or when he touches ...
A. 17 September 2012: The feeling of total bliss is awesome, Go with the guy you have the feelings for. As your chemical balance works out in favour with him. When you feel emotionless that is not love. The feeling of love is what you describe and more.
Let t... (read in full...)
Why am I still single?
Q. I really need some help on this one. This torments me to no end and I can’t for the life of me figure this out. For some reason I get no interest from women. I’m 26 and I’ve still yet to have a romantic relationship. Women are either content ...
A. 17 September 2012: Nothing is wrong with you. I feel for you, I really do! Perhaps the right woman has not come your way yet. You will know when the right woman comes your way. You will think about her every minute of the day. She will turn your life around,... (read in full...)
I hate to admit it but my ex scares the crap out of me, how do I stop her from ruining my life?
Q. My head has been completely screwed with by my ex. She told so many lies. She even said that she was pregnant and then strangely miscarried when i asked to see proof of pregnancy and asked her to go to dr. During our 2year relationship she pulled ...
A. 17 September 2012: Hi,
If she finds you let her have her say. I no you don't want to hear what she has to say. But with her state of mind you don't really know her next move. Perhaps she wants to say sorry. But do not get back with her if she asks. Failing ... (read in full...)
He never talks to me. Yet I think my crush likes me. So why does he never talk to me?
Q. So here is the thing, I think my crush likes me too because he skips all his lessons last week when i have free lessons just to watch me. He tries to get close to me and i think he even told his mates that he likes me because i feel like everyone...
A. 17 September 2012: I would say make the first move, he is shy I take it. Talk to him and if your feelings are recipricated tell him you like him too. Then take it from there. ... (read in full...)
Should I let my brother fail?
Q. Its so bad i dont even know where to start. My younger brother who s 12 years old (in 6th grade) is not serious about his school work. All he does is play (toys) with his friends the whole day, eat then go to bed knowing that tomorrow he has to ...
A. 17 September 2012: Don't let him fail. He needs structure and understanding and someone pushing the RIGHT way. Perhaps either you or your mother ask him what is bothering him, maybe there is a reason, he may not understand what is getting taught, so in this case get ... (read in full...)
Is there any way to see how a man feels for you through the way you have sex?
Q. This might sound a bit random. But, is there any way to see how a man feels for you through the way you have sex? the reason i ask is that when me any my boyfriend first started having sex he would do it quite rough and fast.. but as the times ...
A. 17 September 2012: Making love and having sex are 2 different things. You can feel the emotion when you make love to another. You know by the way it feels if it is rushed it is sex. When there is care taken between 2 people, the passion between the 2 is out of this ... (read in full...)
Love and date. Is she playing hard to get or just being friendly?
Q. there is a girl i ask for a date when i got newly into university just two weeks earlier in the university but she refused politely. You know am a kind of person who doesn't insist on a girl. After i ask you for the first time if u refuse i go my ...
A. 17 September 2012: Hi erico,
Sometimes it is better to become friends first, than just jump into a relationship. The attraction has to be on both sides. I think at this point she is a friend. So be a friend to her and spend some time getting to no each other. ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't he come to see me since we made up?
Q. Last year I fell for my guy friend, and all of our mutual friends kept telling me how they thought he liked me back. So I decided to go for it at a party we were both going to, but that night he made out with another girl. He definitely had no idea ...
A. 17 September 2012: Give him time, perhaps he is just busy. Does he know where you live? Im sure he was very touched to see you. Maybe he is seeing someone at present.
So he hasn't come by. Do you know his number, maybe be the first to ask him out. Go to the m... (read in full...)
I scared her with my anger and now she won't take me back!
Q. Dear Aunties / Uncles, Where do I begin? I've been seeing this AMAZING LADY for about 4 months. I won't lie. We totally fell for one another and I know I am in love with her! I have never ever felt like this before! Anyway, a few weeks a...
A. 16 September 2012: I think give her time to get her head around the situation. Ok you had a heated moment with each other, and you frigthened her. Perhaps in time she will forgive you. I really think hang in there. No promises but be there for her as you have ... (read in full...)
Three years together, but it's going downhill. Should I end this relationship? or give it another chance?
Q. hi.i really do need some advice on what to do!!! ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and things have gone down hill quite badly... we have had 3 breaks in the relationship and always got back together within weeks as we can't bare to...
A. 16 September 2012: I think you know the answers to this within yourself. You are trying to hold onto something that is no longer there and are afraid of getting hurt by ending it. Perhaps sit down together if you want to work it out and map out what is not working ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but I love this other guy. What can I do to make this right? I am so worried for the other guy.
Q. Wow Im surprised myself how much i love this guy(2 years older). We were friends for 4 years until yesterday when he told me(via the internet) that he had feelings for me and that he cant hide them anymore. I already have a boyfriend and he knows...
A. 16 September 2012: If your feelings for the internet guy are real which to me kind of says that they are. Knowing him for 4 years and he has come out and told you that he loves you is very special. What is important here is the guy you are going out with. If your ... (read in full...)
Everything's been going good so far... should I continue waiting to see where this is going?
Q. i attend college and i started talking to this guy as a friend. that's all i expected from it, but now.. it's grown into more. When he gave me his phone number, he also gave me his email address, and we've added each other on facebook. he told me ...
A. 16 September 2012: Hi,
He sounds like a really wonderful man. You both obviously care deeply about each other. The most important thing here is friendship. You are both very good friends at this point and im sure you both want to take it further. Whats stopping... (read in full...)
I am torn. My Bf is in jail and may move away to be closer to his child when he gets out. What should I do? I want to be respectful.
Q. I'm 19 and My bf is 23 we have been together for 1 year and some months. He has a daughter but he is not with her mother. I have never had this happen to me before so i don't know what to do or think. Of course I am going to wait for him...
A. 16 September 2012: Hi,
Ok, Firstly, how long is he in jail for. Secondly, he has a lot of thinking to do which he will do in jail. He may come out as a changed man, that would be good, good for you and your relationship. Take it easy, Talk to each other, w... (read in full...)
I feel so cursed to not be with one person I love the most in this world.
Q. Dear Cupid I am divorced and now in love with my best friend. He says he likes me a lot too but not in the way I want. I know I have to move on. But why do I feel that I was never given a chance by God to be with one person I love the most in this ...
A. 16 September 2012: Hi,
I would like to suggest having an open conversation with him and telling him how you feel. Perhaps there is a bond there together, perhaps he is scared of changing the friendship from one of friendship to dating. It can work. But give it ... (read in full...)
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