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writes:Hi, I have been talking to this guy online and he has shown interest in me for several years but he never came up to ke and spoke about it. We've met (never spoke to each other) at parties etc. He'd always stare at me and ask about me in my absence. Now, that we are conversing, he throws one or two hints at me that tell me that he is interested. However, he barely talks. What should I do? I have asked him a question but he hasn't even replied to it yet. I belong to a culture where women can't freely express themselves or be bold to ask someone out. I need to know the reason for his talking less? Reply to this Question
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Hi
If he is from the same culture he will know the restrictions you have, if he isn't he may not understand, in which case he would approach you about a date,but hasn't.Even shy men bite the bullet and make a move eventually,their friends would make them!
As you can't and he won't, its a stalemate situation going nowhere.You could try a 'go between person' to test the water,to explain your reasons for not approaching him direct, at least then he knows your interested.
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reader, nat1972  +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Hi,
Because its a cultural thing and you can't ask him questions. How is it you are able to communicate with him.
He is probably feeling shy and not sure himself. I think he does like you, as he watches you etc. Perhaps give it a bit of time, and develop a friendship with him. Even online, maybe get to know his likes and dislikes. Take it slow and do flutter your eyelashes at him when he is watching you.
Communication works, and makes you go all fluttery inside your tummy and that does happen, then by all means find courage and go talk to him.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (22 September 2012):
 Because some men, or people, are just like this.
I am confused by your statement that you belong to a culture where women can't freely express themselves or be bold to ask someone out. If you cannot bring yourself to be more forward, then it is likely you should stick with men in your own culture and leave "quiet guy" alone. He is probably waiting for you to make a move as he has hinted at liking you, but since you won't or can't, he is just in limbo.
Not sure what you are going to do if you can't speak with him about it.
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