After 24 years of marriage he now tells me he wished he'd had sex with more women! This is making me very insecure
Q. After nearly 24 years of marriage my husband, aged 51, announced to me that 'the biggest regret of his life was that he hadn't had sex with more women'. I also found out at the same time that he had lied to me about being a virgin when we met and ...
A. 8 December 2009: Sorry you're going through this. That must hurt a lot. It's a shame to realise though that I think this is actually quite a normal - human - thing to think, and many men and women as well go through the same though process. You need to talk to him ... (read in full...)
Does anyone know the fastest way to get in shape?
Q. Does anyone know the fastest way to get in shape?please im desperate,my 25 anniversary is coming up ? I need to get in shape in just a couple months and was wondering if you had any diet and exercise ideas that are cheap and give results? please g...
A. 4 December 2009: Go to Spin classes at your local gym - try to do them every day if you can and the weight will be absolutely falling off you in no time. Combine this with body combat classes (so much fun - completely addictive) and you're onto a winner. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me feel insecure. My fault? Help!
Q. Ok, so...I have been dating this boy for 6 months. At first, he was amazing. He complimented me all the time, and he made me feel like a princess. However, over the last few months, he has started making little comments that are starting to break ...
A. 1 December 2009: I'd get rid of him then get myself down the gym when he was out of my life - that'd show the ****! Actually... I did do this to my ex boyfriend. Revenge is sweet. He sounds like a knob... if you don't mind me saying so. ... (read in full...)
What do girls like the most...???
Q. I dont mean to sound unromantic about it but i want to know the best way to pleasure a girl, I want to take my girlfriend on a date to her favorite restaurant and then have some fun afterwards on like our aniversary and i want to know what girls ...
A. 30 November 2009: Personally, I'd just be flattered by the fact that someone was organising something for me and hadn't just left the decision down to me! I would love it if I was surprised with something cool and active like a salsa dancing lesson or ice skating or ... (read in full...)
I'm tormented by the fact that she's had a 'bigger' man than I
Q. My girlfriend has just recently told me (because my dum ass ask) that she was with a guy so thick she felt pain and once had to see the doctor. to me is like (lucky bastard) i guess i think that's like every man's dream to be able to just do that to ...
A. 28 November 2009: I'm sorry but I think that you're being a bit ridiculous. This man made her GO TO THE DOCTOR and CAUSED HER PAIN. You seriously want to make your girlfriend be in pain and have to see a physician? This was NOT a nice experience for her so why oh ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get a pimple in your genital area?
Q. I was wondering, since it happened to me yesterday. Is it possible to get a pimple in your genital area, in this case on your penis ?????? Its exactly like one, except if i press it for it to pop it kinda swells. And if not then what could it be ?...
A. 27 November 2009: Yes it's possible but you should visit your doctor just in case it is anything else. Are you sexually active? If so, you should definitely ensure that it isn't an STI. If it's bothering - visit your doctor. Full stop.... (read in full...)
I'm craving a threesome, with me and two gorgeous men. How do I make this happen?
Q. I've always had very intense sexual fantasies about being with more than one man at a time (a threesome)... I think about it whenever I masturbate or have sex, it's the only thing that can push me over the edge into orgasm. Unfortunately in my real ...
A. 27 November 2009: It's pretty easy! There's are about a million 'adult dating' i.e. swingers websites - just go on and advertise yourself - try this http://www.adultmatchdoctor.com/forums-67-0-1.aspx
Should be easy peasy... in theory.... (read in full...)
Why would he invite me out for dinner but then never call or texts to arrange the date?
Q. I sent an email to a guy I used to work with--just a "hi, how are you doing" email. He answered and said "we should get together for dinner and catch up on things." He included his cell number. I called a couple of days later, we talked for abt 15 ...
A. 26 November 2009: The uncertainty would kill me... honestly? I'd just find out once and for all if he's interested. Call him and say to him - right, let's go out for dinner next week or I'm going to eat without you. If he hears you're serious, and he likes you - ... (read in full...)
What could this problem be?
Q. my vagina produces a milky like substance it comes out very slowly it does not have a foul smell.what could the problem be?...
A. 26 November 2009: She said... it 'does not' have a foul smell. But I agree - see your doctor - you may have a bacterial infection or thrush - probably need some antibios. ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable to expect him to help out?
Q. The other day, my Italian boyfriend says to me "why do you always get quiet whenever you clean the kitchen". I tell him that it would be nice if he were to help someday, even just once, too. Immediate defenses go up and he tells me that it...
A. 25 November 2009: !!!!! What are you doing with this man? He sounds like a prize idiot. Seriously. Leave him. Most men are not like this - he is taking you for an absolute fool. ... (read in full...)
He says vaginas are gross and doesn't want sex anymore. What can I do to have sex in my marriage?
Q. My husband and I are very much in love, we have been married less than a year and we have been together about three years. Before we got married, sex was great. I was intimate and exciting. I am very much aware that this stage will fade some as ...
A. 25 November 2009: You don't believe in divorce? Sorry - this is probably not the answer you want to hear - but really!? He sounds like an absolute idiot. Divorce him. Find someone who treats you with respect. ... (read in full...)
Irregular periods, please help?
Q. hi, I'm new to this, but I'm really worried. I've had my period twice in one month and i don't know what that means :[ I'm not very old I'm only 13 and it freaks me out. It hurts really bad and nothing makes the pain go away other then layin...
A. 25 November 2009: I think that you are probably getting stressed about this and your hormones are probably playing havoc with how you are feeling. I'm sure that you will be absolutely fine and shouldn't worry too much - your periods will settle down as you get older. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to masturbate when he's not in the mood for sex!
Q. Hi all, I am having a problem. I am 42 years old and since I can remember I loved making love especially oral sex at least once a day. As a result of having a high sex drive I have loss a lot of sleep and have had numerous arguments with m...
A. 24 November 2009: It's disrespectful of him to expect you to match your sex drive to his - just as it would be disrespectful of you to try to coerce him into having sex every day or more often if he wasn't comfortable with it. Masturbating is not disrespectful to ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to masturbate when he's not in the mood for sex!
Q. Hi all, I am having a problem. I am 42 years old and since I can remember I loved making love especially oral sex at least once a day. As a result of having a high sex drive I have loss a lot of sleep and have had numerous arguments with m...
A. 22 November 2009: Completely unfair!! I know it sounds a bit sneaky - but couldn't you go somewhere private to masturbate? Or... if you want to fire up your husband's sex drive why don't you give some serious consideration to your idea of having a threesome? I think ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me to masturbate when he's not in the mood for sex!
Q. Hi all, I am having a problem. I am 42 years old and since I can remember I loved making love especially oral sex at least once a day. As a result of having a high sex drive I have loss a lot of sleep and have had numerous arguments with m...
A. 22 November 2009: Completely unfair!! I know it sounds a bit sneaky - but couldn't you go somewhere private to masturbate? Or... if you want to fire up your husband's sex drive why don't you give some serious consideration to your idea of having a threesome? I think ... (read in full...)
How do I attract me in my forties!?
Q. Hello, I have asked for a lot of help over the last few months. I was the one who dated a man, who was very obese, and broke up because of is ED problem. We got along well during our dating except for that. He didn't mention love, but told...
A. 22 November 2009: The constant stream of questions suggests that you are pretty paranoid. Have you tried being yourself? Your desperation is probably scaring people off. Men of all ages like confident women who refuse to change their personalities simply to seem ... (read in full...)
Irregular periods, please help?
Q. hi, I'm new to this, but I'm really worried. I've had my period twice in one month and i don't know what that means :[ I'm not very old I'm only 13 and it freaks me out. It hurts really bad and nothing makes the pain go away other then layin...
A. 22 November 2009: Hi there - it's normal to have irregular periods when you're this young but if it's painful that that's another matter. I remember I used to get really painful periods at your age and it was not fun. I would go and see your doctor (you can ask to ... (read in full...)
On medication for depression but using drugs too, could I be causing myself long term damage? Please help.
Q. I'm concerned about any long term damage i may have done to myself after using drugs occasionally over the last few years. I have tried most things once or twice and have probably taken mdma/exsctasy etc about 15 times in 5 years but now usually ...
A. 21 November 2009: Hi there, I'm sure that you're feeling extra bad and extra worried at the moment because of your comedown - you have to remind yourself that you are experiencing a comedown and that everything seems 100 times worse than it is is reality.
I dou... (read in full...)
He forgets to text me and he forgets our dates! Is he seeing someone else?
Q. i've been texing and meeting this boy for about 4-5 months, last week he told me he liked me but didnt want a relationship yet... all of a sudden since that he's been 'forgetting' to text me or ring me and tonight he even forgot we were supposed to ...
A. 21 November 2009: Sorry my dear but it sounds as though he is seeing someone else - or at the very least isn't interested at all. Ash him alright if he is interested - although it sounds as though you may already have your answer - move on if you can and forget about ... (read in full...)
I told him a very personal thing about me and now all his friends are calling me names. I don't know how to handle it any more. Please help!
Q. Last night i told my boyfriend of 10 months that i had been raped before we got together and that is why i do not wish to have sex before we are married as i am scared and any time i think about sex i see His face. its horrible. Even for my ...
A. 21 November 2009: Oh my goodness, what a horrible boy you have gone out with and what an ordeal to have to go through after you have already had to go through the ordeal of being sexually assaulted. Have you ever been to counseling to talk to someone about what ... (read in full...)
I would love to have a real relationship with a girl. (I'm also female).
Q. I really want to have a real relationship with a girl, but i'm really bad at starting up that kind of thing. i tried to find some groups and sites and such to help me meet new girls and get to know them, but everyone just seems to be there for the ...
A. 21 November 2009: Have you tried a dating website like match.com or eharmony? Eharmony in particular advertises itself as a relationship site that matches people on values etc. Both of these sites match same sex partners - it might be worth a try if you really want ... (read in full...)
Am I a slut?
Q. Am I a slut? A few people have said it to me and sometimes my friends say it, in a jokey way, but I think they kinda mean it sometimes. I'm 16, I've only ever had 1 proper boyfriend and we went together for about a year. About 10 months in...
A. 21 November 2009: Forget the opinions of the people who have been making moral judgements on you on here. When I was a teenager I got up to all sorts of stuff! I made out with 4 people one night - and no, it wasn't the best decision - but I wasn't sleeping with them! ... (read in full...)
Am I having an orgasm???
Q. The past few days, after school I'd get home and there would be a yellowish discharge in my knickers. I recently found out girls cum during sex. I've never had sex so am I cumming? I recently went to the doctors to see if a discharge was anything to ...
A. 21 November 2009: Perfectly normal. This isn't an orgasm. This is what happens during puberty and unfortunately for us women, this is what will happen to you for most of your life! You can buy some pantyliners from your chemist - they are designed to protect your ... (read in full...)
Will expanding our sex life to include other people help or hinder our relationship?
Q. My bf and I are wanting to try something in our sex life that he is interested in having sex in front of another couple with no touching and no swapping partners which is what i want but i have a slight doubt. I'm afraid that maybe he will be ...
A. 21 November 2009: Buy yourself - and read a book called 'The Ethical Slut' - it's actually nothing about being a 'slut' it's about bringing other people into your sex life in a way that is loving and caring towards your partner. I would seriously recommend it. You ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to take a step back and 'chill' before I ruin it?
Q. I've been single for 2 years.. I had 3 long term relationships and all have cheated on me. This has left me so insecure and when i meet someone i tend to be quite 'clingy'. I fall for that person quite easily, like i crave to be loved..:-(. I'm 35...
A. 21 November 2009: This is difficult and I've been in your situation before. It's a very fine line between not being too clingy and letting someone walk all over you. I'd give it another month or so and let him make the move towards calling your his girlfriend and ... (read in full...)
He texts his ex and another girl. Is he losing interest in me?
Q. my boyfriend and i got 2gether a couple of months ago. his girlfriend split up him then he got with me but he constantly keeps texting her and texting this other girl that he constantly talks about. he met up with her, had a couple of drinks a...
A. 20 November 2009: Honestly, what are you doing with this guy? I know this is really hard to hear right now but yes, I'm afraid he is completely messing you around. it sounds as if he wants all three of you and once and you are just being a doormat is you let him do ... (read in full...)
How can I ask him to make sex more meaningful for me?
Q. I'm 25 years old and my husband is 33. We have been married for 2 years now and have a beautiful 18 month old daughter. We got married after dating for only 2 months, because I got pregnant. Sex is now becoming more of a chore than it should b...
A. 20 November 2009: Maybe you could try watching some pornography together - men LOVE that - and say 'ooo, we should try that!' - and see what he says - find some porn that shows exactly what you would like him to do to you!! I think it's about making your suggestions ... (read in full...)
How do I tackle this problem of watching too much porn?
Q. hi cupid, am a young guy of 22. i have a serious issue that disturbed my life sometimes and trying to stop this but it's just like pouring water on the stone. I have sexual feelings whenever I see a woman naked or watch a porn movie not only that, ...
A. 20 November 2009: This is completely normal - don't worry about it. Sometimes the guilt that surrounds our sexual feelings makes it worse and drives us to do these things more - out of self hatred or punishment or something. Nearly all of us watch porn - I actually ... (read in full...)
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