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writes:Am I a slut? A few people have said it to me and sometimes my friends say it, in a jokey way, but I think they kinda mean it sometimes. I'm 16, I've only ever had 1 proper boyfriend and we went together for about a year. About 10 months into our relationship I kissed someone else and we broke up. The boy I cheated on my bf with, I eventually lost my virginity to. I really regret it because I realize now he only used me and I was just a bit naive. It got spread around my school and that was quite upsetting. Anyway, my boyfriend and I eventually got back together but we broke up a couple of months later. Ever since, I've been with a few people, just messed about kissing and things. A few weeks ago on a night out I had been drinking and it affects me quite badly. I ended up making out with 5 people. One of which I went further with (oral sex) and eventually everyone found out. I really feel terrible about it and am just so embarrassed that everyone knows the things I've done. Am I a slut?
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reader, hubbie  +, writes (27 November 2009):
 slut not you are, as long as you enjoyed that moment, there is nothing to worried you about, and you know dont pay attention to those people who called you that, they are just jealous and envy because they dont have confident like what you have, actually it helps you, why? because now, i believe that u find your weak when you are drunk right:)and for that you will be more aware right,,,,cheer up girl.... here in earth nothing is perfect....
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): Your not a slut and you shouldn't have to ask yourself that question. What other people say about you are words that can be forgotten, however a lot of girls your age tend to get branded as so called 'sluts' by their behaviour, if you don't want to be branded my advice would be not to act the way you are. Alcohol is a very bad influence and can mae you very flirtacious especially with young girls so be very careful when your out.
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reader, bucket1 +, writes (22 November 2009):
girl your not a slut. some people i know are in high double figures and they're only 17. your not a slut at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): Life is a learning experience dear. No I'm afraid you’re not a slut.Think of it all this way: You have learnt that the grass isn’t greener on the other side. I mean by cheating on your bf you ended up with nothing. Don’t feel bad just don’t do it again.Secondly if you want to be a bit promiscuous then perhaps doing it in private would be better and with someone you can trust. Try friends with benefits relationship and see if you like it ok.Your friends are actually jealous by the way
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): The double standard excuse doesn't justify something that would be held against either gender. A male making out with half a dozen people in one night would be considered slutty too. Male sluts do not have the kind of unquestioning universal approval that a lot of women seem to think they do. The double standard exists but it is perpetuated by women at least as much as by men.
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reader, MsFrankie +, writes (21 November 2009):
 Forget the opinions of the people who have been making moral judgements on you on here. When I was a teenager I got up to all sorts of stuff! I made out with 4 people one night - and no, it wasn't the best decision - but I wasn't sleeping with them! No, I was not a slut and neither are you . Actually I think that the whole concept of a slut is ridiculous - so young boys who make out with lots of girls are studs but girls who make out with lots of boys are sluts? Stop trying to categorise and label yourself. Just be aware that there will always be judgemental people (like some of those who have posted on this site) who will be happy to point their finger at you, call you names and take the moral high ground - but also remember that you should only be making out with people because you want to - not because of any social pressures or pressures from boys. And if you do have sex with any of these boys - please please make sure you protect yourself by using a condom. STIs are not pretty and they are very easy to contract. Take care and stop being so harsh on yourself
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): Making out with 5 different people at one party is reason enough to cause a slutty image.I'm not making a moral judgment but that's how the world is.
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (21 November 2009):
 Your not a slut, rumors are spread easily at this age and things are exagerated.
Plus its not like your doing it with tonnes of different guys.
But its all down to you, if you feel like a slut, pehaps you should take it easy for a while.
However, if its other people making you feel like a slut, well teebs I expect a lot of them will have done worse anyway.
Good luck :) x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 November 2009):
No, you're not. but you do need to be more careful, because you're putting yourself at risk of rape and STD's and even preganancy. You probably shouldn't drink as much, and just be more careful.You don't want to wake up one day and realize you're in trouble.
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reader, ffogalilly  +, writes (20 November 2009):
I guess that I'm a slut too, I'm a little older than you, but I do things a little bit differently, I might see a guy a few times then its over. You're young and just experimenting, there isn't anything wrong with it, your peers are just too immature to handle it in a better way. Just make sure to get condoms, put them in your purse, and get on birth control.
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reader, Jim01 +, writes (20 November 2009):
I think the anonymous female who wrote below me is a little harsh. You're young and in a very experimental stage! You need to find out what you want.--strontiumdog brought up a good point. Is this the person you want to be? does it make you happy? if not change, dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): Is beef made from cattle? Of course you're a slut. You made a poor decision, and so there are consequences. Stop behaving like a slag and maybe no one will call you one.
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reader, Jim01 +, writes (20 November 2009):
HA! sounds like a wicked cool friday night! Up until that sentence I was thinking "she's not so bad"... I'm not calling you a slut but that was a slutty thing to do. I'm not just saying that just because you're a girl either. If a guy did that it would be slutty too!
SO maybe you shouldn't drink like that if you know you responde to alcohol that way. And if that was the first time you drank, you know for next time.
Best of luck,
Jim
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reader, greg290352 +, writes (20 November 2009):
 Hi - well "no" is the answer to your question. Lots of other girls your age will have done the same as you and worse. However girls often bitchy at your age and calling you a "slut" takes the attention away from them! Don't stress about name calling. However it might be an idea to go on the Pill if you ger drunk at parties and lose control? Alternatively drink less of course :-)
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