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writes:Hi everyone, i need your help. i lost my virginity about 1 month ago, and everythings great. sex isnt painful and IS pleasurable. but everytime ive had sex i havent had to do anything at all (my boyfriend has done all the work). The other day i decided that i wanted to do something and .. that somtime was rubbish i cant manage to thrust or rock or anything succssessfully. i just dont realy know what to do. My boyfriend doesnt really care that i dont conribute he just likes to see me happy. But i feel greedy and guilty that i havent realy got the talent to take charge why he does nothing. Im 16 and my bf is 18. he is pritty exsperienced in the bedroom and was a bit of a playa before he met me and our relationship is great. But i realy want to take charge and pleasure him. Please can anyone give me some trips... i know all about foreplay and it is the one thing i am good at and so dont need tips with that. Yes i know im young but im in a loving realtionship and we've bin together for coming up a year. He has never forced anything or anything like that... just thought i would clear that up lol Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): hi, the best way i could tell you to pleasure a guy is, start off with you ontop of him facing him and ben your knees as if your about to jump get your bf to support u with your body weight, and bounce, or face away from him and bend your legs so your toes are by his side hold onto his ankles etc and bounce and rock..... to get a rythm do what makes you feel good, also if you want him to tell him to slap your ass.. im 22 and this has worked everytime and its your to work on your fella... look up reverse cow girl
hope it all works out x
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reader, Tye +, writes (16 July 2011):
Tye is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks this is all great advice. i guess i just need to relax and go with it :) its also really great to hear a males view on this it helps alot
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reader, Odds  +, writes (16 July 2011):
 Technique takes time and practice. Try different things with him, and be honest with each other about what worked and didn't work for both of you.
The more important thing is enthusiasm. Let yourself go - it may take time to build up the comfort to do that, so take baby steps. Let yourself moan, or gyrate, or claw at his back and pull his hair. Do what comes as impulse, get into the moment, just allow yourself to react to how you're feeling without worrying about if it's the "right" thing to do, or being embarrassed at what he might think. Just go with it, and enjoy it, and be enthusiastic. The hard part is letting it come naturally; you won't really help yourself by *trying* to react, and you'll just come off sounding like a porn star. Get comfortable and let yourself react, keeping in mind it will take a while before you can really do that. If he can be patient, so can you.
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reader, Molly9945 +, writes (16 July 2011):
You can pleasure him more orally if it's difficult for you to do so during sex as you stated. Otherwise getting on top, doing lap dances, things like that work. And being on bottom and thrusting up IS difficult, and takes some practice. You can also try "doggy style" and thrusting back as he thrusts forward.
Otherwise if you want to take charge give him oral, and if you're lucky he'll reciprocate.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 July 2011):
 It takes practice. I suggest you start having a few times going slow, try to ride him sloooowly. Then find your rhythm, and what works for you. I always found the best sex was when you didn't think about your partner, but did what was pleasurable for YOU. Because then you let yourself go, and in 99% cases, what works for you works wonders for him as well.
Riding a guy is risky business even for the experienced ones, I can't count how many times I've "cracked" him (bending the penis), causing him pain. However, it happens to everyone, just take it slooooow.
Practice is really all there is to it though, and teamwork.
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