Why is my boyfriend acting like this?
Q. Is it abuse if your bf tries to force you into sex through making you feel guilty? By saying things like 'if you loved me' or 'if you wanted to see me happy you would do it', 'if you cared about me' etc. Is it abuse if he doesnt respect you when...
A. 19 August 2009: Why would you put up with someone who spikes your drink and forces your head in his crotch. Why would you waste time coming here to ask if it's abuse?
HELL YES. And you know it is. This guy will end up in prison very soon if he doesn't cop on. If h... (read in full...)
My partner keeps having sex with me in my sleep, even if we have had sex before sleeping!
Q. my partner and i have a very active sex life, we have been together 14 years, we still have sex 3-4 times a week, however he goes through phases, of having sex whilst im sleepin, my partner is quite a dominate man, and ive let him be, when i start ...
A. 19 August 2009: He is basically raping you as punishment when you get too 'independant'
Please don't allow this man to do this to you. This is wrong and he is an insecure controllong jackass.
I hope you haven't been putting up with this for 14 years because ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to stop his sexual advances and tell the woman to approach him for sex instead?
Q. Hello and thank you for taking the time to read my question. I am wondering if it is normal for a man not to approach a woman sexually in a relationship but instead tell her it is up to her to approach him for intimacy etc? It used to be that ...
A. 19 August 2009: I don't think blatantly suggesting that you give blowjobs is saying that it is ''up to her to approach him for intimacy''.
It should be give and take in a healthy relationship. One person should not be the initiator all the time.
You need to sit ... (read in full...)
Rough sex didnt hurt me so now my boyfriend thinks I have slept with other people!
Q. My boyfriend and i had very rough sex the other day and it didnt hurt at all.. Basically he wanted me 2 scream ive only ever had sex with him, we've been together two years and been doing it for about a year and a half. Its upsetting him that it ...
A. 19 August 2009: He's VERY immature. Sex should never hurt and it doesn't mean you've slept with other people.
He's clearly insecure and he can't be a nice person if he wants to intentionally hurt his girlfriend.
Get him to learn about female anatomy for the sake... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and have just found out my boyfriend has another 3 babies on the way!
Q. I'm pregnant by my boyfriend. I told him he wants nothing to do with the child. Found out he has 3 babies on the way. I don't want a abortion because I had one when I was younger. I just turned 30 years old. He's 26 years old. I've been seeing him ...
A. 19 August 2009: He's a scumbag and I feel bad for you and the child/ He cannot shun his responsibilities. If you have this child he will have to pay support.
Talk to someone , a doctor or planned parenthood or something. If you cannot afford to give this baby a de... (read in full...)
Coping with my jealous and hypocritical new husband. Any ideas?
Q. Hello agony aunts, I'm hoping you can all help me get some perspective and advice on how to deal with an extremely jealous and hypocritical husband... I recent got married to my partner of three years. We haven't had a perfect run, we we...
A. 19 August 2009: What birdy said. You can't let him control you like this. He sounds VERY immature.
You need to let him know you're an adult and that you can stay out past 9pm just as he can. However , one night a week when both of you go out with your friends is e... (read in full...)
Will women be put off by man who's only had one sexual partner?
Q. Hi, Im wondering do women think its a turn off if aguy who is in his early 30s has had only one sexual partner in the past. It was a long term relationship that didnt work out and I now wonder if women will be put off by it? Thanks....
A. 18 August 2009: Nope , be proud of it. I'd love it. Women don't want a slut either!... (read in full...)
Why do I burn after sex?
Q. I'm 16 and ii been haveing sex with my boyfriend WITHOUT a condom and we have sex 10 times a day so i was wondering why my pravit part burns after we finish ???...
A. 18 August 2009: 10 times a day is too much. Your vagina is getting irritated. Cut down the amount of times you do it , maybe have longer sessions. Also try using KY Jelly to reduce friction and get your boyfriend to be more gentle. You can't wear out your vagina ... (read in full...)
Guys: How do you forget your girls so easily?
Q. It's getting really hard to forget him, here i am, at 7 in the morning crying over him, yet again. not the first time i'll admit. it's been 4 months since i spoke to him, and i came on myspace just now (what i'm about to say is really stupid) and i ...
A. 18 August 2009: I don't think guys get over girls that quick but if they went around crying and depressed other guys would make fun of them so they have to pretend they're all macho and it doesn't matter but that doesn't mean they are not hurting.
The homepage... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheating on me and having girls send me messages
Q. I have boyfriend so he cheating on me, the worse thing that girls has my he send me sms and insult me tell me that he does'snt love me and that thing hurt me so bad and my boyfriend he still busy with this girl and i love him so much. What should I ...
A. 18 August 2009: Get some back bone and some self respect. How can you love such a nasty person? He's giving your number to his other girl. Disgusting!
Find a better guy.... (read in full...)
We broke up, but he still comes to my place for sex
Q. so my boyfriend and i broke up about two weeks ago.. but he still comes over my house once in a while and we have sex.. we know we still love each other but i dont think its rite wat we r doing.. wat do you guys think?!...
A. 18 August 2009: Stop having sex with him , find another guy and move on.
I don't know if he's using you because you're enjoying it too right? But do you want to have a relationship which iinvolves him coming over when he feels like it and you're his doormat?... (read in full...)
He seems insensitive - should I dump him?
Q. Hi - I have been with my boyfriend 3 years but I am worrying we are just not compatible because every now and then he says the most insensitive things. Just one example which plays on my mind and still upsets me was before Xmas my 92 year old ...
A. 18 August 2009: Dump him! Can you imagine what life would be like if you moved with him? Can you imagine how he would react if you were ill - he'd probably tell you your illnesss was ruining his 'plans' , or god forbid something happened another family member?
... (read in full...)
Did dad cheat on mom?
Q. I was browsing through my dad's phone and found a message from someone (lady) talking about a child that my dad isn't supporting. My parents have been married for 23 years and i've never heard anything about that child. I've never talked to anyone ...
A. 18 August 2009: Possibly. It's a tough situation. Maybe your mother doesn't even know and if she does I think it's unfair for them to keep it from you. He/She is your half-brother/sister after all.... (read in full...)
Is underage sex something you agree with?! I want opinions please!
Q. Ive decided to put myself out here after been severely infuriated by some 'adults' on this site who deem it appropriate for CHILDREN to be having sex from as young as 13! do you think its appropriate for a child of this age to be having sex?? they ...
A. 18 August 2009: All human beings are sexual. Sex has been around long before marriage or love or commited relationships.
Do I think it's right for a 13 year old to do it? No I don't. I think parents need to talk about sex with their kids and teach them that embr... (read in full...)
Married co-worker wants to take me to dinner and a show?
Q. Okay so I started interning at a newspaper after last month. A web designer guy stopped by the office once to meet my boss. Afterward he annoyed me for 30 minutes asking for advice about his mistress!!! He eventually left but he has been calling the ...
A. 18 August 2009: Just to add I don't know why the age says 41-50.
I'm 22.... (read in full...)
My First Time
Q. So your first times suppose to be special, right?. You dream about finding that one lad who will sweep you off your feet and make all your dreams come true? WRONG. I was 15, gulliable and young.So innocent.The only time i'd ever mentioned sex wa...
A. 18 August 2009: It saddens me that you say you loved hom, no you did't.
That word gets thrown around now all the time and has lost all meaning. Someday you'll fall in love and know what it is.
Sorry you ha such a bad experience though. Young women need to ta... (read in full...)
I have never actually kissed anybody, but I told her I had! Help!
Q. Hi there heres my situation: i really like this girl and we met through a mate and we have seen each other and like gone to the cinema and that like i think its about 5 times now and we are always texting each other and the other day she said she...
A. 18 August 2009: Tell her. When you are out together sit down somewhere and hold her hand and say 'you know the way I said I had kissed someone? Well that was a little lie because I've actually been waiting for the right girl and that's you.' That's way hotter than ... (read in full...)
Why didn't he kiss me then?
Q. This guy and I have been hanging out a lot and we are always flirting with each other. I am really attracted to him and I think he likes me too but I'm not sure, I know he is a really nice guy and a gentleman. Don't get me wrong, he isn't shy or ...
A. 18 August 2009: Make the first move , you said you were nervous so was he probably. There's obviously something there. Go for it , what's the worst that could happen?
And there's nothing wrong with shy guys by the way you say it like it's a disease.lol!... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to be angry with him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months, which was on my birthday. Which was two days ago. All he did for my birthday was give me a five dollar headscratcher, which I'm pretty sure he didn't even buy (his mom wanted one, and gave me money to ...
A. 18 August 2009: Drugs = bye, bye. I don't care if you can list 2,000 things you like about him , if you end up in the slammer because of his drugs you'll have all the time in the world to write lists.
Dump him now!... (read in full...)
Torn between family and fiancee...
Q. Dear Aunties, Lately I have been an emotional wreck. I am torn between being closer to my family and starting a family with my soon to be husband. Right now I am 22 and he is 28. We met 3 years ago, at that time I just moved from California and n...
A. 18 August 2009: I think you know the answer. You have to move back to Cali. You gave the relationship your all but you're not feeling fulfilled. Maybe he'll move with you and try and make it work. If he won't , that will just confirm that it's run it's course. ... (read in full...)
Do other ladies enjoy being 'fisted'?
Q. I have a very large viginia. So large, that my boyfriend has no trouble fisting me. Although I enjoy being fisted, I was wondering if other ladies are the same way. Also do they enjoy being fisted...
A. 18 August 2009: Personally, no. How does one have a large vagina though aren't they elastic!LOL! Anyway everyone is different sexually and whatever you like , go for it. Why not!
My former roomate back in college was bisexual and I believe she enjoyed it when her... (read in full...)
If you had a hot partner, would you still look at porn?
Q. I would really like to know from guys... If your girlfriend/partner/wife is like really hot,(And i mean not only you think so, but other guys as well!) do you still need to look at porn? Or is she enough?...
A. 18 August 2009: I'll tell you as a girl it has nothing to do with the partner, I watch porn and my boyfriend is a 6'3 180lb lifegaurd. Yum!
But I defy you to look at a picture/film of Charles Dera and not be turned on! And then you'll see how your man feels. ... (read in full...)
What is it about commitment that scares me, and how can I get past it?
Q. Right then, I have a major problem (well, it's major in my eyes...) Anyway, I'm seventeen and I have MAJOR commitment problems! A load of people find this surprising since I'm a girl, but I just hate being tied down! I've had four boyfriends since...
A. 18 August 2009: Your 17 , why would you want to commit. Have fun , like life. Do you really think those boys loved you and wanted to spend the rest of their lives with you? Of course not. In our culture the l-word is something we;re expected to say , especially... (read in full...)
Is it out of the question that I could be pregnant?
Q. Ok, im 19 and engaged to my boyfriend (21) we live together and have been together for 4 years, we have recently started trying for a baby, ti is what we both really want! we have been having unprotected sex ever other day for the past 2 months. ...
A. 18 August 2009: Could it be your mind, because you want to have a baby you are convincing yourself you're pregnant? As long as your doctors sees no health problems don't worry.
But you're young so make sure sure sure that you want a baby NOW. You guys have the... (read in full...)
He has a high sex drive and I don't!
Q. Help! My boyfriend has a very high sex drive and I don't. We have been together for nearly 5 years. Whenever he asks for sex and I say no he always speaks to me like a piece of crap or hardly speaks to me. I try the best I can but he doest ...
A. 18 August 2009: He sounds like a horrible person. Don't put up with this he clearly has no respect for you. Love is based on actions , not words and this case both his actions and words are disgusting. If he's your age 18-21 he clearly hasn't matured and think the ... (read in full...)
Is it odd for straight girl to watch gay men porn?
Q. Ok this is going to sound odd Im in my mid 20's and im not in the head place to be in a relationship right now so ive started to pleasure myself to porn (not alot but fairly frequently). I came across a gay porn site the other day and there was a ...
A. 18 August 2009: Nope I'm a woman and I like gay porn. 2 reasons
1 Straight porn is aimed at men and the camera focuses on the woman's body. Usually a stick thin body with fake boobs and often a big scar from the boob job - ewww!
2 The scenes can be degrading... (read in full...)
What can I do to not lose her?
Q. my girlfriend broke up with me last nite. she said that she needed some time to herself, we have been together for a year and a half and never argue. she has been under alot of pressure with exams for her job aswell as family life. i love her so ...
A. 18 August 2009: Give her space. Call her once a week tops. After a while ask her to meet for lunch/ a movie as friends to catch up. DON'T mention getting back together or put pressure on her. She may just need to prioritise her family right now, She may also i... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is he lying about watching porn?
Q. Should I believe my boyfriend claiming he doesn't watch porn? He claims he hasn't watched porn the entire 3 years we have been together. I do send him nude pictures and videos everyday but I still think he must be tired of looking at the same woman ...
A. 18 August 2009: Here's the thing . I'm a woman and I watch porn and look at pictures of hot men online. It has nothing to do with my partner or being attracted to him/ loving him at all. I just like looking at hot men. Maybe your boyfriend is telling the trut... (read in full...)
Sex is just awful for me! Help!
Q. im 16.. iv been to the docter i have no diseases or infections, me and my boyfriend have had sex over maby 30 times.. pretty much every time we have intercourse it hurts its like a irretated feeling an alittle burning sumtimes it hurts really bad an ...
A. 18 August 2009: Go to scarleteen.com for great advice. Get your boyfriend to be more gentle , use lubrication like KY Jelly. You're unlikely as a woman to orgasm from intercourse/fingering. You'll need clitoral stimulation. Oral sex is a great way! And play with... (read in full...)
Women my age pay me no attention! I only get young girls liking me!
Q. My problem is young girls like me, women my age pay me no attention.Hs age girls flirt with me all the time they tell me im cute, This girl was probably six was just staring at me one day i looked at her and she said i was pretty seriously. ...
A. 18 August 2009: Maybe you are an attractive guy but you just said you're not a nice person and maybe adult women can sense that. You also said you ask women out jokingly - not a good move. Maybe they think you're taking the piss , maybe you're being rude , mos... (read in full...)
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