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writes:It's getting really hard to forget him, here i am, at 7 in the morning crying over him, yet again. not the first time i'll admit. it's been 4 months since i spoke to him, and i came on myspace just now (what i'm about to say is really stupid) and i saw a comment from some girl he seems to have been talking to all night, this really hurt, as this was how me and him first started talking then it turned into more, it may seem cruel but, i really don't want to see him with anyone else, i dont wanan throw the 3 years away, why doesnt he feel the same? i'm really looking for a guy who's been through the same situation to answer this, guys, i guess what i'm really asking is, how is it so easy for you to forget your girls? i mean like, i see couples break up after a long long time, the girl ends up in heartbreak for months on end, the guy just brushes it off in a week and gets another girl, how is this done?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): Their weak and when upset jump into things quickly to move on while still being hurt, and could go back with the ex. And that's not bad, considering some guys stalk you and become dangerous. But some behaviours is where the mother hasn't knuckled down on teaching her son to respect women. If a guy brings a girl to his home overnight, a mother may allow this of her son and say what is that slut doing here. Instead of, and this is how you introduce her and treat her. I was living with my son who had a girlfriend and her friend fancied him too. She phoned my place and I told her off. He came back home and I told him off too. I told him at a young age, there is no mucking with other girls in certain ways. When his girlfriend came over, I guided him. When he had naked posters on the wall, I ripped them down. I stood no crap for my son treating any girl he was with without care. As a mother, I have been disrespected by other woman. It's not the sex, it's the individual.
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reader, Theguynextdoor  +, writes (18 August 2009):
Sadly, im a guy and i cant get over my ex :(
Sometimes i am fine.. when im with my friends or i pretend to be fine. Usually, guys just hide their feelings and pretend not to feel anything, but when they are kissing that girl a week after the breakup, all they are thinking about is you.
I know my ex already has so many guys after me, and i know shes over me already and that hurts. I think after a while, the only thing you can do is move on :(
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reader, jstdunno  +, writes (18 August 2009):
I don't think guys get over girls that quick but if they went around crying and depressed other guys would make fun of them so they have to pretend they're all macho and it doesn't matter but that doesn't mean they are not hurting.
The homepage of scarleteen.com has an article on boys dealing with a break-up. It might be helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): im not a guy so giving guyish views is something i cant do. But what i can do is tell you, that guys are just guys. People come into our lives for a reason, and if they go it means that the reason they came for and the lesson they were meant to teach you has been accomplished. Its time to live in the present, not thrive on the past. everything is temporary, and if he seems to have moved on so fast, it just proves that you deserve better, cos u are way more of a prize than he is. Think about it, life is too short to worry about things that arent in our hands. Agreed, some memories are just so beautiful that its hard to forget, but you have a long way to go in life, which means more memories to collect! why spend time thinking and about him so much that you cant get the opportunity to experience more? try keeping yourself occupied 24x7, hang around and joke around with friends, involve yourself in social service to make you happier about the small things in life, itl make you realse that life is much more than one guy. -zinz
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (18 August 2009):
 Have you actually met this guy hun? There are too many so called cyber relationships, that cause loads of heartache.
People go on these websites to meet, chat and have fun with as many people. That is the whole point of these site my dear.
You should go out with your friends into the real world and meet boys. As apose to spending hours upon hours chatting to someone who you don't know from Adam, he could be anyone. There are too many people who hide behind their PCs and roleplay who ever they wish, just to impress girls like you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): It took me two years to get over my ex, iI still thin about her every day and still miss her from time to time.
I used to have to stop my car to cry and then continue driving, but you know it was the best thing that happened to me becuase time showed that I could do better, and so can you but first you need to break up with him properly, delete his number, delete his messages, burn any cards or letters you got. delete him from myspace, bebo or facebook. Do NOT look at his profile again. He is your past.
Oh yeah and check out Kanye west Heartless because some people are just cold fish.
You will get thorugh this though so chin up. your worth it.
Oh yeah and itll drive him nuts to see you move on with your life .
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