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writes:Should I believe my boyfriend claiming he doesn't watch porn? He claims he hasn't watched porn the entire 3 years we have been together. I do send him nude pictures and videos everyday but I still think he must be tired of looking at the same woman over and over by herself. What do you think, is he lying?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't have a problem with porn, I have a problem with lying. Also, I don't like to look at anybody else because I know he's the one.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (18 August 2009):
 I find it very hard to believe that in the three years you have been with this guy, you haven't found any guy ever attractive other than him. And if that is the case, I think you need to unwind a little and become a tiny bit less obsessed with this guy. Let him breathe. He needs space sometimes and so do you. It's great to love someone, but it's a little unhealthy when they are your entire world.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): dear friend.
a guy watching porn, as we all know, is a very natural thing. you shouldnt be such a kiss up ... leave him alone if you're sure he loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI honestly never look at other men besides my partner.
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reader, jstdunno +, writes (18 August 2009):
Here's the thing . I'm a woman and I watch porn and look at pictures of hot men online. It has nothing to do with my partner or being attracted to him/ loving him at all. I just like looking at hot men.Maybe your boyfriend is telling the truth , maybe he's telling a 'lie' because he knows you'd lose the plot if you thought he was smeaking a look at Megan Fox pictures. You seem very insecure sending him pictures/videos everyday. How do you think men survived before the internet? Come on . learn to love yourself and trust that your love is enough and you don't need to be sending constant videos. There's more to life than worrying 24/7 about a man even if he is the man you love. Is he sending you videos every day because he's afraid you'll get a glimse of Brad Pitt's package online and leave him. No , work on your self esteem.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (18 August 2009):
 hes probably watching porn thats what some men and some women do. its not that hes tired of you most people loooove pizza but they dont mind having a hamburger now and then. if its not affecting your relationship besides your constant worry whats the problem.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (18 August 2009):
Where is the evidence that he's lying? Why are you even worried about if he's watching porn or not? Have you ever talked about porn with him? What is it exactly that makes you feel uncomfortable about it? I'm sorry to break it to you but all men look at other women from time to time. Just like all women look at other men from time to time. You can't ignore something or someone that is attractive. You just sometimes have to look. You two have been together for three years. Is porn something that you are willing to fight about? So what if he has been looking at porn.Women just don't seem to understand what porn does for men. It's just something that is visual for them to get off. It isn't like they are making some type of romantic connection with these women on their computer screen. They like to be stimulated so they can get off. He probably uses your pictures often, but hey. Sometimes variety is nice too. Different angles, different parts, different motions. This isn't about him wanting to screw around with another girl, he is just watching sex. It's like women and their romance novels. Not a big deal. He watches it, enjoys it for a few seconds, and forgets it.This is ASSUMING that he's even watching porn in the first place. Granted it's rather common for guys to watch porn, and a lot do lie to their significant others about watching it to avoid a pointless argument. That's why it is just better to be up front and accepting of whether he watches it or not. If he does, then you have to decide whether you can deal with it, because he isn't going to stop for you. Porn is a pretty hard habit to break. But if you think you can get over the fact that he watches porn and maybe be able to understand it, maybe you should talk to him? It doesn't sound like you have much evidence of him watching it though. So it could be all in your head.
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