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... Send *orne a private message | | | *orne's profile:What qualifies me to help people? Probably nothing. I have more life experience than one my age should have though. I've worked just about every job known to man at some point, and been involved in both good and bad relationships. I'm no saint and I have a different perspective than most here will probably have.
My relationship status is I have a live-in girlfriend who hopefully will become my wife later this year. At least, that's the plan. I guess that makes her a fiance, doesn't it? Grin.
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Can trust be prepared in a short time?
Q. My fiance has lied to me before. The first time, I went away out of town on business and she secretly met up with her Ex after midnight near her house. I was texting her throughout that night and wondering why she didn't reply. So when I came back ...
A. 12 March 2009: I'm not sure what the divorce rate is in America right now, but it's fairly high. There are good reasons for that. Life throws enough crap at you over the years to make marriage difficult even when you start it with someone on a solid basis. Trust ... (read in full...)
Friend's b/f hits on me right while she is there!
Q. My friend is dating this guy. I knew him before they were dating but I knew her a few more years then him. Anyways, he is always complimenting me, calling me hot, calling me cute. You get the picture. I usually just ignore this. I have a boyfrie...
A. 11 March 2009: Having been through the same sort of thing, I have little patience for it. Back at the time it happened, I was nice, polite, didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings and it ended up causing me grief with my own girlfriend.
I'll still be polite. ... (read in full...)
I get the feeling that she wants a life I can't provide.
Q. I am in mymid twenties living with a woman that i love dearly and her son of 4. we have been together for 2 years but i get the feeling that she is seeking a life that i can not provide. i am not sure if this is reaction to the idea of settling down ...
A. 19 February 2009: Ya know, a good part of any relationship is talking. When you don't talk, a good part of it will be making assumptions that may be wrong as often, if not more so, than they are right. You don't give much information on what the "life you can't ... (read in full...)
I got fired because I'm pregnant!
Q. I'm 5 mouths pregnant and recently got fired because of it (I was a waiter). My ex-boss always had it out for me since day one said they needed more "skinner" waitress who could got more tips (so he could pay them less). When I told my husband about ...
A. 18 February 2009: The EEOC would probably handle this case as well. In fact, some lawyers will want you to go through them anyway since their decision will make their case much, much easier if that decision is in your favor.
Bottom line though, get your ducks in... (read in full...)
Is it OK to sleep with another man's wife?
Q. Is it o.k to sleep with another mans wife. I have a married wowan friend at work who has expressed a wish to sleep with me, she has given me details of her marriage woe's etc. I admit she is very attractive. My ex wife cheated on me with my best ...
A. 4 February 2009: There's a simple answer to this question. Was it ok with you for the other man to sleep with your ex-wife? You're asking a question to which you already know the answer. And it has nothing to do with faith or religion. I'm not one to be a mora... (read in full...)
Open relationship backfired! Can we save our marriage or is it me?
Q. Is my marriage over? I feel so insecure he is with me for the wrong reasons. Here goes, I have been married for 10yrs and with my husband for 13yrs. Our sex life goes through cycles, over 2 years ago it was bad I admit, once every 6 weeks. We tri...
A. 3 February 2009: The swinging lifestyle is full of wrecked marriages and wrecked relationships. That doesn't mean its impossible. It just means it takes exceptional people who have a bottom line understanding of what's right for them, who is important to them, and a ... (read in full...)
We're breaking up, getting together over and over..what is wrong with her?
Q. Been with her for a 1 1/2 years. She has broken up with me at least 12 times. I leave her alone and she comes crawling back, calling, texting, emailing, until I agree to see her. We end up back together everytime. Then when we are back together she ...
A. 21 January 2009: The fact that insecurity is at work here is apparent. What isn't apparent is whether other things are as well. Her behavior is suggestive of something more than just jealousy or insecurity. You know the cycle by now. Stop it in it's tracks. Tell her ... (read in full...)
Fighting a lot... Honestly I rather sleep on the lumpy couch than be in the same bed as her.
Q. Me and my wife have been fighting a lot lately. We normally fight about my work hours. She says I'm not spreading enough with her. I usually get up at 5:00am and won't get home until 8:00pm (I actually get off at 5:00 but I like to work over time) ...
A. 17 January 2009: Figure out what's more important to you, your wife or your bar. I'm not one to go off on you about drinking, coming home drunk, or treating your wife like she's second to the drink - which it sounds like she is. There's no reason to because unless ... (read in full...)
Serial cheater?
Q. My question is this..Is the following characteristic of a serial cheater? A man whose cell phone goes dead always over night and usually for 8-12 hours? He says he loves you but needs time to figure out why he is not happy.... talks to girls...
A. 17 January 2009: Basic advice when dealing with someone you suspect of cheating is to never confront them until you are sure. Why? Because if you go off half cocked where all of it is based upon suspicion and maybe a good bit of your own insecurity, you lose either ... (read in full...)
Getting hurt/bruised during sex
Q. ok so my boyfriend and i just moved in together and on the second night i come home and he's standing there naked and wanted to have sex. I really not the kind of person who has sex with a person that fast(we've only known each other six months) and ...
A. 16 January 2009: There are.. call them fetishes for those who like and engage in rough sex. Could be your guy is one of that mindset whether he realizes there's a lifestyle built around it or not. That doesn't mean you have to accept it or be part of it. Generally ... (read in full...)
Pro life vs Pro choice?
Q. So I've been dating a wonderful woman for about 7 months. We met on a popular dating site back in May. I kept it cool for the first few weeks, as I was casually seeing a couple of other people at the time. I'm in my early 40's, so I've been ...
A. 16 January 2009: And so you highlight probably the biggest dividing social issue in the country. Those who want to punch the others in the face for eliminating their own progeny.
It's not your business. Whatever decision was made at that point was neither ... (read in full...)
Experience with anal sex please give me input
Q. I've been in a relationship with a man for about two years now. We both have children and our separate places. Our relationship is heading toward marriage so there are no insecurities. Although how sex life appears to be wonderful, a whi...
A. 15 January 2009: I'll give you a male perspective on this subject, even though you might not want one. My girlfriend/future wife/fiance (lol) hates it. She will do it and orgasms during it, but hates it. In talking to her, it's not the act she hates. In fact, ... (read in full...)
She really is an incredible girl despite a few "quirks" but I don't "want" to end it by being confrontational.
Q. I could really use some advice. I'm seeing a girl, a very incredible girl who's almost changed my life. I'll admit it is an open relationship, but we've always been honest with each other. So naturally, we've developed a great amount of trust. ...
A. 14 January 2009: Liars lie. Cheaters cheat. It's a bottom line kind of thing until they reach a point where those activities no longer appeal to them. For some it's fairly early in life. For some it never ends. Put it behind you now, ignore it, you'll be asking ... (read in full...)
Why do I still want contact with him
Q. I am very unhappy in my marriage of 14 years and have three gorgeous children. I recently met another man who is in the same position as me married with three kids... do u think I should break it off with him as he wants just sex and i need some ...
A. 14 January 2009: Its easy. That's why. You can engage in the emotional/sexual play then go back home to life. Kind of like stepping into a fairy tale for a bit before returning to reality. I'm not judging. I'm experienced. You can step outside the weary day to day... (read in full...)
I spy on my mother and think I'm going to advance on her
Q. I know this probably isn't normal behaviour so I am hoping someone will assure me it is fairly common. See, although I have a girlfriend and have had a few girlfriends down the years, I cant help feeling sexually attracted to my mother. Every ...
A. 14 January 2009: Honestly? See a therapist cause its not common and not healthy. You're also describing rape. There is no other word for it when you say you're not going to take no for an answer.
This is genuine input. ... (read in full...)
Why does my b/f let his ex control him?
Q. I will give you abit of background and then ask my question at the end; My boyfriend 32yrs and myself 28yrs have been together for 1.5yrs (we dont live together). We both have daughters, my child 9yrs lives with me (lone parent since my daughte...
A. 14 January 2009: He let's her control things because he still feels for her in some way. It may not be love, but if it seems like there's guilt hanging around, there's probably a reason for that. Guilt is a powerful feeling that can shape how one acts, how one ... (read in full...)
She's telling me things about her past in small doses..do I tell her just to spill it all ?
Q. This isn't a difficult story but it does take some explaining. I met a woman a little over a year ago. This was online, not in real life. We talked for about 6 weeks and decided to meet. Things went very well. From the start they did. We had much in ...
A. 14 January 2009: Ok, I listened. I sat down and talked to her. Basically what I said was she could talk about anything, any time she wanted to, but if there were any more secrets, now was the time to tell them cause unless she was an axe-murderess, dog or child ... (read in full...)
She's telling me things about her past in small doses..do I tell her just to spill it all ?
Q. This isn't a difficult story but it does take some explaining. I met a woman a little over a year ago. This was online, not in real life. We talked for about 6 weeks and decided to meet. Things went very well. From the start they did. We had much in ...
A. 14 January 2009: I've already made the decision to stay with her. About the only way this girl can get rid of me is tell me she doesn't want this relationship. Otherwise I'm sticking with her through thick and thin.
It just.. affects me for a while you know. No... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend horny when I'm publicly with him? Where do I touch him without taking any clothes off?
Q. How do I get my boyfriend horny when I'm publicly with him? Where do I touch him without taking any clothes off?...
A. 13 January 2009: How? Oh come on. Use some imagination. Clothes are good things. If you have to take off clothes to get someone worked up, you're missing the most erotic organ in the body, which is the mind. Plan a date. Simple one. Tell him dinner and movie... (read in full...)
I feel so completely insecure sexually with her now, and suspicious of her reasons of being with me.
Q. Dear everyone. I think I am at a about to end my relationship with my girlfriend, but I really wish I could just get over this problem instead. I have become uncontrollably jealous and insecure in this relationship and regardless of what it takes, ...
A. 13 January 2009: A sexual history is a fact of life in today's society for many people. Having one doesn't make a person bad nor make your relationship bad. Believe it or not, there are men who get off on the things you're describing. There's a whole community of ... (read in full...)
She used to be a prostitute!! I just found out and I'm trying to get past it...
Q. Hi Everybody, I have been with my girlfriend for almost two years now. We have been long distance for one year. I just proposed to her a month ago and we are happily engaged. However, a few days ago, she told me that to pay for school, she had ...
A. 13 January 2009: You and me both guy. Same conversation almost this past weekend. It wasn't school or books that was the driving reason, but the results were about the same. How I feel about it.. sexual history doesn't bother me. We all have some of it. What matt... (read in full...)
He never loved me and only using me
Q. I am married but had an intense soul connection with someone three years ago. My relationship with my husband is stagnant and he is never available for me, thus, my souls thirst for emotional and spiritual attention and connection. I used to ...
A. 13 January 2009: He may be using you, but you're letting him.
There are two people in this equation, not just one. You cave to his demands? You sound like a sexual submissive. Maybe you are and maybe you're not, but what you are doing is allowing him to use you.... (read in full...)
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