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writes:I know this probably isn't normal behaviour so I am hoping someone will assure me it is fairly common. See, although I have a girlfriend and have had a few girlfriends down the years, I cant help feeling sexually attracted to my mother. Every opportunity I can, I spy on her in the bath, the shower and when she gets dressed/ undressed. This is quite easy to do as we tend to be open regarding nudity although obviously, we dont flaunt it. See, I feel Im gonna make an advance on her pretty soon and I wont take no for an answer. I masturbate all the time with her in mind and when I have sex with my girl I think of mum and I cum in seconds. Anyone experience the same or will I get over it. Ive felt this way for four years now. Please dont condem me as just a nutcase as I genuinely need input here. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): There's only one way to make you react:Imagine you guys have sex, and she ends up pregnant. Your son/daughter would be your brother/sister.Creepy huh?But you're not weird at all: it's called the Oedipus Complex, what you are going through. It is fairly known, I'm impressed none of you have heard of it:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oedipus_complexIt wouldn't exist if it wasn't popular amongst the population, so don't feel alien-ish.
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reader, Too Sensitive  +, writes (15 January 2009):
I am glad to read that you would not force yourself upon your mother as we all interpreted. What you share is shocking. But, don't think of yourself as a f*ing monster, as this would be self-defeating. Do think of yourself as someone who needs serious professional help, before you do something you will ultimately regret for many reasons.
You are suffering from some deep-rooted psychological issues in my opinion - and I don't know what they are, as I am not a trained professional - though by far you are not the only one, rest assured. I've read other posts on this board which have alluded to similar situations, disturbing as they are. That being said, what you are thinking is not common, nor is it normal. At least you realize that part.
Not trying to insult you by any means, but being the mother of 2 boys myself, I would be absolutely devastated if one of them were to make a sexual advance toward me.
I am also glad you've stated you will seek professional help. Good luck to you. And be completely honest with your therapist, as you have been with us here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): Oh wow - I didnt think I was that abnormal, you all got me thinking now that im a fucking monster , when I said I wouldnt take no for an answer, i meant I would seduce her, cajole her and sweet talk her, not use physical force. Yes i know and realise my feelings arnt "normal" but then, who truthfully talks about these things? Am I the only one? I bet NOT. okay, I will take steps to seek professional help but in every other aspect of my life, I think im normal. Regular job, girlfriend, drink with a couple mates once a week etc. Anyway, however I try to get my way with my mum and whatever the result, I know if she didnt like it, she would forgive me, shes lovely like that. I wouldnt hurt her physically, I cant answer about mentally.
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reader, love850 +, writes (14 January 2009):
Um I was very shocked to have just read this. I agree with everyone on seeking professional help. Especially if u can actually nut from thinking of ur mom. I used to hate joking around as a kid talking about ur parents doing it. Are u the only child? Because maybe since your mom showed you a lot of attention and love you have twisted around to some sick sexual thing. No it is not normal for anyone to be attracted to their mom or any other family member.Please seek help immediately before u ruin ur mom's life and the rest of ur family! I'll be praying for you!
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reader, Isabel101 +, writes (14 January 2009):
Ithink you have serious issues snd need help. This is not normal behavior it is called incest. Also what is with not taking no for an answer, that is called rape. Is this question for real? If so, get some help befor you end up hurting others and end up in jail
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): The way you feel is wrong. You are talking about making a pass at your mother and if she turns you down then literally forcing yourself on her!!
You need to get out of the house by any means necessary and away from your mother.
This woman carried you for 9 months and has cared for you and protected you since you were born.
Seek help ASAP by talking to a doctor or psychologist who may be able to help you understand why you feel this way.
There must be some underlying reason why you feel the way you do.
As a mother of 2 sons myself, i ask you PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT make any kind of sexual advance on your mother as it would more than likely destroy her!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): "Im gonna make an advance on her pretty soon and I wont take no for an answer"
What do you mean by that? so if your own mother says no then your rape her? You are way too old to be living at home, you are mentally disturbed and need help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): I think your thoughts, at your age (the post states you are 26-29 years old) are not right at all and whilst you would have loving feelings towards your mother you should not be consumed by sexual desire. Please get professional help from a family therapist or if you do not wish to see someone in person contact a national helpline. If you make sexual advances to a woman (any woman) and they are unwanted or you cause distress this can be considered at best sexual harrassment or at worst assault so I would remove yourself from living with your mother before anything more serious happens. I doubt she has the same feelings for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): ok it isa little strange, but i think maybe you should read a little about freud. he was a psychologist and most his work was centred around sexual feelings etc, it may help you to understand how and why you are feeling this way. i really dont think making a move on your mum is a very good idea, please read a little on freud although it is a little complex at times it does make sense in the end.hope this helps but i think you need to seek professional help asap
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reader, Horne +, writes (14 January 2009):
Honestly? See a therapist cause its not common and not healthy. You're also describing rape. There is no other word for it when you say you're not going to take no for an answer.
This is genuine input.
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