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writes:Okay, I don't think I'm weird for this, but I just wonder why I act in the way where, I shut everybody out?When it comes to friends- I joke with everyone, and I have a lot of them, and I have a few I can even say are my best friends. And I tell them everything that's going on in my life...but I never tell them how I FEEL about what's going on.. and I always manage to talk them into changing the conversation over to them and what they're dealing with, which is why so many come to talk to me about their problems or "situations".When it comes to family- I treat them in a less familiar way than I treat my friends. I don't know, I love all of my family, but the only one I really tell it to is my mom.When it comes to boys- So a boy could start off flirting with me, right? Within three days, he'll stop because I give off very strong friend vibes.. and I usually end up doing that to every boy, even if I at first liked him.. and I don't put myself out there, I REFUSE to even flirt or LOOK for a boyfriend, because I just feel, it's not important.So my question is, why am I so shut off from everyone? Why am I not as ease with being vulnerable to someone, even family?
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reader, IKnowWhatIWanTButDoThey +, writes (4 January 2011):
IKnowWhatIWanTButDoThey is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank all of you for replying. I understand, and sort of agree with a lot of your answers to my questions.
To Mr. "Strongfp" that thing about your girlfriend actually did help me out a little bit, and I understood everything you meant. Thanks a lot, for saying it in a way which describes sort of how I feel. I had asked mainly because, how you said your girlfriend didn't really get it until she was a little older, I just wanted to know if this was just a "teenage thing" or if this was something that I could possibly be going through forever, if I didn't think about it...
And to Dreamer1988, aha, thanks to you to. I'm 14 actually, and your answer helped me also. Because for some strange reason I always think that I am the only "weirdo" who thinks about the type of things that I do... anyways, thanks! =]
And to the Anonymous dude, yeeeah, I used to try diaries, but unfortunately privacy was and never is respected in my household. So for the meantime, I usually just think about it in my head, y'know? Like I don't write it down, but I say what I would if I DID. =D ...And, yeah, I totally agree with you. SO not ready for a boyfriend...
And uh, yeah, I have considered many many many times that boys do not want me in "that way", and often I am right,but, you know, sometimes they just make it so blatantly obvious, or sometimes they'll just be blunt about it. So yeah, basically those are the times I meant.
Anyways, thanks everybody, and I appreciate the responses! =]
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reader, Dreamer1988 +, writes (3 January 2011):
 First of all, you are *only* 13-15. You haven't even begun your life yet, no offense. You are about to be going through a lot of changes, and it is normal to feel that way. Think about it, you have been in this world for only 13 years. There are people who have lived up to 70, and have gone through everything. That can be you someday, but just be patient. You will figure out everything when it comes. Trust me, you are about to find out more about yourself, and it's going to be fun/exciting. Your friends and family obviously care about you; let them hold you up as you go through this period. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): if you dont express your feeling it can cause a break down i suggest that you write a diary expressing your feelings.
from once your not being rude to them there isnt really a bad thing. try to talk to your mom more about your feelings.
and please dont take this the wrong way but have you ever considerd that maybe boys dont appeal to you in that way.
or maybe your not ready for a boyfriend yet.x
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